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When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.

The Break Up Break Down Pionaire Podcasting

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.5 • 323 Ratings

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.

    Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)

    Break Down Bonus: How do I leave a manipulative relationship? w/ Vernique Esther, LMSW (Replay)

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    Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary. 
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    Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/
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    The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/
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    Timestamps:
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    (00:00): Introducing Vernique
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    (00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?
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    (04:06): Why do people manipulate?
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    (07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?
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    (09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?
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    (12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?
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    (14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?
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    (15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?
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    (18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?
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    (20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?
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    (23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?
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    [CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]
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    • 28 min
    When she had an affair with their boss.... - S3Replay

    When she had an affair with their boss.... - S3Replay

    This week we're bringing awareness to My Sister's House in Charleston, SC: https://www.mysistershouse.org/give
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    This episode originally aired on January 31, 2023
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    Timestamps:
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    (00:00): Episode Intro
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    (05:26): Episode intro/her first marriage
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    (06:57): Introducing Anthony (her second husband)
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    (10:17): Introducing the The Boss (the third husband)
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    (11:27): The Affair
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    (13:29): Her second divorce
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    (17:01): When her 3rd marriage/relationship started going downhill 
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    (20:46): When she started to realize this marriage was unhealthy
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    (25:32): Reconnecting with Anthony
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    (33:23): When she finally decided to leave The Boss
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    (34:29): Reflecting on these relationships
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    (40:51): Teaser
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    • 43 min
    Break Down Bonus: Getting over the person you thought you'd marry w/ ExCoworker Justin

    Break Down Bonus: Getting over the person you thought you'd marry w/ ExCoworker Justin

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    When he broke up with her on their wedding day....

    When he broke up with her on their wedding day....

    On your wedding day, the last thing you're expecting is for your fiancee to walk in and cancel on you. Like, could we not have had this conversation two years ago?! This ex-bride says that's exactly what happened to her. After she attended her wedding (alone) she thought that was the end, but a few months later she'd get a call from him that would send her spiraling.
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    This week we're raising awareness for Coburn Place in Indianapolis: https://coburnplace.org/
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    Timestamps:
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    (00:00): Episode Intro
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    (03:01): How they met
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    (06:56): The start of their major problems
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    (20:58): When calls off their engagement
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    (28:29): Attending her wedding alone
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    (33:31): The calls she got from him after their engagement ended
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    (39:40): Reflecting/advice
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    (49:27): Teaser
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    • 52 min
    Break Down Bonus: Protecting your mental health in casual relationships w/ Jessica Hutchison

    Break Down Bonus: Protecting your mental health in casual relationships w/ Jessica Hutchison

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    National Domestic Violence Support: https://www.thehotline.org/
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    What proof do you need for a protective order?:https://www.findlaw.com/legalblogs/law-and-life/what-proof-do-you-need-to-get-a-restraining-order/
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    When a secret IG account exposed his past....

    When a secret IG account exposed his past....

    Imagine losing your virginity to your new boo and finding out he has an arrest record the next day. Way to burst the post-coital bliss. Do you look past your new man's history or stick by him and hope he's changed? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.
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    This week we're raising awareness for Journey in Cleveland, OH: https://www.journeyneo.org/
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    Timestamps:
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    (00:00): Episode Intro
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    (03:27): How they met
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    (08:10): When she started to learn about his past
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    (11:20): When their relationship started to deteriorate
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    (17:02): The secret IG account that explained what happened with his ex
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    (20:28): Reflecting on the experience/advice
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    (28:29): Teaser
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    • 31 min

Customer Reviews

4.5 out of 5
323 Ratings

323 Ratings

CC5XO ,

Ads

I LOVE the show and Abby, but recently the ads have started in the middle of a word or between words that go together. For example when Abby is introducing the show blah blah blah breakup ***AD*** breakdown. It’s a little strange and jarring, but I still love and appreciate everything Abby does with the show

Amber Smiles ,

A-MAZING!!!! SO MUCH DRAMA!!

The stories that are shared on this podcast are insane! I was sad I was single until I heard these stories LOL! I’m okay with being single now lol! Great podcast! Super entertaining and every episode is a jaw dropper!!!! I am here for all this drama!!

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Love this Podcast but

I listen every Tuesday, I really love this podcast! But there have been so many replays this year. Which can be frustrating for long time listeners who remember the stories in detail. Will continue to listen and enjoy new eps of course.

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