What My Ex Didn't Tell Me with Morgan Pratt The Kind of Love

Morgan returns from the first season to share her story with Aaron about all of the red flags she became aware of after dating a sociopath.
 
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:23 Aaron Talks
This is a two part episode on a heavier topic around narcissism and sociopathic tendencies.
 
In my field of work I don’t like to throw around the word narcissism or sociopath very often. I view narcissism like a scale or a spectrum.
 
I suggest people really get clear on the differences. Narcissists are very hurt wounded people on the inside who feel they need have the world revolve around them and they need to make others small in order to do that.
 
Generally speaking psychopaths are born and sociopaths are made. Sociopaths are all narcissists but not all narcissists are sociopaths. 
 
So you know… I am not a psychologist, I’m a coach and my passion is being a student of life, love and relationships. 
 
This episode is intended to bring awareness to those that might be trapped in a harmful relationship with someone who may be sociopathic or an extreme narcissist. 
 
My friend Morgan, who I dated in high school and was in an episode of the first season, has returned to tell us about her experience dating a Sociopath & a narcissist. Not a light conversation.
 
Have you found yourself ignoring red flags. Have you had the blinders on and make excuses for your partners harmful behaviors?
 
You might be in a relationship with an unhealthy destructive person and need to seek professional help. 
 
When someone has extreme manipulative behaviors, they are hiding something and don’t want you to find out. If you expose the truth, they’ll make you feel bad for it by misdirecting guilt. Thats a form of gaslighting. 
 
When you make excuses for your partner that don’t add up, you start becoming part of their disillusioned story and fantasy.
 
This is why exposing the truth with other safe people is so important. 
 
Hiding it will only make it worse. 
 
The only way out of a harmful relationship like this is to start telling yourself the truth and trusting your intuition. 
 
This first part is about understanding the red flags, because they don’t always appear that way at first. 
 
Morgan has been so bold and vulnerable to be able to share her story so that others may be able to step out of harms way.
 
Before the conversation gets started, if you’ve been listening to this podcast and something stands out to you or you’ve had an aha moment or maybe rethought love in someway. Please go ahead and leave a review and share your experience. It helps others learn from their experiences as well.
 
 
3:20 min 
Morgan starts out telling a story about being told to smile by a drunk gay guy at a bar, and how she called him out.
 
Misogyny doesn’t always come from strait men. 
 
Morgan didn’t feel unsafe, but she speaks about how the Me Too moment has allowed her to speak up. 
 
 
5:15 min
Aaron turns the conversation over to talking about dating a sociopath, the story of Morgan’s experience. 
 
Some people experience it more often than you think but a lot of women experience some form of abuse and it’s not until they’re told that a light comes on and it makes sense.
 
 
6:40 min
Morgan mentions the classic move and red flags are love bombing super hard. Saying things like You’re everything they’re looking for. Like they are studying you.
 
Everything moved quickly and for Morgan it was the first time she had let a boyfriend move in with her so quickly.
 
The person on the receiving end is overlooking the red flags. 
 
 
9:30 min
Red flags are just something to be aware of and question intention. Be aware and ask why someone is so ready to move in so quickly for instance. 
 
Aaron talks about being aware of putting all of yourself in to the relationship, but it was different for Morgan. The relationship se