Worthy of Space Podcast Kati Kumpulainen

Themes: Hyper-Independence Hypervigilance, Interdependency, Trauma, Childhood Wounds, Parentification, Emotional Neglect, Abandonment, Relationships, Inner Child, Healing.

Summary:
Were you described as the 'easy daughter'? Our 'independent child'? The one who 'always just takes care of herself so well'?

Yup, I've heard all of that hundreds of times too—and so may you! In today's episode, you and I will discuss how needing to grow up and become an adult way too early in your childhood can cause unwanted suffering in our lives—in other words, what hyper-independence is all about. We will explore where it originates, what it means, how it can negatively affect your life and how to release it. You will hear examples from my own life how it showed up for me, and my best tips on how to become healthily independent while also knowing how to count on others when needed.



(00:00) Intro



(01:22) What is hyper-independence



(02:51) The origins: emotional neglect and parentification



(05:25) The origins: abandonment wounds



(13:29) The connection between trauma, coping mechanisms & nervous system



(16:34) Challenges of hyper independence



(26:18) Negative effects of hyper independence



(30:49) The importance of learning to ask for help



(32:10) Inner child healing, play and reparenting



(37:03) Practicing vulnerability and self-compassion

Summary:

I'm so happy you found your way to this episode because this is something everyone needs to hear and know about. Today I will go through the key findings from the longest study of happiness ever been done. You will learn what are the key components to live more happy and healthy life, how to increase happiness in your own life and also what to avoid. I will of course bring up my own examples from my life, how I've experienced these findings to be true and how I've integrated them in my own life—Some of them before even knowing about this research and its findings!
Such an exciting and powerful topic, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did researching about it!

References:

Good genes are nice, but joy is better
https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/

What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5jnEizYzQl0

Themes: Self-reflection, Self-awareness, Codependency, Dating, Self-love, Attachment Styles, Inner Child Wounds, Fear of Abandonment, Healing.



Summary:

On this episode I truly get close up and personal! I'm reflecting on how non-linear healing is, how easy it is to slide back to old codependent patterns and how to avoid that—and make sure you stay YOU while dating new people! I will share my own tools that I created to keep you in check that you don't start to lose parts of ourselves when relating romantically to a new person! We all know dating can be challenging and I hope this episode will help you (and me!) to navigate through it with a bit more awareness and compassion towards ourselves.


Ps. I will practise vulnerability myself and share a very personal letter of mine at the end of the episode!


(00:00) Intro

(01:17) Summary of learnings so far

(02:28) Slipping into old codependent habits

(03:58) Losing parts of self

(06:33) Fear of abandonment and codependency

(10:12) Tools to overcome fear

(11:34) Moving forward with compassion

(14:16) Creating a self-accountability list

(20:14) Self-reflection and personal letter

Themes: Attachment Theory, Attachment Styles, Insecure Attachment, Secure Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Anxious Attachment, Disorganized Attachment, Childhood Trauma, Human Connection, Nervous System Regulation, Self-love, Relationships, Dating, Self-belief, Vulnerability, Trust, Healing.

Summary:


Are you often worried your partner will leave you? Feeling anxious if they take longer to text back to you? Having a hard time opening up and sharing your vulnerable side with your friends? Does asking help feel extremely hard for you? Sounds familiar? Then you're in the right place and it all makes sense. Trust me. Today I'll share my recent learnings about the newest research of attachment theory and 4 different attachment styles. I will explore how the styles are developed and how they affect your way of connecting to other people, and finally, how to recognize your own style. I will reflect on my own experience and challenges and discuss the ways how to heal from insecure attachment and learn to become more securely attached - the goal being able to relate to other people with more ease and comfort.


Link to Mel Robbins podcast BONUS Meditation – Listen for 21 Days to Reprogram Your Subconscious: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6iuQPR8NmdzWonuvHwsFA2?si=gxLKazZqRwWDcDOW-ZGvcA



Find me on Instagram: @katikumpul

https://www.instagram.com/katikumpul

Themes: Relationships, Healing, Autonomic Nervous System, Regulation, Dysregulation, Polyvagal Theory, Neural Exercise, Sympathetic and Parasympathetic Nervous System, Fight or Flight, Freeze, Dorsal, Ventral, Self-awareness, Triggers, Trauma, Disconfirming Experiences, Inner Co-Regulation, Regulating Tools.

Summary:


On today's episode I share my recent learnings about the autonomic nervous system, how it affects our daily life and how to regulate your own nervous system. I will discuss some practical tools I've been using for a while + some new tools how to self-regulate and the potential benefits that come from spending more time in a regulated state. I will share my own life's examples of being in a dysregulated state, the struggles that arises and how to start learning to come back to regulation.



(00:00) Intro

(01:19) Understanding the autonomic nervous system

(03:07) Nervous system's role in behavioural patterns

(04:59) Sensory techniques to manage panic attacks

(06:06) How past experiences influence current reactions

(08:25) Different nervous system states

(10:45) Tools for regulating the nervous system

(13:35) Importance of being aware of different states

(16:16) Practical examples of regulation

(20:10) The importance of visualization

(22:10) Comprehensive list of regulation techniques

(37:15) Building capacity for positive experiences

(44:27) Conclusion and resources




Find me on Instagram: ⁠@katikumpul ⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/katikumpul

Themes: Healing, Self-work, Partnership, Dating, Codependency, Healthy Relationship, Self-awareness, Insecurities, Triggers, Trauma, Nervous System, Disconfirming Experiences.

Summary:

On today's episode, I'll be discussing what healing can look like in solitude and while dating another person. I'll explore the significant potential that a healthy relationship can bring to your healing journey and the importance of continuous self-discovery and mutual growth with the partner. Additionally, I'll discuss important considerations for choosing a partner to share your healing journey with.

(00:00) Intro

(01:15) How can healing look like when dating

(02:17) Triggers and reacting to them

(09:38) Powerful potential of healing together

(12:16) Challenges in dating

(13:23) Working on self & recognizing your triggers

(17:40) Codependency and insecurities

(21:35) Choosing the right partner



Find me on Instagram: ⁠⁠@katikumpul ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/katikumpul