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Welcome to the Great Job! Podcast, the show that reminds you that as a parent or caretaker, you're doing just that – a great job. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practices, and strategies related to topics like building boundaries, understanding different parenting styles, approaching difficult conversations with your kids, and so much more.

Your hosts, Emily and Dan Mall have been together for over twenty years and have spent the last twelve raising their two daughters. They believe everyone deserves a non-judgmental space to show up as themselves, share, make mistakes, and grow, and they're here to help you set up the best future possible for your kids and family.

Join them for weekly episodes curated for intentionally raising amazing humans.

Keep up to date with Emily and Dan, the podcast, and more at greatjob.kids.

The Great Job! Podcast Dan Mall and Emily Mall

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 4 Ratings

Welcome to the Great Job! Podcast, the show that reminds you that as a parent or caretaker, you're doing just that – a great job. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practices, and strategies related to topics like building boundaries, understanding different parenting styles, approaching difficult conversations with your kids, and so much more.

Your hosts, Emily and Dan Mall have been together for over twenty years and have spent the last twelve raising their two daughters. They believe everyone deserves a non-judgmental space to show up as themselves, share, make mistakes, and grow, and they're here to help you set up the best future possible for your kids and family.

Join them for weekly episodes curated for intentionally raising amazing humans.

Keep up to date with Emily and Dan, the podcast, and more at greatjob.kids.

    9. Kids and Tech

    9. Kids and Tech

    Emily and Dan discuss tech boundaries, modeling good device behavior, internet safety for kids, and more in this season’s final episode.
    Social media, cell phones, and all things electronic couldn’t be more important to pivotal children and teens. In this final episode of the season, Emily and Dan unpack today’s issues around tech and kids. 
    Most parents give their children iPads to entertain or educate them while they are busy, but at what point does the device become the babysitter or crutch and your child addicted to the screen? Emily and Dan’s children currently have flip phones, not iPhones, and iPads and they go into why. 
    As parents, we also need to look at our own tech boundaries to see how we are modeling our electronic relationships. Most people aren’t honest with themselves about screen usage and Emily and Dan offer suggestions for modeling good device behavior with your kids. 
    Internet safety for kids on social media and apps has never been more important. Emily and Dan discuss a controversial answer to this problem, that kids do not deserve the right to privacy, where they each land on the issue, and how exchanging privacy builds trust. They then discuss how to establish ways for kids to practice privacy.  
    Ultimately being clear, setting expectations and guidelines around the devices is the best way to create tech boundaries. Dan wraps up by offering great mindset shifts around how we approach phones, both in terms of their immense power and possibilities and the destruction they can cause.
    Episode Outline:
    (03:18) Modern kid phone problems
    (08:27) What gets measured gets managed
    (18:15) Internet safety and the right to privacy
    (22:09) Installing tech boundaries, expectations, and guidelines
    (28:05) Is it the parents or the tech company’s job to keep kids safe?
    (39:18) Building skills to interact digitally 
    (40:54) Pros and cons of the current generation’s technology
    (46:10) Do this before giving a kid a device
    (51:00) First season wrap up
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
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    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of what’s worked and hasn’t for parents and caregivers, who, like us, struggle with raising amazing humans.

    • 54 min
    8. Habits and Goal Setting

    8. Habits and Goal Setting

    In this episode, Emily and Dan break down goal-setting and habit-building for families. For many parents, the beginning of the new school year can feel more monumental than the new year, so they recommend focusing on intentional goals and habit-building over resolutions.  
    Emily and Dan emphasize that successful habits are rooted in identifying a clear destination. Drawing from his experience assisting corporate teams, Dan shares three goal-setting strategies that can be seamlessly adapted to family dynamics. Other business tools, like the 10-year strategy, can also be used to craft a visionary roadmap for your family's future.
    Identifying that goal in the first place may feel difficult, however. Knowing if you tend towards being a visionary or implementer can be helpful. Emily and Dan offer examples of each and then give practical suggestions to help each type improve their ability to identify goals.
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    Episode Outline:
    (03:16) Favoring habits and goal setting over New Year’s resolutions 
    (05:40) Emily and Dan’s habits
    (09:14) Better boundaries around technology and scheduling
    (16:13) Destination planning + goal setting
    (24:42) Visionaries and implementers
    Resources Referenced:
    When by Daniel Pink
    Greenlight family banking app
    The Vision Driven Leader by Michael Hyatt
    Traction by Gino Wickman
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
    Great Job! Website
    Great Job! Twitter 
    Great Job! Facebook 
    Great Job! LinkedIn 
    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of what’s worked and hasn’t for parents and caregivers, who, like us, struggle with raising amazing humans.

