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Suzanne and Andre Paradis answer questions from listeners about their relationship problems and concerns.
Some of the questions are as follows:
What attracts a good man to a woman?
Red Flags/how to know if he/she is marriage material
What is the best advice I can pass onto my three boys about dating and navigating the feminist culture and not compromising on their masculinity?
What to say/suggest (or NOT say/suggest) to a close friend in her early 30s who's not dating or married but wants to be but who “drinks the culture’s Kool-aid” and wants to be “independent”/thinks she doesn’t need a man? 
You both have talked about how men are negatively affected by their moms when the reins aren't handed over to the dad to take the lead or how single mom households have the same issue because there is no father figure to take over. What advice would you give to those boys now that they're men in helping them not be continually treated like a child by their mothers?
If you’ve been vulnerable with someone for several years, and they haven’t.... and you feel alone and defeated in the process, and ultimately your emotional walls build back up, is it possible to make an emotional connection after that? 

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Last week Stan Wischnowski, top editor of The Philadelphia Inquirer, was forced to apologize and ultimately resign after using the headline, “Buildings Matter, Too.” He later characterized his own work as “deeply offensive.”
Over at the New York Times, editorial page editor James Bennet resigned after a staff uproar as a result of U.S. Senator Republican Tom Cotton's statement in an op-ed that military troops should be sent to restore public order in American cities when the police are overwhelmed.
Anna Wintour, editor of Vogue, apologized for the mistakes, oversights, and supposed offenses her publication has committed during her tenure. “
Tucker Carlson lost advertisers for pointing out the fact that BLM is not about black lives but about something else altogether.
And it isn’t just journalists who are marginalized as a result of their speech. The author J.K. Rowlings made what was referred to as a "controversial" statement in pointing out that women, not men, get periods. Fortunately, Rowlings didn’t apologize or take back her comments.
Join me in this special episode to discuss America’s cancel culture is New York Times bestselling author and contributing editor of City Journal Heather Mac Donald.
IN THIS EPISODE:
2:45  What's Cancel Culture?
6:45  Heather discusses her article, “The Myth of Systemic Police Racism” and how crime and suspect behavior determine most interactions with cops
8:50  How the data prove Black Lives Matter’s claim that there's an epidemic of racially motivated action between blacks and police is categorically false
10:20  How the statistics show blacks commit over half of all homicides
11:55 -12:43  How the current narrative has it backwards. Black males are 6% of the nation's population and make up about 42% of cop killings. A police officer is 18 times more likely to be killed by a black male than an unarmed black male is to be killed by a cop.
14:30  How there's an increase in cops leaving the profession due to the narrative
15:35  How the entirety of mainstream America, including all major corporations, are now onboard with the Black Lives Matter movement
18:00  In light of the current narrative, we will begin to see more cop assassinations and recruiting will be more difficult
18:35 – 22:45 Police Reform and how in Colorado, people will be able to civilly sue police officers for alleged misconduct and how this will lead to anarchy and crime will spike
22:50  Heather’s assessment of what’s to come in the next six to twelve months
25:30  There will be even more pressure on institutions to hire by race (and sex) instead of on merit and the quality of the institutions will suffer as a result
26:45  How fatherlessness has decimated the black community
 
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Ever wonder why women, once they took on the role of breadwinner, became more stressed out and, thus, less happy?
The reason may be politically inconvenient, but that doesn't make it any less true.
Women have a fraction of the amount of testosterone men do, and testosterone is in part responsible for why men are able to be single focused and get energized from it as a result.
That's not how it works for most women. They become drained when they try to focus so intently on one thing and try to screen out everything else.
Most women cannot block out the details of life. They feel compelled to address more than one thing at a time since that is how their brains work. So when they try and do things the "male" way—i.e. go to the office and focus exclusively on that for 8 or 10 hours—they become overwhelmed. They can't stop thinking about everything else they have to do.
Of course, to hear the media tell it, this predicament is men's fault. If men would just do their share women could get it all done! But that's not the way it works.
Andre Paradis of Project Equinox is back to talk with Suzanne about this massive difference between women and men and how knowing, and accepting, this difference will improve your relationship overnight. If you let it.
IN THIS EPISODE:
9:20  why women are unhappy and drained
10:30  the instinct in men is to provide and protect
11:50  why the feminist message only services a small portion of women
12:10  why masculinity is discouraged in men but encouraged in women
14:05  the natural flow between men and women and letting go of the “superwoman complex”
16:55  how women feel that less they are productive in society, like men, they are useless
17:20  why traditional roles work
19:00  why stress hurts women differently than it hurts men
21: 40 why men are more “single focused” than women
22:45  why understanding the nature of men solves so many relationship problems
27:40  why there's a price to pay when the roles are reversed
28:30  what happens when  women no longer to tap into their femininity
28:50 what femininity does for men
36:20  why being overly emotional is not productive for men
38:40  when you disrupt human nature, it causes a lot of problems
 
