In November of 2015, Davey Blackburn’s wife Amanda was killed in a home invasion, along with their unborn child. As the lead pastor of Resonate Church in Indianapolis and the father of his young son Weston, Davey was forced to not only live through this tragedy, but learn to lead through the pain as well. Our own pain may or may not look like Davey’s, but we all go through pain nonetheless. However, we believe that God works all things together for good, and in Christ, Nothing Is Wasted. This podcast seeks to help you in your pain by bringing you conversations between Davey and special guests designed to help you live, learn, and lead through pain.
Episode 239 - Meeting God in the Messiness of Grief with Esther Lee
It's every parent's worst fear to lose a child. How do you continue to trust God when you're experiencing unrelenting pain? The journey after such a tragic loss is never linear and it can be full of chaotic feelings and opposing emotions. Yet God offers us an invitation to meet Him in the messiness of grief.
For Esther Lee, that invitation was often on the cold, dirty hospital bathroom floor where she cried out to the Lord so many times during her daughter, Ava's, cancer journey. And while her grief began there and continues on well after her devastating loss of sweet Ava, she has learned that the Lord graciously allows for the anger, the questions, the fears and the doubts in the messy middle of our suffering. Esther has walked a long road of first being a parent of a child with life-threatening allergies to later receiving a diagnosis that no parent wants to hear as well as the non-stop rollercoaster of doctors and hospital visits. And while her circumstances have felt impossible and her grief has been messy, God has met her in it all.
Her story doesn't tie up in a neat, tidy bow when it comes to her pain, but instead, it is honest and authentic, one that allows for the raw emotions she feels while leaving room for the truth of God's goodness and kindness as she grapples her way through every parent's greatest fear.
In this moving conversation, Davey sits down with Esther to talk about how vital community can be after experiencing loss, the true wrestlings that can come in regards to God's goodness in our pain, how purpose shows up in small ways instead of big oftentimes, and learning to worship when it feels hard.
No matter your story, you will be able to relate to Esther's wrestlings in the messiness of heartbreak and pain and find comfort in knowing that we serve a God who is not alarmed by it when we do.
Episode 238 - Healing Childhood Trauma through Horses with Kim Tschirret
According to current statistics, we are facing a crisis when it comes to mental health and our kids. With an increase in suicide rates, depression and anxiety, many kids and teens are facing so much more than they can begin to know how to handle. What can we do as adults to be a safe place for a young person? How can we help a child heal from trauma and crisis?
Kim Tschirret knew from her own personal story as a child with an abusive and alcoholic father that healing was possible through Christ and the help of a seemingly unlikely source: horses. Kim found solace in spending time with a horse as a young girl and knew that others could find healing too by engaging with these magnificent animals. It is what led her to start Hope Reins, a non-profit organization in Raleigh, NC, that "pairs kids in crisis with rescued horses to find hope and healing." What has transpired is a beautiful story of redemption as horses and children, both facing painful emotional wounds, have found healing through the power of their connection with one another. Since its' inception in 2010, Hope Reins has helped over 2,600 kids in crisis at no-cost to the families it serves.
Davey sits down with Kim to talk about how our past pain can lead us into an incredible redemption story for others, what kids need to feel safe, and how any adult can be a trusted source of hope in a hurting child's life.
Resiliency after trauma is possible and Kim's story shows us what a powerful salve love can be for both discarded animals and wounded hearts in the quest for restoration.
Book: Joey: How a Blind Rescue Horse Helped Others Learn to See: https://www.amazon.com/Joey-Blind-Rescue-Helped-Others/dp/1496421752/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1657739526&sr=8-1-spons
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Episode 237 - Finding Faith After a National Tragedy with Christina Stanton
What happens when you find yourself in the middle of a national tragedy, when your story is part of a collective one on every news outlet in the country? How do you find healing after a trauma played out on a national stage?
For Christina Stanton, that was a lifelong question that began on a fateful day in New York City on September 11, 2001. Running for her life after the Twin Towers attack left her facing the rubble well beyond that infamous day. Wrestling with the aftermath of PTSD and the devastation that came from surviving such a horrific scene, Christina was searching for answers and she found them within the walls of a local New York City church. Finding God in the midst of such wreckage and having the people of God bear witness to her pain while providing practical help brought her hope and revealed the power of the Church.
As if living through that national tragedy wasn't enough, Christina would find herself once again a part of a story that made national headlines when she contracted Covid-19 in early March 2020 and fought for her life in a hospital room, hundreds of miles from home. Living through two tragic marks in American history gave Christina a deeper understanding of who God is, even when we face the worst.
In this episode, Davey and Christina talk about the value of the Church witnessing the pain of others, what suffering teaches us and the importance of community in finding healing from post-traumatic stress.
