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Your go-to source for life-changing shifts in how you think about --and create relationship with--yourself and other humans. Discover new options for building the strength, assertiveness, resilience, boundaries, and balance needed to develop healthier relationships, ones based on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. 
Listening to these in-depth discussions with expert guests on a broad range of relationship topics can open your eyes, heart, and mind to new possibilities for creating the healthy, emotionally intimate relationship you want at home, and the clear, assertive one you need at work.
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Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy Rhoberta Shaler, PhD

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    • 4.8 • 43 Ratings

Your go-to source for life-changing shifts in how you think about --and create relationship with--yourself and other humans. Discover new options for building the strength, assertiveness, resilience, boundaries, and balance needed to develop healthier relationships, ones based on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. 
Listening to these in-depth discussions with expert guests on a broad range of relationship topics can open your eyes, heart, and mind to new possibilities for creating the healthy, emotionally intimate relationship you want at home, and the clear, assertive one you need at work.
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    Contrary Ways to Overcome Detox, Pain, Addiction & Shame GUEST: Dr. Will Horton

    Contrary Ways to Overcome Detox, Pain, Addiction & Shame GUEST: Dr. Will Horton

    Wow! I was so prepared to ask tough questions of my guest, Dr. Will Horton, because I found some of the claims he made sounded outrageous to me. Really?
    And, I asked those tough questions about addiction, recovery, pain, and shame...and more!
    When I read one of his book titles, my antennae went up:
    "How to Get Others to Do What You Want and Have Them Think It was Their Idea"
    Oh, no! That sounds so manipulative and under-handed, right?
    That's why I called this episode "Contrary Ways." He is a master at making outrageous statements and then backing them up with reason, logic and science. You'll see as you listen. You might not agree but it will make you think!
    We talked about how the body never forgets and the body keeps the score because trauma is encoded. So, what does he say you can do about it? Listen in!
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...

    What does Dr. Will mean when he says "how to get others to do what you want and have them think it was their idea?"Why was reading Psychocybernetics by Dr. Maxwell Maltz a turning point for him? (It was for me, too!)Why does Dr. Will Horton think everything is persuasion?What horrible and astounding fact does he share about the Heaven's Gate cult?Why is Dr. Will an ardent twelve-stepper? Why does shame keep a person in a toxic relationship?What about genetics and predisposition in addictions?How can you help an addicted person? Can you?
    GUEST: DR. WILL HORTON
    Dr. William D. Horton, Psy.D, CADC, CI, MH, is the world’s Leading Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer, and a top hypnosis trainer. He is also a Licensed Psychologist, Certified Master Alcohol and Drug Counselor, and Master Hypnotist Trainer
    Dr. Horton was one of the few non-law enforcement people asked to attend the FBI Crisis/Hostage Negotiation Course at the FBI Academy.
    Dr. Horton’s passion for NLP and Hypnosis come from personal experience. Not only has he used NLP and Hypnosis to overcome alcohol addiction, he’s also used these techniques to win numerous karate tournaments and work as an actor in film, and stage.
    He has dedicated his life to advancing training and education in the mind sciences, especially for those suffering from addictions.
    Dr. William D. Horton has run in-patient and out-patient Substance Abuse treatment centers as well as Psych Units in prisons.
    Dr. William D. Horton has taught people all over the world the skills of NLP, Hypnosis, Performance Enhancement, and the Art of Business Communication. He is the founder of NFNLP, the National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming and the creator of several best selling home study courses on NLP and Hypnosis. A prolific writer, Dr. Horton’s articles on NLP and Hypnosis are regularly featured in “The Journal of Hypnotism,” the country’s largest hypnosis publication. His articles are considered a must-read in the field of hypnosis and psychology. His NLP and Hypnosis courses and workbooks have won acclaim for their easy-to-understand format.
    Dr. William D. Horton has won more awards in the field of hypnosis and NLP from independent organizations than anyone.
    FREE GIFT FROM DR. WILL :
    Look for it on his website: Quantum Psychology: There is More to You Than Meets the Eye
    DrWillHorton.com
    CONTACT INFO FOR DR. WILL HORTON:
    Website: JordanGoldrich.com
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    • 38 min
    The Upsides For Workplace Warriors To Lead And Succeed - GUEST: Jordan Goldrich

