How I Ended My High-Achieving Mom Guilt with Christie Heppenstall The Kind of Love

Christie Heppenstall, a Coach & Time Strategist, joins Aaron this week to tell her story about how she stopped the cycle of high-achieving mom guilt by changing her thoughts and drinking habits.
 
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SHOW NOTES :25 min Aarons Talks
So since I’ve started this podcast it’s been centered around having a better relationship with yourself and reframing, rethinking, reimagining what it looks like on the life and love you desire. 
 
Sometimes you have to ask yourself if what you’re doing is serving your higher good and the good for those around you. 
 
Life happens, things come up, habits get forms.. you continue grow into who you want to be or someone you don’t want to be. It’s more about how you respond to life relationships love all of it
 
This weeks guest is my new wonderful friend Christie Heppenstall who is a transformational coach that works around time management but her discovery around being a high achieving human and the coping mechanism she fell into..
 
 A very socially acceptable copy mechanism… A glass of wine.
 
 every day to lessen the stress around being a high achieving businesswoman and mom.
 
I think for a lot of us and especially if you’re a parent who is also having a full-time job or a business owner it’s easy to slip into habits that make the hard parts of life even harder.
 
Really wanted Christie to start off by sharing her story around how she freed herself from mom guilt by stop drinking.. and continued her path as a high achieving businesswoman… just by observing her thinking.
 
3:30 min
Christie Begins telling Aaron her story about how she quit drinking.
She had equated her achievements at work with her self-worth.
6 min
Christie was doing well achieving until she had kids. And got really into time scheduling hacks. She realized she couldn’t control everything in her environment.
She would get into cycles where she was ambish
Christie thought by playing more additional roles she could get ride of mom guilt. 
She tried to solve her feelings by doing more and playing all of these roles..
 
8:30 min
Her mantra was “I’m fine” mixed with perfection and having to do everything at her best.
Christie would hit overwhelm. She had to wear the mask of “ having it all together.”
She would try to be zen, and trying to solve an emotional by doing a thing even if that means trying to let go.
 11:00 min
Christie started ramping up the habit of drinking a glass of wine, which she refers to as her BFF. 
She thought her companion, the glass of wine, would help her. And she never suspected there was a problem.
She would start bargaining and justifying drinking, and realizing that it’s totally socially acceptable.
14 min
Aaron asks Christie what the tipping point was how that changed things for her.
Christie has an extensive coaching background but she found a new book that was noting that all behavior comes from a feeling. 
 
15 min
Christie asked herself what she was feeling when she went to go have a glass of wine
The gateway into having a better life was quitting alcohol. Anything you do is because of what you feel, and what you feel is from a thought. Christie didn’t think it could be that simple and so she tried it.
 
17:30 min
She has a desire and a craving, but it was all centered around thinking “I deserve this”
She questions her thoughts. Is that what she wanted?
She gently let go of those thoughts.
 
19 min
Christie completely quite like a miraculous sobriety.
Aaron pauses Christie for a moment to ask about all of the detachment that has to happen biologically and if she considers that cold turkey.
Christie says cold turkey is out of will power, but this was different.
The beliefs around her desires just weren’t true.
 
21 min
She realized she had 20 years of beliefs that were