    • 31 min
    7. Boundaries, Part 2

    7. Boundaries, Part 2

    Emily and Dan dig into how parents can co-create healthy boundaries with and for their children so that kids learn to take responsibility for their lives and choices.
    In the previous episode, Boundaries, Part 1, Emily and Dan defined boundaries, how to have them, and what they can look like. In this episode they hone in on boundaries with kids. 
    Boundaries are so important in all people because they instill behaviors of self control, responsibility, freedom, and love. Without good boundaries rooted in childhood, issues with impulse control, addiction, and irresponsibility have been shown to arise later in life.
    Boundaries are a learned skill, and a child’s first experience of them is within family. Emily and Dan remind us that children essentially don’t know what they’re doing, which is why they have parents to love them, provide structure, and guide them to maturity. 
    How a child handles their own boundaries directly reflects a parent’s relationship to their own boundaries. Dan shares four ways that people learn boundaries: modeling, coaching, directing, and mentoring. Emily then layers on top the ten core tenants of Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend.
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    Episode Outline:
    (00:45) Boundaries are a learned skill
    (04:22) Caretakers help the external become internal
    (06:56) Boundaries for the the pivotal years
    (09:26) Dan’s 4 ways people learn boundaries
    (16:46) The power and normalization of cursing
    (26:55) Responsibility, power, and respect
    (30:26) Motivation, commitment and accountability for the pivotal ages
    (34:53) Evaluation, productivity, envy, activity, and exposure
    Resources Referenced:
    Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend
    Dr. Becky’s Instagram
    Good Inside with Dr. Becky podcast
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
    Great Job! Website
    Great Job! Twitter 
    Great Job! Facebook 
    Great Job! LinkedIn 
    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of what’s worked and hasn’t for parents and caregivers, who, like us, struggle with raising amazing humans.

    • 42 min
    6. Boundaries, Part 1

    6. Boundaries, Part 1

    In this episode Emily and Dan define boundaries, break down the four types of boundaries, and offer examples from their lives of boundaries in practice.
    Boundaries are so critical to Emily and Dan, they’re what inspired The Great Job! Podcast in the first place!
    Emily and Dan define boundaries as where a person begins and ends. Boundaries are often misunderstood because they are such an abstract concept. They offer several examples of boundaries in action so we can learn to identify them more readily. 
    Emily and Dan each suggest several boundary-related books that they read to understand the concepts and then detail what Nina Brown describes as the four types of boundaries: soft boundaries, or enmeshment, rigid boundaries, squishy boundaries, and flexible boundaries. 
    As people, we move through each of the four types all the time as we navigate life. Each type of boundary also has the possibility to be enforced to an extreme, either too much or too little. 
    Maintaining a boundary is the hardest, and most meaningful, part of the process. Emily shares a recent story of upholding a boundary with her mother-in-law and how she is so glad she did because expressing our boundaries is the quickest way to banish resentment and bitterness in relationships.
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    Episode Outline: 
    (00:18) Boundaries are where you begin and end as a person
    (06:36) Soft boundaries
    (13:23) Rigid boundaries
    (15:31) No is a complete sentence
    (19:02) A boundary isn’t about controlling someone else
    (21:01) Holding the boundary is the hardest part
    (28:18) Spongy vs flexible boundaries
    (31:11) What boundaries are not
    (33:33) Boundaries and kids
    Resources Referenced:
    Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend
    Boundaries with Kids by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend
    Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab
    Nedra Glover Tawwab Instagram
    Coping with Infurating, Mean, Critical People by Nina Brown
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
    Great Job! Website
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    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of...