    The Upsides For Workplace Warriors To Lead And Succeed - GUEST: Jordan Goldrich

    Do you feel like a warrior when you go to work?
    Do you feel like you MUST be a warrior?
    Warriors are tough. Is that a necessity for getting people to work together and produce desired results?
    My conversation with Jordan Goldrich, author of Workplace Warrior, had some surprises. The subtitle of his book is "People Skills for the No B.S. Executive." He immediately brought up the word, abrasive, to describe many leaders. Not a surprise! Sometimes people think they have to be tough, competitive, and yes, abrasive in order to be seen as a leader. Often, that backfires!
    If you're going to be successful at work, you have to create a workplace that people are not afraid to go to. So, how does a leader create the desired balance?
    Two big pieces of advice from Jordan:
    "You have to show respect and compassion to others. Talk to them like they are human beings...because they are."
    "Acknowledge and apologize for your past behavior."
    That's where his seven steps to an apology come in.
    Great insights for leaders who want to be better, leaders who need people skills!
    Excellent information for everyone who goes to a workplace every day.
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...

    Why do we need a war metaphor for this?Why do workplace leaders think they have to aggressive?What's the difference between what he calls "straight talk," and having no filters?What makes leaders abrasive?How can leaders and would-be leaders learn to be assertive without being degrading or demanding?Why is it that abrasive executives are often overly-protected?What are his seven steps to making an apology?
    GUEST: Jordan Goldrich
    Jordan Goldrich partners with executives to drive results without damanaging relationships. He is the co-author of the newly published book, "Workplace Warrior: People Skills For The No BS Executive."
    He is a Chief Operations Officer, Master Corporate Executive Moach (MCEC), Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and California Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW.) He is partner in the business consulting firm CUSTOMatrix, Inc, and an executive coach for the Center for Creative Leadership.
    FREE GIFT FROM JORDAN :
    The Battle Plan. A downloadable excerpt from his book, Workplace Warrior
    WorkplaceWarrior.com
    CONTACT INFO FOR JORDAN GOLDRICH:
    Website: JordanGoldrich.com
    Podcasts:
    LinkedIn: @jgoldrich
    Facebook: @jordan.goldrich
    Instagram: @jordangoldrich
    Twitter: @jordangoldrich1
    YouTube: @jordangoldrich
    CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
    Website: TransformingRelationship.com
    Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
    Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
    Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
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    FREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®
    If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your fir

    • 36 min
    Ass-Kickin' Advice for Step-Moms GUEST: Kathy Hammond

    Ass-Kickin' Advice for Step-Moms GUEST: Kathy Hammond

    We have so many images of step-moms. Angels, devils, and everything in between!
    My guest, Kathy Hammond, is the author of How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms.
    You might relate!
    She says, "Books on step parenting hope to evoke a kumbaya feeling. That might work if everyone involved in the step family dynamic is mature, empathetic and certainly not narcissistic. In reality are very raw emotions of jealousy, anger, resentment and fear, experienced by ex-spouses and subsequent spouses and, as chief casualties, the kids."
    Being a stepmom is difficult. You step into a place where someone else's shoes are already filled, in most cases. You're the bonus mom. You also may be perceived as the unnecessary extra mom, too.
    Whoa! How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorney, and Then Some! Strong words. I'm sure many stepmoms will relate. Do you? Are you in a new relationship where you're screaming (at least, in your head)
    "My husband's ex cannot let go! My husband's ex causes too many problems! My husband's ex won't let go!"
    Maybe your partner's ex is a #Hijackal. If you're dealing with a #Hijackal ex--a difficult, toxic, unrelenting, demanding ex--when you're the new stepmom, you're going to have a steep learning curve. There will be days! You'll wonder why you ever said yes to taking on someone's children.
    Will it strengthen your new marriage by working as a team, or will your new partner be overwhelmed by the stress? Maybe, you'll land somewhere in between.
    Listen today and shortcut the journey to success as a stepmom. Feel better about your stepmom role. Kathy Hammond has twenty-seven years of experience as a stepmom so she's done some heavy lifting for you.
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...

