Teaching Children the Power of Resilience Real Talk With Susan & Kristina

In this episode of Real Talk, KJK Student Defense Attorneys Susan Stone and Kristina Supler are joined by Dr. Suzanne Schneps, a 30-year clinical psychologist who works with children, their parents and family units.  Topics that they discuss are related to resilience in children.  The conversation includes the relationship between resilience and success, how parents can teach kids resilience without over-parenting, and tips to model resilience for children to see and emulate.
Show Notes:
(03:05) How Dr. Schnep Defines Resilience
(05:06)  How To Really Define Success
(05:57)  Is Being Resilient Linked To Success?
(06:58)  Are Kids Struggling More These Days Than In Previous Generations?
(10:31)  How Parents Can Build Resilience Into Children
(12:54)  Parents and Kids:  Collaborating Versus Setting Non-Negotiable
(15:17)  Knowing When to Protect Your Child Versus Letting Them Find Their Own Way
(18:05)  The Difference Between Your Child Being Bullied versus Not Just Being Liked
(20:41)  How Educators Can Handle Bullying Or Mean Comments In Class
(21:41)  A Great Example of Mediation Between Students in Conflict
(24:49)  Resilience for Kids and Dealing with Grief of the Death of a Loved One
(27:04)  What it Means to a Child When Parents Apologize For Their Behavior
(29:11)  When Is It Ok to Hold Back From Kids
(31:40)  How to Talk To Kids About Covid (RSV)?
(34:19)  Set the Example: Model Resilience For Your Kids


Susan Stone: Today's topic is really a very fundamental topic because as everyone knows, Kristine and I focus on helping students when they're in a crisis situation. But long after Kristina and I are able to help the student out of the. We hear back from parents and some kids bounce back and lead and go on to do better.
Susan Stone: And some kids, the crisis defines them and it leads us to the question of resilience. So we wanted to have a podcast focused on that very topic because Kristina and I only see a small snippet of the crisis. We don't know the student before. And unless someone reaches back out to us, we don't know the after.
Susan Stone: So our guest is really the expert on the topic.
Kristina Supler: We're pleased today to be joined by Suzanne Schneps, who is a clinical psychologist in Cleveland, Ohio, who's been practicing for over 30 years. She works with children's parents and family units. Prior to her clinical work, Dr. Schneps' training, uh, was as an elementary school teacher and also a special education, uh, worker.
Kristina Supler: She worked with children with cognitive challenges, learning differences, and a variety of mental health issues as well. This experience really informs Dr. Schneps' work with children and gives her a unique understanding of how academic and school issues impact a child's self-concept and overall wellbeing.
Kristina Supler: Dr. Schnapps is just the best.
Susan Stone: I would have to agree and I'll have to throw in. This is really scary. I met Dr. Schneps over 25 years ago already. Wow. Yeah. She is a consultant at my um, daughter's school, which is Hathaway Brown and All Girl School, and she really. Made a big impact on creating an environment for resilience.
Susan Stone: So we have maintained our relationship all these years. And when you say she is the best, The best, but I also say her daughter, who is a psychologist, also the best, , also the best. So can we give a shout out that not only are you great working with students, but you raised one heck of a daughter in that Jenny Wolinsky?
Dr. Suzanne Schneps: You know, I don't know whether I can handle all these positives. Ladies, . 
Kristina Supler: Well, welcome. We're happy to have you today. Thanks for joining us. 
Susan Stone: So before we launch into a big discussion on resilience, Dr. Schnapps, can you define the term so we're all on the same page? What we're really talking about? . 
Dr. Suzanne Schneps: Well, well, well, Susan, I think you gave a good way