Hey y'all. Welcome to another episode of The WERKin' Mommas podcast. I'm Nikki Winston and so excited and glad to have you tuning in and rockin' with me today.
I'm here to talk about a PLETHORA of things - I am a Certified Public Accountant, a CPA exam instructor & coach, a writer, podcaster and owner of The Winston CPA Group. I also like to give career advice and share my experiences as a black woman/disruptive millennial working in corporate America while running my own businesses.
One of the things about my podcast is that it's very cathartic and therapeutic for me. So I don't edit my podcast; I want the organic emotion, the feeling, the moment to live through the episodes and I don't want to edit out something because I sip my water or clear my throat or one of my kids barges into my studio while I'm recording.
I'm excited to jump into today's episode. If you're tuning in for the first time, welcome, thank you for being here. If you're a regular listener: hey, hello, welcome back! Let you network know you're listening to this episode by using the hashtag #WERKinMommas also feel free to tag me @NikkWinstonCPA.
You can also find more information about The Winston CPA Group, writing & content creation services, as well as get right for the CPA exam all on my website at nikkwinstoncpa.com. You can also find me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Twitter @NikkWinstonCPA. So...let's jump into this episode. Grab your water, tea, whiskey, or whatever pleases your palate. Let's go!
Mad Moms: My Kids Get on my Nerves!
Honest Motherhood: My Kids Get on my DAMN Nerves.
I'm pretty sure there's gonna be comments and perspectives coming from all directions about this episode. I'm saying something that needs to be said first and foremost. But often as mommas, we're shunned or bashed for vocalizing certain things that we deal with every day. I've been a mom for almost 15 years, I can say that every moment and every day has not been rosy and fun and exciting and happy-go-lucky and the world smells like flowers type-thing.
Who Left Their Clothes on the Floor?!
The moms on the show would get mad. They felt bad for getting mad and talked about how moms aren’t supposed to get mad at kids. Many of us have felt when everybody walks past the clothes and shoes on the floor. Everybody in the house walks past it like, it's not there and you're waiting for somebody else to pick it up.
Kids in the Grocery Store
What's the thing kids do at the grocery store? They pick up stuff, ask can they have something, or they sneak it in the cart. If you tell your kids NO or stop repeatedly people might think wow that's a mean mama, you're not supposed to talk to your kids like that.
Moms, have you ever had that feeling like my kids get on my damn nerves?! OMG, these kids are driving me crazy! It doesn't mean that you love your kids or kids any less. It means that you're human and have emotions just like everybody else in the world.
Paid Leave. Period.
42 days for your body to “snap back” from bringing a human into the world that took you about 270 or so days to create. That's a whole separate podcast episode for me.
Mad Mom Moment
So I used to yell at my kids to get stuff done and then I thought about how exhausted I felt afterwards, but also how bad I felt afterward. It's hard for me as an adult to receive a message from somebody who's yelling at me. And if I don't want something done to me, I'm certainly not gonna do it to somebody else - adult kid, whoever.
Everybody has their different ways of parenting, and nobody can really criticize or try to instruct a mom or dad on how to be fulfill their roles as parents. If you have strategies and communications and things that work in your household for your kids, then do what works for you and don't feel like you have to become something that you're not or change who you are or conform to what this world thinks we should be simply because we chose to have children.
Communication Skills and Kids
I want my kids to understand that they have a voice, a point of view and they should never silence that for anybody. If you feel the need to say something, say it, it doesn’t matter:
Who's in the room or in the seat next to youHow much money somebody hasHow many connections they haveHow old or young they areHow much education or experience they haveOr anything else
How do you deal with those days when your kids get on your nerves and what are some things that you want to share in your own experiences as a mother that you think could help another bomb or even just to get it off your chest. If you're one of those moms who you feel stressed and overworked and overwhelmed with everything that's on your plate and you just need somewhere to vent. That's why I want to create this community. We need that space for us and by us for moms, by moms to be able to have these conversations without dealing with the trolls and the people who want to mom shame every chance they get.