    What do I do to get a great start when I take on someone else's children? What CAN I do to improve family dynamics when I'm the stepmom?What if my husband's ex is toxic?How do I keep myself out of my husband's last relationship?How do I handle the money situation when there is an ex in the picture?Why is an annual review of child custody and child support essential?How can I enforce my boundaries in a new relationship with his children?What can I expect when the children's bio mom remarries? What about divorce attorneys?What about dealing with in-laws?
    GUEST: KATHY HAMMOND
    Kathy Hammond is an award-winning author, speaker and CEO of a recruitment solutions company in Orange County, California. The focus of her work is helping people find their voice and their place.
    A native of Southern California, Kathy and her family moved to Guam after graduating high school, satisfying her newfound wanderlust. She attended the University of Guam, falling in love with Hemmingway and Margaret Mead. With a dream of writing her way through distant cultures, she landed a job selling ad space for This Month and Guam and Micronesia magazine where she begin writing commercially before becoming its Editor, also writing for the then-popular Off Duty military magazine.
    Wanting to earn her writing chops on something bigger, after spending time in Japan and, later, while living in Switzerland, Kathy started writing a novel about American baseball players in Japan. She loved writing dialogue but fiction was not to be her genre. She returned to California and contin

    • 38 min
    Why Health and Healing Require Trust and Listening GUEST: Dr. Elizabeth Hughes

    Why Health and Healing Require Trust and Listening GUEST: Dr. Elizabeth Hughes

    What do you do when you don't feel well?
    Do you ignore it and hope it will go away?
    Do you become interested in the needs of your body?
    Just because your parent had a disease or condition, do you believe you're next?
    Today's guest, Dr. Elizabeth Hughes, has exciting news:
    "YOUR FUTURE IS NOT WRITTEN IN YOUR DNA."
    What would change for you if you believed your future is not written in your DNA? Such an important belief to challenge!
    Dr. Hughes talks about why it is important to listen to your body. She says,
    'Our bodies communicate with us all the time. Our big job is to actively listen."
    Are you listening to your body? Does it happen to be telling you that you're stressed, but you don't want to believe it?
    So much wisdom, along with new insights, in today's episode.
    Learn more about Complementary Medicine.
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...
    What is energy medicine?Is western medicine not enough?What caused you to expand beyond the traditional areas of western medicine?Can we trust our bodies to lead us on the right journey to health?What about denial of what our bodies tell us, are maybe screaming at us?How did having a toxic relationship affect your life?How does a toxic relationship affect your health?How do feelings and beliefs change health, from a biological perspective?What is the most important subconscious belief to change your health?How do supportive relationships make you healthier?How can I take steps to become healthier right away?
    GUEST: ELIZABETH HUGHES, MD
    Dr. Hughes is a dermatologist and former faculty member at Stanford University, where she taught dozens of physicians, including many nationally-recognized leaders in the field of dermatology.
    Nearly twenty years after graduating from medical school, Dr. Hughes witnessed the rapid resolution of a patient’s chronic illness without any medical intervention. This event caused Dr. Hughes to question everything she had been taught about health and illness, and to look for better answers for “incurable” conditions.
    Her quest lead her to investigate ancient spiritual traditions, non-western systems of health and healing, placebo research, and the emerging sciences of epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology. In the process, she became a registered yoga teacher, a certified health coach, and a practitioner of several energy medicine modalities.
    Dr. Hughes has developed a revolutionary approach to health based on establishing trust in the human body. Dr. Hughes believes that once each person has cultivated a deep and abiding trust in the power of the human body, our experience of health and illness will change for the better forever.
    FREE GIFT FROM ELIZABETH:
    The Stress Antidote Guide
    TheStressAntidote.com
    CONTACT INFO FOR ELIZABETH HUGHES:
    Website: ElizabethHughesMD.com
    Podcasts:
    LinkedIn: @ElizabethHughesMD
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elizabethhughesmd
    Instagram: @
    Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jEHughesMD
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    CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
    Website: TransformingRelationship.com
    Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
    Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
    Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
    LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
    Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
    YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
    Want my help? New client's one-hour introductory session only $97
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    • 45 min
    Mid-Life Dating, Sex & Finding True Love GUEST: Jonathon Aslay

