Unpaused and Out of Purgatory. Now, Let's Laugh‪!‬ The Kind of Love

In this solo episode …
Aaron talks about the return to the podcast while sharing a bit of his self-development journey. He’s bringing it back full circle to the original idea his friend had… to tell funny love stories. ‘Cause love get’s weird sometimes... tell me about it.
 
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SHOW NOTES Intro
00:00 min
Welcome back everyone... this is the official unpause of TKOL Podcast.
I have taken a break, only to return with a new tone to this podcast ... returning back to where it started and why I call it TKOL in the first place ..
I went through my own personal discovery starting with an emotionally focused therapy, and then love coaches that taught me about mindfulness, and then coming full circle into understanding the body and nervous system.
To sum it up.. I have a mind body and soul approach to healing and having healthy relationships.
And I want to take a lighter look at it…
 
:45 min
Welcome to TKOL Podcast.. I'm Aaron Tosti.
A while back a good friend of mine said I should write a book called "The kind of love I'm getting I don't want, and the kind of love I want I ain't getting." an autobiography of weird love stories... so I made it into a podcast.
Not only to share my stories, but other peoples stories... maybe even yours.
Love gets weird some times right ? ...tell me about it
 
 
1:00 min - The conversation
Why did this podcast get so serious ?
Hi I'm Aaron, I’ve unpaused things at TKOL Podcast.
I wanted to give you an update, a pep talk, and a tell you a bit about my journey up until now.
 
2:15 min
I went back and listened to the first guest with my friend Josh who originally sparked the idea of the podcast.
I shifted the conversation for a while about the stories we tell ourselves, and the deeper meaning.
 
 
3:35 min
But, I just wanted to remember that love can be funny .. 
I went on a date, and I was putting a lot of pressure on it and my friend said to me “It’s either going to work out or be a funny story.”
Sometimes we go into relationships and put all of this pressure on relationships and it’s like that scene in Tommy Boy. 
But, can we take off the heavy facades that we carry around trying gain social approval and just love people once in a while?
 
5:30 min
Warning, this might get rant-y, funny, weird and even deep.
I tend to go deep and introspective, but talked to my dad and he said, “I don’t understand, can you hit me with the bottom line.”
Let’s hit dad with the truth
 
6 min
Sometimes you have to take a pause…
So you can go deep and unpeel all of the layers of your life... but then finally ask what is all of this  anyway?
Can I just have a night where I’m dating someone and we’re just laughing on the couch. 
The reason I paused was that things were just getting too heavy and deep.
 
 
7:20 min
I now reached “self development purgatory” from so much deep stuff.
Maybe you’ve worked with the stories we tell ourselves and other “thought work”
Maybe you’re working on an emotional approach to better health.
Maybe it’s about your physical health and getting stronger. 
… I went down that rabbit hole. 
I’m more of an analytical and so “the stories we tell ourselves” made sense.
Like the 90’s movie “Big Fish”... it is how you tell the story. 
 
9 min
Mental health is really about emotional health 
I was listening to Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations trying to manifest my love life and business in to existence.
You can change your thoughts all you want, but you have this whole thing below your neck called your nervous system that can take over and put you into a surviva