Love At Home Hannah Coles

What kind of communicator are you? Do you engage in debating with your partner or are you open to dialogue? In this episode, I discuss the importance of knowing what kind of communication is at play and how it helps or hinders your ability to create LOVE AT HOME. Join me! 

When we think in terms of percentages we end up creating a mindset of score keeping and tallying. When we think, "I'm spent. I'm only operating at 60% capacity, and my spouse needs to pick up the slack and give the other 40%," we inadvertently create a checklist and a quick way to disappointment. This is not to say that your spouse won't pick up the slack - it's the idea that you think they "should." These "shoulds" are wreaking havoc on your relationship and a sure fire way to create resentment at home rather than LOVE AT HOME. Marriage is NOT 50/50. Tune in to this episode to hear part two and learn a healthier approach to your marriage. 

It might sound nice that marriage should be 50/50, where each partner gives an equal amount, but in reality, it becomes quite problematic. The idea of "equal" means that one or both parties are doing a bit of score keeping and tallying who is doing what or doing more and noticing the other isn't "keeping up". This kind of mindset is a recipe for RESENTMENT. In this episode, I introduce the resentment cycle and how it's so poisonous in our relationships, what to do instead, and how you can create more LOVE AT HOME. Join me, Hannah Coles, LDS Life Coach, and let's dive in!

There is some misguided marriage advice about needing your spouse to fill all your needs. You've probably heard some like, write out a list of what you need from your spouse and give it to them. And on one hand, the list isn't a bad idea - it can be helpful and productive understanding and being aware of what your needs actually are but it's problematic asking your spouse to fill them. On one hand, it puts you in a risky position - while you're waiting for them to fill your needs, you're stuck. You can't feel how you want to untiil they show up differently... and cue anxiety  - because, what if they don't? In this episode, I share what to do and what to drop to create LOVE AT HOME. Tune in! 

Marriage is a unique relationship. The quality of your marriage impacts everything and everyone around you. It is the biggest source of so much joy and happiness in life and can also be the source of so much loneliness, pain, and sorrow. I want to help you create genuine LOVE at HOME by working on the core relationship first - your marriage. So whether you come solo or with your spouse, you will walk away from today's episode with tools to help you create a deeper, more connected, loving relationship.