    Mid-Life Dating, Sex & Finding True Love GUEST: Jonathon Aslay

    Fearful? Skeptical? Not sure you trust yourself to choose well? Unsure about trusting when you start to date again?
    You'll likely have some of that when you're dating in mid-life, especially if you have left a toxic relationship?
    You hear the term, self-love, so often these days. Do you know what it really means? What are your assumptions about it?
    I actually don't use that term much because of the ambiguity. In today's episode, my guest, Jonothon Aslay, and I discuss this because sometimes the term causes me to roll my eyes. Really, that's true. But, I loved Jonathon's definition of self-love, and that makes the discussion all the more juicy!
    It's awkward to know when the best time to ask about previous relationships is, right? Do you get it out of the way at the beginning, or is there a better time for that question?
    See all the question below that I asked Jonathon. So much great information, and excellent insights, too.
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...
    What inspired Jonathon Aslay to write about dating and self-love?What is his definition of self-love?How does mid-life dating differ from dating earlier in life?What are the red flags in mid-life dating?Are there questions to be avoided on first dates? When is the best time to talk about previous relationships when dating a new person?Why does Jonathon call venting "empowered problem-solving?"What are the roadblocks women face when understanding divorced men?What questions should women ask when going out with a divorced man?What are the differences between men who have been divorced and men who've never married?
    GUEST: JONATHON ASLAY
    The focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE.
    After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation.
    He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.
    Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.
    FREE GIFT FROM JONATHON:
    Chapters from his book, What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway?
    http://www.jonathonaslay.com/love/
    CONTACT INFO FOR JONATHON ASLAY
    Website: JonathonAslay.com
    Podcasts:
    LinkedIn: 
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/consciouscoupling.jonathonaslay/
    Instagram: @
    Twitter:  https://twitter.com/jonathonaslay
    YouTube: 
    CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
    Website: TransformingRelationship.com
    Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
    Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
    Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
    LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
    Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
    Pinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
    YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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    • 39 min
    How Living in Alignment with Your Human Design Leads to Success GUEST: Chetan Parkyn

    How Living in Alignment with Your Human Design Leads to Success GUEST: Chetan Parkyn

    HUMAN DESIGN? What immediately came to mind when you read that?
    Human Design is a system that "illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input," as today's guest, Chetan Parkyn says.

    "We get distracted in our lives from the moment we arrive here.

    We become conditioned not only from the attitudes and behaviors of the family and circumstances in which we are born, but we also have ingrained in our genetic codes unconscious patterns from our ancestry.

    Human Design illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input.

    It highlights the "Cards we are dealt at birth," the Soul Agreement we made before the conditioning and before we were introduced to the concept of good or bad.

    My work is to not only illustrate an individual's codes but also to indicate how to play these codes or "cards" to ensure personal recognition, self-acceptance, self-love and ultimate fulfillment.

    Being in love with your own life, establishes a sure foundation for any an all interactions and relationships."

    Understanding what Human Design offers you can change your direction. When I first encountered it, twelve years ago, I was relieved. What I had been doing to let people know about my work was the exact opposite of what my Human Design invited me to do.
    Wow! Everything changed. I invite you to get Chetan Parkyn's free Human Design report to help you with initial insights. It may be just what you most need. The link is in the notes below.
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    HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
    Answers to...
    What is the Human Design approach?How are we "conditioned" to more away from our own specific Human Design?Can we change the genetic codes ingrained in us from our ancestry?What is Chetan's take on "self-love?"What does it mean to be ultimately fulfilled?How can we live the life we were mean to have before life intervened in our formative years?How is Human Design a self-remembering system?How can we learn to navigate toxic relationships better, knowing Human Design?Why is is worthwhile to know my Human Design, and how can it help me going forward?
    GUEST: CHETAN PARKYN
    Chetan Parkyn was schooled in England, and traveled the world as a troubleshooting mechanical engineer and ocean-diving engineer. In India, in 1979, while with the enlightened mystic Osho, his abilities to read for people surfaced when his gifts were recognized by two savants, who told him to “get ready” for a system that would come into his life and that he would introduce to the whole world.
    Chetan was encouraged to use his gifts to “Read” for people, and he commenced reading hands, cards, the IChing, astrology and other esoteric systems to prepare himself for the “new system.”
    In 1993, he was introduced to Human Design, recognized right away this is what the savants had foretold, and has studied, read and taught it worldwide ever since.
    His first book : Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born To Be was first published in 2009 by Harper Collins UK, and is now available in 12 language versions, reaching best-seller status in Chinese, Russian and Bulgarian. Two more books on Human Design, The Book of Lines, and 21st Century View of the IChing, and The Book of Destinies, Discover the Life You Were Born To Live are already being translated and released in oth

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