How to Take Your Trauma Seriously, But Not Personally with Angie Pollachi The Kind of Love

Aaron talks with Angie Pollachi about her perspective on healing trauma, but not taking trauma too personally, and shares some funny moments from her own personal life
 
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SHOW NOTES Intro
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Welcome to TKOL Podcast.. I'm Aaron Tosti.
A while back a good friend of mine said I should write a book called "The kind of love I'm getting I don't want, and the kind of love I want I ain't getting." an autobiography of weird love stories... so I made it into a podcast.
Not only to share my stories, but other peoples stories... maybe even yours.
Love gets weird some times right ? ...tell me about it
 
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A lot of people take their trauma personally...
And it should be taken seriously, but sometimes
...Maybe people think that they’re crazy or that they’re the only one
or that they need to hold onto and cling to it.
But trauma is just a thing that happens and your body hold onto it to protect you from happening again.
Until we unburden that past experience from our nervous system we'll continue to stay stuck
My conversation with Angie Pollachi, who has a great sense of humor and who learned in the same camp about trauma and the nervous system.
How the nervous system has different survival responses like hide, fight, freeze, fawn and even passing out when you get to overwhelmed.
She has a unique look at unpacking trauma, healing, feeling liberated from trauma and it starts with knowing that we’re all human and to not take it so personally.
Angie is a Somatic and Emotional Healing Coach.
Plus she shares some funny moments in her dating life and going into relationships with a "growth edge" approach.
Enjoy.
 
 
2 min
Angie’s gets asked out in a weird way..
She got asked out by a German women who switched from German to English, “ I find you sexually attractive”
Angie didn’t know what to do but said “thank you but no.”
 
 
4:10 min
Aaron has learning to accept more compliments.
In the past Aaron has past Aaron couldn’t receive them, but now he takes a 2 sec pause to acknowledge it.
Aaron grew up around a lot of sarcasm.
But it’s like buying someone coffee, at first you might want to push back but instead say, “cool I’ll receive it”
Don’t attaching a big story to it.
 
 
6:40 min
Aaron made a smooth move on his own birthday breakfast and paid for it.
 
 
7:30 min
Aaron makes Angie’s official introduction.  Angie Irish, Scottish, and italian with a side of Catholic guilt.
Angie is interest in anything within the human experience.
She was in Marketing for a while, then found other things and did Yoga teacher training for 3-4 years.
 
 
9:30 min
Angie thought there’s more to it than this and started looking into the emotional side and what’s underneath ?
Embody emotional experiences.
Feel your emotional experience but also do the thing.
She wanted to learn more about patterns and behaviors.
 
 
11:50 min
Feeling liberated and not being defined by your Trauma
Trauma conjures up quick dramatic things. Like “fireworks of explosive experience.”
But there is also “candle moments”
But then what is it like to walk around a massive room full of candles.
We’re looking for the explosive but it’s the little ones that surround you
 
 
 
14:45 min
Learning about the little moments that build up, then you get stuck.
Trauma work helped her understand “I’m actually not that crazy”
You’re just a normal human.
It’s the continual pattern that makes us hold onto stuff.
Aaron loves one-liners
 
 
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It becomes a lifestyle shift in your approach.
Trauma hopefully won’t be such a hard