Your suffering may not have been experienced on such a global scale, but you will find comfort and encouragement towards hope and healing in this conversation.
Book: Out of the Shadow of 9/11: An Inspiring Tale of Escape and Transformation https://www.amazon.com/Out-Shadow-11-Inspiring-Transformation/dp/1733745203/
Faith in the Face of Covid-19: A Survivor’s Tale
Episode 236 - Seeing Your Significance in Singleness with Mandy Hale
So often when it comes to the topic of singleness, there is this sense that many believe significance comes only when you finally find "the one." But the truth is, leading a life full of purpose doesn't have to wait until there is a significant other. In fact, singleness, no matter how long that season lasts, can be a fulfilling, purposeful time that the Lord uses in your life and in the lives of those around you.
For Mandy Hale, it was coming to this realization that provided her the freedom to find joy in fulfilling her life's purpose as a single woman. Rather than focusing on the one kind of love she didn't have, she learned to see the love all around her through friendship, community, and family. She was able to connect with others through her writing and not get in stuck in waiting for a future with her present right in front of her.
In this episode, Davey talks with Mandy about finding purpose right where you are, the impact the pandemic and other difficult life events can have on a single person, and paying attention to the love you already have in your life.
Whether you are single or just waiting for something in your life, this conversation will remind you to choose to live fully in whatever circumstances you find yourself in.
Book: Turn Toward the Sun: Releasing What If and Embracing What Is
Episode 235 - The Heartbreak and the Healing with Blanca
Sometimes life can break your heart after one unexpected tragedy. But, what about when circumstances seems to break your heart all throughout your story? How do you find healing when it seems heartache is woven into the fabric of your life?
For Christian recording artist, Blanca, it felt like her whole life was marred by heartbreak. As a child, she was a victim of sexual abuse. As an adult, she lost both her parents and went through a devastating divorce. Finding healing in life when it seemed like the pieces were shattered has been difficult, but through her journey with the Lord, through her music and with the help of a counselor, Blanca has begun to experience healing from her wounds.
In this episode, Davey sits down with Blanca to talk about facing the pain in order to heal, the value in sharing your healing process with others, and how creativity can be a tool God uses to mend a broken heart.
Healing is never an easy endeavor, but Blanca's story is proof that God is in the business of binding up the wounds of the brokenhearted.
Episode 234 - Seeing Beauty in the Darkest Days with Colleen Chao
How do you live life with the end in mind, especially when you are told your days are numbered? We all know that Scripture calls us to live life through the lens of heaven, but how do we really do that?
For Colleen Chao, finding out she had Stage 4 Cancer forced her to think about living the way God called her to in spite of the fact or perhaps because of the fact, that she is dying. Having expected life to go in a much different direction, Colleen has been learning to see the beauty in the most unexpected places like suffering and pain.
In this episode, Davey has a raw conversation with Colleen on seeing God's beauty in the darkness of suffering, the transformative power of gratitude, and how the blood of Jesus can keep us from dwelling in our regrets.
You don't have to have a life-altering diagnosis to be encouraged by Colleen's story of living life fully when heaven is closer than you anticipated.
Book: Hands of a Fiercely Tender God: 31 Days of Hope, Honesty, and Encouragement for the Sufferer https://www.amazon.com/Hands-Fiercely-Tender-God-Encouragement/dp/0802429904/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3LLTTB8E59IIY&keywords=colleen+chao&qid=1656337889&sprefix=colleen+chao%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1
Wonderful podcast and ministry
I so very much appreciate this podcast and ministry and appreciate Davey ministering to others so authentically out of the devastation that he personally experienced. He often speaks truth and encouragement directly to his guests as well and truly has an empathetic heart towards those who have experienced trauma and pain. 💕
Nothing short of life changing
Thank you NIW team for creating such an incredible podcast. Every episode inspires me to seek the Lord and be closer to Him than I was before. Whether you are just now exploring the claims of Christ or have been a Christian most of your life, you will walk away from each episode feeling refreshed and encouraged.
Food for my soul!
This podcast is food for my soul and hope for my heart. Last October, my husband/best friend passed away unexpectedly, leaving me a 44 yr old widow with three children at home. From day one, I have said “I don’t understand why, but I trust you Lord.” My biggest prayer has been that He would use my husband’s life and passing to draw others to Him. This podcast is exactly what I need. Every morning, I feast on the hope, truth, and encouragement that Davey and guests share. This podcast has helped me lean into my deep suffering and see it from God’s perspective. What a healing gift that has been. Thank you Davey for allowing God to use your pain. By the way, this summer I hosted a two day camp for kids and teens that have all lost a parent. I know my pain won’t be wasted either. Thank you and God bless you.