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Children of divorce are in desperate need of a relationship with both their parents. Sadly, far too many are reduced to having a relationship with only one parent: the mother.
Citing a principle called the “best interest of the child,” family courts award sole or primary custody of most children of divorced parents to mothers, thereby reducing fathers to occasional visitation and zero authority.
The silence on this issue is deafening, and this silence comes just as much from the right as it does from the left. It even comes from churches.
Making matters worse is that divorce is no longer fault-based. Unilateral divorce is now the law of the land, and three-fourths of divorces are initiated by wives. Women don't have to allege any fault by the husband, and he has no right to oppose the divorce.
To address this monstrous social travesty, I could think of no one better than Stephen Baskerville, former Professor of Government at Patrick Henry College. Stephen is widely recognized as a leading authority on fatherhood, family policy, and sexual politics. He holds a Ph.D. from the London School of Economics and writes on political ideologies with an emphasis on religion, family policy, and sexuality. His books include The New Politics of Sex and Taken Into Custody: The War against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family.
Stephen serves on advisory boards to the Ruth Institute, the Men’s Health Network and other organizations. His website is www.stephenbaskerville.com.
IN THIS EPISODE:
5:00-8:00 How Stephen began writing on the “divorce industry,” the political dynamics involved and about no-fault divorce: why it disproportionately affects fathers.
8:00 How women are encouraged to get divorced and take the children, make false accusations against fathers etc.
10:24 How men are less likely to use children as weapons against the other spouse
10:45  The Myth of the Deadbeat Dad
14:00 What is no-fault divorce and why is it wrong, why is it a system of “chaos” and why we need to “enforce the constitution” when it comes to divorce
11:40 - 16:00  How the Bill of Rights is violated in many divorce cases and how basic constitutional rights are being violated.
17:00  How political correctness keeps ups from being able to address it and solve the problems with no-fault divorce and how both the left and right wing media both ignore it
19:00  How even Ronald Reagan admits he was deceived when he signed the first No Fault divorce legislation into action in CA. How there was also no public debate or discussion at the time it was enacted and throughout the years until now
19:45 How these laws have affected the social structure, including crime, fatherlessness in homes, etc.
20:49-22:50  What does Stephen tell and recommend for fathers as recourse for these issues?
24:35-30:30  Why the effects of the sexual revolution have led to the the West to brink of social and economic ruin (this includes sexual chaos, domestic violence, sexual harassment, etc.)
30:45 - Why feminism has not created a “utopia” for a women
33:00 - Stephen discusses single parent homes and the breakdown of the family
36:20 How the church not being involved in marriage has created a vacuum for the lawyers, social workers, judges and therapists to step in
37:45 Stephen talks about the idea of being “offended” and why men are responsible for stepping up and being leaders
 
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Suzanne's husband Bill makes a special appearance to discuss answers, along with Suzanne, to listeners' questions. 
IN THIS EPISODE:
3:35 How Bill and Suzanne met
7:02 How long after they started dating when Bill proposed
8:00 Bill and Suzanne talk about their wedding
9:30 What are each others most annoying habits and how to cope with your partner’s bad habits
15:15 What are their favorite things about each other and how their sense of humor diffuses a lot of issues
17:05- 21:10 Who is the first to apologize after an argument, how they’ve learned to read each other and why Suzanne wouldn’t recommend both a husband and wife work from home
23:15 What does Bill think when Suzanne gets internet haters?
24:47 Bill and Suzanne discuss their parenting philosophy
30:55 How they kept the romance and sex life alive when their kids were young
35:38 How do Bill and Suzanne divide household chores and how they share the household duties ? And where problems arise in marriage regarding household chores, etc.
39:25 What do Bill and Suzanne do for fun together on date nights
41:10- 46:00 Who is responsible for managing the money and why the “his” money and “her” money philosophy is is bad for marriages & what their advice is for newly married couples concerning money.
47:55 What is the one thing that makes their marriage work?
 
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It is hardly in question that masculinity in America is under attack. In the social justice crusade to promote the purported underdogs of gender (women, trans, queer), masculinity has become the enemy.
America’s youth have been brainwashed to believe that males are predators, and females their prey. Girls are relentlessly empowered to believe they can do anything boys can, and boys are admonished to be more like girls.
Indeed, progressives are on a mission to save American women from inequality while simultaneously condemning masculinity. Men and the patriarchy have become the scapegoat for virtually every social ill, real or imagined.
In such a climate, it is essential that therapists take a stand in support of manhood and offer men a safe space where they can express themselves without fear of judgment or reproach.
It is also essential that women speak out against the relentless feminist narratives that serve to divide men and women, rather than bring them together.
My guest today is Dr. Abilash Gopal, a San Francisco psychiatrist who wrote an article about this subject for Psychology Today entitled "Reviving Romeo" with his wife, Margot Loren, who’s also w us to discuss this article as well one of her own, entitled “How Modern Feminism Is Hurting Women.”
IN THIS EPISODE:
7:00  The differences between men and women can be found easily in little kids8:75  How Psychology Today censors voices  and how political correct editors censored Abi and Margot's article based on APA Guidelines10:05  How toxic behavior is not exclusive to one sex and how men also can be victims of bad behavior at the hands of women12:35  How censorship has become extreme15:15 -19 Abi sees men in his practice who are fundamentally broken by the messages of toxic masculinity and how prominent psychology press outlets are the standard bearers for how therapists treat their male patients; traditional therapy sides with the women and favors female traits, thus teaching men to become more like women24:15  The mess of modern dating and how moving against the biological tide is destroying relationships25:10 How modern feminism hurts women and how its arguments are based on feelings instead of facts
 
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