Relaxing into a Secure Relationship with Kira Shaikh The Kind of Love

Aaron talks with his very first self-love client, Kira, about how she went from past toxic relationships to relaxing into a safe, secure relationship with her husband.
 
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SHOW NOTES Intro
00:00 min
Welcome to TKOL Podcast.. I'm Aaron Tosti.
A while back a good friend of mine said I should write a book called "The kind of love I'm getting I don't want, and the kind of love I want I ain't getting." an autobiography of weird love stories... so I made it into a podcast.
Not only to share my stories, but other peoples stories... maybe even yours.
Love gets weird some times right ? ...tell me about it
 
40 sec
Beginning Narration
It’s funny how things work out sometimes. How we go through different phases and chapters in our lives.. and hopefully learn to laugh off the past, having a leg up on the future.
And when it comes to having a great partnership, it takes a level of self - awareness to understand how you are showing up in a relationship, what patterns you bring with you, and understanding what you really want so you don’t self-neglect, and say yes to something that’s in your best interest.
My guest this episode os actually my first self-love client, Kira.
I invited Kira to share her story, how she was a little nervous getting into a healthy relationship, because when you become familiar with unhealthy relationships.. it can feel anxious getting into a relationship that’s actually secure, safe, and feels good .. because.. you’ve never experienced anything like it before or had that modeled for you..
So Kira shares her story about relaxing into a secure relationship, getting engaged in India, and a a funny story on a toxic ex she used to date before she met her now husband.
 
2 min
Where it all began… on zoom.
Aaron asks what Kira is up to now.
Aaron met Kira she was dating her now husband and now she has a family and bought a house.
Aaron brought up how the different pockets of LA are for different eras of your life.
 
 
3:55 min
Kira’s introduction  & enneagram number…
Aaron Introduces Kira as… Mom, Enneagram 3… dominating and winning. OBVIOUSLY.
Kira was already down with the enneagram before coaching with Aaron. She is a Big Taylor Swift Fan and things Taylor is definitely got to be an Enneagram 3.
Aaron and Kira joke about how you can’t tell other enneagram types what their number.
 
 
6:10 min
Aaron thanks Kira for coming on to the show and reminds her that she’s his very first self love client.
Kira found out about Aaron and hired him as a coach after listening to an older episode of TKOL Podcast.
Kira grew up as a Southern Californian evangelical.
She wanted to reach out because of the framework Aaron was using to coach and she felt like “he might get me”.
 
 
7:50 min
What Kira got out of coaching around “the stories we tell ourselves” doing the inner work…
She has just got out of toxic, abusive relationship and into a new relationship with her now husband.
She knew the patterns she was in.
She didn’t feel good enough for the love that she wanted
 
 
9:05 min
Aaron remembers their first discovery call…
Kira was taking about comparing herself to to other people.
It was that feeling of always talking down to yourself, that Kira and Aaron could relate to.
Aaron said he remembers laugh because Kira on the first call said, “I’m already engaged to the man of my dreams.”
She was having a hard time connecting all of the pieces between everything she had always wanted, but didn’t feel all of the old spiraling feelings in the toxic relationships.
She asked Aaron for guidance.
 
 
10:30 min
Kir