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I’m a Mom of two amazing little humans, five dogs, three chickens & 500+ pheasants. We live on what I like to call the mini farm. But not far enough away from civilization — Instacart still delivers.

I am a lover of & advocate for all children. I'm the awkward lady at church making faces at any baby that catches my eye.

I understand how hard this job of parenthood is... whining makes my blood boil just like the rest of you. One of my sweet children is extremely spirited — and so I get it — on a level that becomes more and more personal each milestone in their lives.

My goal is to help parents love parenting and parent with love, using the support, a new perspective and simple strategies from Xo Parenting.

Xo Parenting Lauren Pace

    • Parenting
    • 4.9 • 59 Ratings

I’m a Mom of two amazing little humans, five dogs, three chickens & 500+ pheasants. We live on what I like to call the mini farm. But not far enough away from civilization — Instacart still delivers.

I am a lover of & advocate for all children. I'm the awkward lady at church making faces at any baby that catches my eye.

I understand how hard this job of parenthood is... whining makes my blood boil just like the rest of you. One of my sweet children is extremely spirited — and so I get it — on a level that becomes more and more personal each milestone in their lives.

My goal is to help parents love parenting and parent with love, using the support, a new perspective and simple strategies from Xo Parenting.

    21. Stop Ignoring the Junk Behaviors

    21. Stop Ignoring the Junk Behaviors

    Consequential behaviors include any behavior that threatens life or health or injury to a child student or others. If behavior is consequential, then the parent or teacher needs to intervene. So, this is physical aggression. This is you know throwing pencils at the teacher. Whereas inconsequential behavior is behavior that is not harmful or damaging but it's simply annoying.

    So, inconsequential behaviors would be things like whining, crying, tantrums, complaining, talking back, rolling your eyes, sarcasm, muttering under one's breath. All of these behaviors make up about 90% of inappropriate behaviors. That’s what research has found that most behaviors that we're dealing with each day are actually inconsequential. So, they do not need a consequence I agree with that. I agree that most of these behaviors do not need a consequence. So, the definitions of consequential and inconsequential behavior I’m on board with.

    However, when people start to then say just ignore the inconsequential behavior and they call it junk behavior and they just say just ignore the junk behavior. Just ignore the junk behavior it's going to go away.

    That is where I start to have a problem. Okay. Before I get super far into this I’m not going to go on this like 500 hour tangent but I do just want to say that positive reinforcement is such a powerful tool but that doesn't necessarily mean that you know you have to do everything else that ABA and positive parenting and behaviorism is. Okay. You don't have to just ignore the behavior. You don't have to change behavior shift behavior because when we just focus on behavior and we don't focus on the child and the child's needs and all of this. We're missing an opportunity to attach with our children. We’re missing an opportunity to really understand our child's sensory needs our child's temperament that kind of thing. So, I do think that it's a bigger picture than just oh this is our child we're going to teach it to sit-stay you know they're not dogs. They’re not pets. We want to create opportunities where we can create bonds with them. Where, we can understand their emotions, their feelings, that kind of thing.

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    • 23 min
    19. Rethink Your Toys | How Kids Learn Series

    19. Rethink Your Toys | How Kids Learn Series

    The main purpose of having open-ended toys is learning. So more toys than not should be able to serve multiple uses and engage them in different ways. But there is a place for the others too. BALANCE.

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    • 11 min
    20. Creating a Consent Culture with Rosalia Rivera

    20. Creating a Consent Culture with Rosalia Rivera

    I've decided recently that I actively want to work on creating a culture of consent in my home and family. If my kids don't like something they can say "I don't like it" and if the child doesn't respond then they can walk away and they don't have to feel any guilt about what that other child's feeling because it's okay to you know to create this space and have a break.

    What consent is really understanding the concept of body autonomy.

    Body Autonomy: My body belongs to me I get to do what I want with it and no one can tell me what to do with it

    Find Rosalia

    consentparenting.com @consentparenting on IG + FB

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    • 27 min
    18. Shift to Parent on Purpose with Teresa Williams

    18. Shift to Parent on Purpose with Teresa Williams

    How can we realize if we're parenting from a place of intention and purpose or if we're being influenced and parenting from a place of habit?

    Teresa: Okay, one way is just to ask yourself a question, have I ever considered my parenting? Like, did I truly think about my core values, the core values that I want to give my children have I truly thought about and like remember when I said there's a parallel between like in corporate and parenting, how I thought about my family mission statement most times you know we want to have a baby we want to have a family we just have one and we go. So ask yourself have I really gone through the thought process because yes we want the best for our children but have we thought about what's my mission statement for my family, what's my purpose statement? And when you just think about it like well, I really haven't dug deep to ask questions about this journey of parenting where I want to go its habit, it's just oh I’m going to be a parent let's do this.

    Find Teresa

    instagram.com/theparentonpurposecoach

    https://m.facebook.com/theparentonpurposecoach

    https://www.parentonpurposecoach.com

    • 22 min
    17. Avoid the Power Struggle

    17. Avoid the Power Struggle

    I have a free four-day listening conference. It's one hour of video total, but today I’m going to put in the audio for day one of this listening conference. I feel like every single day has so much value, but I want you to be hooked here first so that you want to get into the conference listen to the rest of the videos and hopefully, it will change your life and help your child learn to listen. So, without further ado I’m going to just plug in the day one of my free listening conference right here into this podcast, so you can listen right now. Access the rest of the listening conference in the show notes, it's free.

    Access the conference here: https://xo-parenting.teachable.com/p/help-your-kids-choose-to-listen

    • 26 min
    16. Build in Time for Play with Alanna Gallo

    16. Build in Time for Play with Alanna Gallo

    Alanna: So, I am the founder of a brand called play, learn, and thrive. Well, I’m still a teacher so I’m a public school teacher I’ve been teaching for about 10 years and after I became a mom I sort of saw the issues that I was seeing in public school and realized that I wanted to do something about it. And so, I founded this brand this company to help educate parents and just to give them permission to step back and let their kids play, not push early academics and just kind of allow kids to really have a childhood.

    Xo Playtime

    Yay, we just finished another play podcast because I love learning through play. A quick reminder that you can join anytime our XO playtime membership where you can access all of my XO playtime learning plans. Each plan is centered around a theme and includes creative arts, reading, and writing, math and engineering, science sensory, dramatic play, social studies which is code for field trips and gross motor play along with some supplemental activities at the end some book ideas and some super fun engaging interactive learning through play activities to create your little problem solvers and engineers.

    Go to XOLaurenPace.com/XOplaytime for more information or click the link in my show notes.

    Find Alanna here

    @playlearnthrivekids (FB, Insta, Pinterest, Twitter)

    https://playlearnthrive.com

    • 19 min

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