What y’all think? Let’s continue this conversation.
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Mommy Moment: I’m Cleaning Up So I Can Cook
Let’s throw perfection to the wayside and talk about this mom struggle.
When you need to cook but you gotta clean the kitchen first then you ask the kids to clean and they do it halfway so you end up doing it anyway. By then you’ve loaded the dishwasher, cleaned out the refrigerator, wiped everything down, swept and mopped the floor and you’re exhausted - and not 1 pot is on the stove. This is just 1 of the many WTF moments we deal with as moms.
I’m making dishwater and wiping the counters down but had to stop and have a living room conversation with my fellow moms.
There’s so much to do. Even figuring out what to do before you make ONE move is exhausting. It doesn’t have to be. For all the craziness of our daily lives, pencil in things on your calendar that you love - mine is cleaning. That is not a typo - 1 of my favorite things to do is clean. Turning on music, putting in my rubber gloves, and setting my Apple Watch to Mixed Cardio is a great time in my book. I know I won’t be interrupted because nobody in my house is volunteering to help me clean the kitchen (or any other room 🤦🏽♀️) so I also consider it “me time.” It takes A LOT to be a responsible for other little humans and as much as I love being a mom, we need to have more cathartic conversations like this and share experiences and learnings that can help other moms.
We may not know each other but Moms all have a common understanding and empathy for each other that we can laugh and cry about. What’s your #momlife like? Tune in to this episode of The WERKin’ Mommas podcast!
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You Can Be Sued If You Have an LLC!
All of the business owners, entrepreneurs, girl bosses, startups, boutiques, course creators, freelancers, and gig workers with LLCs - this episode is for you.
Treat 👏🏽 your 👏🏽 business 👏🏽 like 👏🏽 a 👏🏽 business.
Too many entrepreneurs form businesses without fully understanding the implications of selecting an LLC.
You chose an LLC because you saw somebody else do it but have you considered the tax impact of that? What about if you want to sell and be acquired later?
Did you know that you can STILL be sued even if you have an LLC?
Listen to this episode for how to check if you can be sued and what to do about it.
Key takeaways from this episode:
1. Even if you have an LLC, you can STILL be sued
2. Be careful about who you take financial advice from
3. Operate your business like a business
It’s cool to be poppin’ on social media. Make sure your business is poppin’ in real life too.
Learning & Unlearning as a Mom
I’m going through a transition as a mother. I’m in this torn space of giving my kids the space to grow, develop, and learn, but I’m still looking at them like the 2-year-olds I chased after to make sure they didn’t fall or play with the sockets.
In my transition as a mom, I’m in a delicate space where I’m trying to make sure the teaching is there for my kids. I say that because I want them to be in tune with their feelings and being comfortable openly expressing how they feel, and feeling like they can sit me down and talk to me about anything whether it’s good or bad. The struggle with me is that I didn’t grow up like that - talking back, having an opinion, all that is against the black parent’s law and as long as you lived under your parents’ roof you didn’t have an opinion, you not paying no bills. So there were things I had to learn and think about it like what I want my relationships with my kids to look like as they get older and how do I instill things in them without it being shoved down their throats.
So, just as my kids are growing and developing, I am too.
I’m unlearning mom guilt. Feeling like I’m not enough, I haven’t done enough, like I’ve failed my kids on things that bother me but they’re not even thinking about let alone tripping about. I feel like that goes back to the desire of some parents who want to live vicariously through their kids. And that also goes back to other people’s opinions - whether it’s the dad or grandparents or friends who want to tell you your kids.
So much to unpack in this episode - tune in!
What are some things you’ve had to learn and unlearn as a mother?
#CareerConvos: Quit Your Job Gracefully
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Broadcasting live from Midtown Atlanta. It’s such a vibe today - beautiful, sunny 75 degree day. Not too many people, I just had lunch and finished writing a blog and I wanna talk about the J O B.
