The School Of Unlearning With Elisa Haggarty Elisa Haggarty

In our first ever podcast swap, I sit down with Ed Haynes, a Crossfit and Performance Coach based in Hong Kong. Ed interviews me and I interview him in this candid conversation where we discuss unlearning some of our biggest roadblocks around people pleasing, growth mindset and how to better connect with people. 

In this episode, we cover: 

- Elisa’s origin story of unlearning
- How this podcast came to be
- What Ed is currently unlearning about people pleasing and boundaries 
- The important of learning to sit with silence and space within conversations 
- How Ed uses growth mindset
- Can growth come within our comfort zone?
- Why being calm isn’t necessarily the goal or a sign of a regulated nervous system
- How to work with stress 
- How to help clients work through emotions and glean the insights they bring 
- How Ed has used mindset and fitness to grow 
- How defensiveness is the first sign of war
- How to know what a full body yes and full body no sounds like 
- How much do we really need to work within a given week? What comes up when we have easier/lighter workload days?

To learn more about Ed, visit his website at www.theprocessprogramming.com

Subscribe to Ed’s podcast, ”The Process Podcast” on Apple and Spotify.


Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach who helps leaders and team break drama patterns and form a more emotionally attuned world that leads to connection and innovation. To learn more about her, visit www.elisamaryhaggarty.com

What is life anyway? What makes life good? What brings us alive? Who said we need a 5 year plan anyway? 

Today, I press record in a spontaneous moment of breaking patterns, unlearning perfection and tackle what’s top of mind for me. 

Join me in this 7 minute podcast!

Take aways: 

- How the pressure we put on ourselves to create a meaningful/perfect life suffocates us and robs us of what life is here to show us
- It’s a big deal to be alive on this planet 
- How our phones take us elsewhere, never fully here in the moment
- Be more awkward
- Compliment people more
- Pet more dogs who seem eager 
- Relax into your life instead of trying to build an ideal life
- Spark conversation with strangers in life 
- When you can, make eye contact with strangers - it makes a big difference 
- In a society that stresses autonomy and control, we may not have as much control as we think
- Following the breadcrumbs help heighten attention to your needs and what the world is giving you

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and a cat mom who finds joy in noticing what’s beautiful and sharing it. You can learn more about her work here.

It turns our breathing isn’t just about staying alive - it is a state/energy management tool that helps us regulate, get grounded, get fired up and recover. For episode 48 on The School of Unlearning, Avid Greenberg joins us to discuss his path to becoming a Wim Hoff Certified Breathwork Instructor. Avi spent years in the corporate world feeling less than optimal and fulfilled and finally followed his intuition to make the jump into becoming an entrepreneur and we are so glad he did. Avi has led thousands of people and groups through hot/cold contrast therapy and breath-work exercises and in this episode he walks us through the benefits for embracing the breath consciously - and why humans of all kind would benefit by embracing this tool. Avi and I also discuss how breathwork has been used in the NBA and professional sports worlds so that athletes can regulate themselves in order to gain a competitive advantage. We jam on the Knicks - his favorite team - and what parallels we both see in the corporate world and sports organizations as leadership principles evolve and become more human centric. 


In this episode we cover: 
Avi’s entrance to hot/cold contract and breath-work
The benefits of embracing breath-work consciously 
Why long slow exhales help us regulate and feel more grounded 
What NBA superstars like Steph Curry and Lebron James are using the breath to level up their performance during timeouts 
What overlap we see in the corporate world and sports organizations in leadership

To learn more about Avi, visit his site at www.avigreenberg.com and follow him on IG @avilu 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach who helps leaders and teams break relational drama patters through play and curiosity. 

To learn more about her work, visit www.elisamaryhaggarty.com

How is emotional literacy different than emotional intelligence? Why do we need both? Have you ever had the inkling that you may play some part in the relational drama you see unfolding at work or in relationships? Today on the podcast, we welcome Conscious Leadership and Executive Coach, Justin Mulvaney. Justin shares his origin story into coaching and the deep work he is doing on his end to play with the principles of Conscious Leadership. This episode is for anyone looking to better understand emotional intelligence and how to take radical responsibility for their lives.

Today we cover: 

Justin’s early influences in nature and key influences
The journey from tech industry to coaching 
Why Justin chose The Conscious Leadership Group as the method he wanted to embrace and learn 
What has changed Justin the most throughout his training with CLG and coaching clients over the past few years
How Justin defines emotional intelligence 
How and why the journey of embracing consciousness is messy and scary at times 
How to examine reactive patterns and beliefs 
How to feel your feelings to completion

In this episode, Gay Hendrick brings his life and professional wisdom to the podcast and shows us how we can turn criticism into creativity. In one of the more powerful podcast episodes I’ve ever recorded, Gay helps empower us to understand that beyond name, form, career - we are pure consciousness and helps us understand how taking responsibility for our thoughts and habits can change our lives. Gay shares his breakthroughs early on in life and helps us connect the dots between generational trauma - and, what we can do about creating new generational patterns. 

Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. His latest book, The Genius Zones and explores his breakthrough process to end negative thinking and live in true creativity.

Today we cover: 

Gay’s early life influences, including his grandparents and how the months prior to his birth influenced his relationship to emotions, food and self. 
Gay’s encounter with Ram Das in his early 20’s and how this planted seeds for continued growth 
How Gay defines enlightenment 
Gay shares why recommitment needs more press 
The role of self-blame and criticism and how they color and block creativity 
How we can nurture ourselves into creativity and expansion
Why taking radical responsibility for your life isn’t about blame
How taking responsibly is both invigorating and creative! 
How do view each decade in clinical psychology 
The role of our family’s generational trauma and experiences in our current lives 
What congruence is and why it’s so important for aliveness
Why emotions are essential for us to embrace who we really are
Gay offers news ways to view emotions like anger and fear 
What Gay is currently unlearning 
To learn more about Gay and Katie Hendricks, visit: https://hendricks.com

Dr. Joan Rosenberg, the author of ”90 Seconds to a Life You Love” joins us for episode 45 and shares part of her personal journey from childhood that inspired her to pursue emotional mastery. The desire for confidence, authenticity and belonging lies within our capacity to sit with both pleasant and unpleasant emotions and Joan Rosenberg PhD teaches us how to do that in this episode.  We review the Rosenberg Reset which lays out the steps towards emotional confidence and why congruence is so essential to our wellbeing. This podcast episode is ripe with insight, moments you won’t want to miss and will leave you feeling more empowered to live life more fully.