Coming Back to Yourself After an Abusive Relationship with Tamar Gail The Kind of Love

Tamar Gail makes a redemptive return to talk with Aaron about healing from an abusive relationship while sharing a funny dating story, the best compliment she's ever received, and how important being your authentic Self is in dating and relationships.
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SHOW NOTES Intro
00:00 min
Welcome to TKOL Podcast.. I'm Aaron Tosti.
A while back a good friend of mine said I should write a book called "The kind of love I'm getting I don't want, and the kind of love I want I ain't getting." an autobiography of weird love stories... so I made it into a podcast.
Not only to share my stories, but other peoples stories... maybe even yours.
Love gets weird some times right ? ...tell me about it
 
40 sec
Beginning Narration
Welcome back...
If you've just tuned in to TKOL Podcast. There's been a little shift.
Over the past 10 years I've been doing self development work, and started this podcast as a way to share what I I've learned as a Coach..
...but it just got so serious there for a minute. And I realized that sharing peoples stories is what's most impactful.. and when we can look back and laugh at the past, it shows we've evolved forward.
My guest this episode is Tamar.
She is returning as a redemption to a past episode. She talked about connecting to your sensuality, but at the time was recovering from an abusive relationship
So she's back to share that story and how as a women of the healing arts, she has found it vital and an expression of self-love to return to the inner work after a toxic relationship.
Tamar is a teacher, coach, spiritual guide, shaman with 24 years experience in women’s health, holistic healing, wellness, feminine shamanic traditions and natural birth.
If you’d like to connect with her you can visit tamargail.com or find her on instagram @tamargail
She shares some funny dating stories, the best compliment she's ever received, and we talk about how much being your authentic Self is so important in dating and relationships..
… and some of the healing work she’s recently been up to.
 
 
2:15 min / 3:15 min - Intro to Tamar
Tamar does all of the healing things…
..and she is a certified Doula
She has not practiced since she was in France.
Tamar loves putting the power back in women’s hands.
 
4:10 min
Tamar’s been in the healing arts since 1999
 
 
4:30 min
Aaron Talks about how everything you want is on the other side of the “inner work”
Tamar says, “and thats a good intro for me to Make Up for Last time”
Last episode they had such a good conversation before the episode and didn’t know what to talk about when it came time to record.
Tamar had taken a 2 year sabbatical from her work.
Last podcast, Tamar had gone through an abusive relationship and had ignored her inner knowing.
She could not understand how someone doing similar work as her could be so abusive.
 
6:50 min
After Tamar had a divorce she walked into a toxic relationship, but her heart wasn’t open.
She was in lock down, he broke her leg, and put a knife to her throat.
She thought it wouldn’t effect her, but when she returned to the U.S. she realized that it did.
She got back into the healing work for herself. She sat at her parents in the forrest and did all of her work.
 
8:50 min
The part that was missing was that Tamar knew she had to get back into a relationship to heal.
It was scary at first, and the first person she met was a “test” and he was very similar as her ex.
She started to trust herself this time and the next few men Tamar dated were incredible.
…little by little it helped.
 
10:40 min
Aaron said, “It’s changing the purpose aro