#CareerConvos: Quit Your Job Gracefully
Let’s talk about work. Let’s talk about when you ready to chuck up the deuces and quit your job to that job that’s no longer serving you - or maybe it never served you to begin with.
Whatever the reason is for wanting to quit your job, make sure you do it gracefully no matter the situation. Employees don’t quit companies - they quit people, bad managers or toxic environments created by toxic people.
There’s also those employees who realize their professional aspirations are out of reach with the current company. Growth is a beautiful thing, no love lost. It can be emotional when you quit your job if it’s a great company and you’ve come to form deep relationships with colleagues. It’s also emotional if it’s not the most amicable professional breakup. Either way, resign from your job with the same energy you had on your first day with these tips.
1. Discuss with your immediate manager. I’ve said AD NAUSEUM that you should be having ongoing conversations with your direct manager, especially when you quit your job. Discuss your workload, your career aspirations, and other things your manager needs to be aware of. When you have this resignation discussion let your manager know that you’re resigning and any relevant information your manager needs to know about. Your manager, not your coworkers or water-cooler friends, should be the first to know that you’re leaving.
2. Follow up with a written resignation letter. After your discussion, send your manager and HR a letter confirming your departure. Include your last working day if nothing else. Reasons and extra words are unnecessary here - many people feel the need to use resignation letters as long drawn out explanations as to why they’re leaving. Your letter can be as succinct as: “I’m resigning from X position with ABC Company, my last day is September 12, 2021.”
3. Clean up, literally. Schedule time with your manager and team to discuss transition plans of work, open projects, and wrap up as much as you can. Use your last few weeks to set your successor up the right way. You ever start a job and see the dusty remnants of your predecessor? The desk hasn’t been cleaned, their condiment packets are still on the drawers, documents with their name is still laying around? It doesn’t feel good. Clean up the desk, leave some notes or guidance documents, send introductory emails that you’re leaving and who your interim point of contact is. Make the transition as seamless as possible for both sides. You always want to leave amicably, regardless of circumstances surrounding your departure. Even if you’re in a position where you’re leaving on less than ideal terms, keep that in mind.
4. Decompress. If you’re going to another company, enjoy some downtime to fully remove yourself from your prior environment. Take a vacation, take a STAYCATION, spend time researching your new company or role. Start fresh and leave any concerns from your old employer in the past.
5. Stay connected. Departures don’t have to be adversarial.
Check out the #CareerConvos blog to continue this conversation.
Need to chat about your next career move, prep for an interview, or learn how to negotiate salary? Put time on my calendar for a 1:1 career chat.
Being Consistently Inconsistent
Hey y’all, I’m Nikki Winston, and welcome to The WERKin’ Mommas podcast. I’m a mompreneur, CPA, and award-winning writer with my career advice featured in your favorite magazines. I’m sharing the accounting tips entrepreneurs need to know, CPA exam study tips, and career advice that millennials need to win in these corporate streets. You’ll also hear the frolics and frustrations of a mother to 2 growing kids.
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It doesn’t matter who I ask: moms, CPA candidates, entrepreneurs, we all have some long-winded reason for not doing things as we think they should be done. Moms know we need to work out and we’ll go 2 weeks strong then fall off. Candidates know they need to be studying and they do good for a few days before all motivation is gone. Business owners need to hire an accountant but only do it when it’s too late.
How long are you doing to be consistently doing things inconsistently?! As crazy as it sounds - it’s a struggle too many of us can relate to. We do things - the right things - consistent for a few days, then we fall off, get back up, and keep going on this cycle.
Then you wonder why you’re not where you should be. In this time of uncertainty and wondering what the next move is gonna be, listen to this bonus episode of The WERKin’ Mommas podcast to (1) hear my personal goal of being more consistent and (2) how to create your own plan so that you’re not doing so much that you’re not really doing anything.
This is an awesome podcast. She has a lot of great advice! Take a listen, you will be happy you did!
Love how Nicole gives practical encouragement and information to help us move ahead!
The She is Podcast
So much goodness
Thank you for showing up and giving so much truth! Such encouragement and amazing tips