    • 37 min
    5. Traditions and Why We Love/Hate Them

    5. Traditions and Why We Love/Hate Them

    In this episode Emily and Dan share their love and hate for traditions. Just as every family’s value system will be different, their views on traditions will be too. 
    Emily and Dan share a religious upbringing that greatly shaped what traditions, especially holiday traditions, mean to them. They share a desire to question each year how they would like to celebrate, or not, a tradition, as well as also carrying through certain aspects of one. 
    For kids, traditions bring stability, helping a child build self esteem and confidence, making them feel safe and secure. They reduce the cognitive load, especially for parents, to know what they should be doing. They can also feel boring, repetitive, and meaningless. As much as traditions are inclusive they can also be exclusive and carry unnecessary pressure to behave a certain way. 
    This year Emily and Dan are bringing the question of what to do for the holiday season for the entire family to decide at their MFP, the Monthly Family Party. An MFP is one of the Mall family’s favorite traditions. They are a place to talk about what’s coming up, what’s working or not working, to get on the same page, and most importantly to ensure they are all living their best lives together. 
    The holidays are a time where many family values are engaged at once, and for the Malls that includes their ‘whoever wants it more does the work’ philosophy, gender norms, being different, and respecting other people’s boundaries.
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    Episode Outline: 
    (01:11) 3 things Emily can’t stand about traditions
    (03:12) Traditions can be good for kids and reduce cognitive overload
    (06:52) The influence of a religious upbringing on experiencing tradition
    (11:27) Monthly Family Parties (formerly known as meetings)
    (16:05) Being nontraditional is a tradition! 
    (24:50) Expectations meet Christmas presents
    (30:22) ‘Whoever wants it more does the work’ returns
    (33:09) Traditions are a spectrum
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
    Great Job! Website
    Great Job! Twitter 
    Great Job! Facebook 
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    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of what’s worked and hasn’t for parents and caregivers, who, like us, struggle with raising amazing humans.

    • 37 min
    4. What Are Your Family Values?

    4. What Are Your Family Values?

    A strong value system supports a family in making aligned decisions as individuals and as a unit. Everyone knows about the Golden Rule, but what other values are there? Emily and Dan deep dive into all things value-related. 
    Having and stating family values creates a context so that it is easier for everyone to know their role, how to make decisions, and to understand where they fit into the family system. Values are a belief that makes you act a certain way. If we figure out how we want to behave in general, that understanding can be applied to specific situations. 
    Emily and Dan offer examples of values in action and the processes of identifying them. As differentiators, value systems will vary by family and that is something to be celebrated!
    Before the episode they each wrote down what they believe to be their family’s values. They gained so much insight by comparing their lists. Sometimes putting a name to what we think is implicit is really helpful for getting on the same page. 
    Starting from scratch can feel overwhelming to identify family values. Sometimes naming the values as they emerge organically from one’s actions is a solid place to start, identifying the behavior as experienced real time. One benchmark for knowing when to have your family’s values identified could be by the time your child starts asking why, around 3 or 4 years old, and absolutely by the time they are in their pivotals.
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    Episode Outline: 
    (00:20) The importance of having and defining family values
    (04:37) Are values rule-based?
    (09:37) Prioritizing self care, trying new things, and making mistakes
    (13:05) Own your own feelings
    (14:54) Advice, encouragement, and boundaries
    (17:53) Value zones: boundaries, integrity, responsibility, feelings
    (23:12) The when, where, how, why of creating family values
    (29:44) How to start defining your family’s values 
    (31:12) Creating a physical value list for the kids
    Connect with Dan and Emily: 
    Great Job! Website
    Great Job! Twitter 
    Great Job! Facebook 
    Great Job! LinkedIn 
    About Dan and Emily: 
    We’re Dan and Emily Mall, the parents behind Great Job! We’ve known each other since 5th grade, been together for over twenty years, and have spent the last 12 years raising our two daughters, Sidda and Charlie. We started this space after we noticed a lot of our friends and teachers (and our kids’ friends’ parents) coming to us for advice or to compliment the way our kids sometimes show up in the world. We wanted a way to share our stories of what’s worked and hasn’t for parents and caregivers, who, like us, struggle with raising amazing humans.

    • 33 min

Customer Reviews

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4 Ratings

4 Ratings

HilaryFenton ,

A needed confidence boost for parents

I was a little skeptical about this show at first because it’s not run by your typical child psychologist or parent coach. It turns out that is actually one of the best parts about it. It has something that is missing in a lot of other podcasts- it’s approachable and joyful. Emily and Dan have clearly done the research but they’re able to share their takeaways like we’re having coffee at a play date. The show also highlights my favorite part of being a parent- helping a kid figure out who they are.

Gretchen Kuhsel ,

A Fresh Perspective On Parenting

Emily and Dan Mall radiate positivity, practicality, and a genuine passion for parenthood. I highly recommended this podcast for any parent or caretaker seeking a compassionate perspective on their parenting journey. Remember, you’re doing a great job!

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