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Young Black Married Christian

LaShaude and Dorianna James
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We are here for people who have discovered how challenging day-to-day marriage is and are searching for a resource to grow through the process. Join Our Inner Circle Here: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/

  1. FEB 3

    Why Your Spouse May HATE Your Apology

    https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/ In this episode, you will learn the 3-step "apology system" that does more than just stop the fighting—it actually "disarms" your spouse and turns your biggest arguments into "bouquets of roses." If you’ve ever felt like your apologies don't get very far, you cannot afford to miss the advice at 7:25 regarding the one thing that matters more than words.… 0:00 – Introduction Welcome to the Young Black Married Christian podcast with Lashaud and Doriana James.1:42 – Biblical Foundation for Reconciliation A look at Matthew 5:23 and why God prioritizes reconciliation over religious offerings.2:44 – Tip 1: The Speed of Your Apology Why apologizing slowly is often rooted in pride and how "dead space" fuels arguments.4:03 – Tip 2: Explaining the Impact The power of articulating your spouse’s feelings to disarm conflict.5:04 – Real-Life Example: Sleep Deprivation and Irritability Lashaud and Doriana share a personal story about a recent disagreement and how they navigated it.7:25 – Tip 3: The Plan for Changed Behavior Why the best apology is a strategy for change, referencing Ephesians 4:28.9:05 – Public vs. Private Apologies Why an apology should be as public as the offense.10:55 – Thorns vs. Roses How to shift your perspective to see growth after a disagreement.12:00 – The Phenomenal Family Inner Circle Details on how to access the Marriage MBA, budgeting courses, and more.16:20 – Final Encouragement and Closing A prophetic word of encouragement for your day and marriage.Key TakeawaysDon't Let the Sun Go Down: Speed is essential to prevent pride from taking root.Validate Their Pain: When you explain how you affected your spouse, they no longer have to fight to make you understand.Actions Speak Louder: A plan for different behavior in the future is what makes an apology trustworthy. Never Forget.... The people who want the best in their marriage... Invest in their marriage.

    19 min

  2. 04/26/2025

    How to Parent Without Losing Your Cool

    02:41 – The Challenge of Parenting Without a Playbook 03:39 – Guiding Scripture: 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 04:38 – How the Love Test Became Their Family’s Only Rule 05:37 – Teaching Kids to Filter Behavior Through Love 07:05 – Integrating Faith and Parenting with Simplicity 08:05 – The Love Test as a Filter for Parenting Books and Advice 09:03 – Discipleship Through Daily Love and Behavior 10:59 – Teaching Love from the Inside Out (Not Just Compliance) 12:25 – Parenting With Virtue Over Rules 13:23 – Reflection: Are You Parenting From a Framework or Just Rules? 13:51 – Action Step: Propose “Love as the One Rule” to Your Spouse 14:46 – Extending Love Beyond Parenting: Leadership and Integrity 15:46 – Love-Centered Leadership Shifts Priorities From Profit to People 19:02 – Companies Built on Love Outperform the S&P 500 by 1400% 20:27 – Don’t Use Business-Only Tools for Parenting 21:54 – Using Love as the Core Framework Across All Life Arenas 23:17 – The Power of Consistency: Being the Same at Work and Home 24:44 – C.S. Lewis and the Idea That the Mask Is Your True Self 26:10 – Love in Apology: How to Repair Mistakes as a Parent 27:35 – Redo Moments: Letting Kids Practice the Right Behavior 28:32 – Recap: Love, Leadership, and Living with Integrity 29:58 – Ask Your Questions via SpeakPipe or Access More Resources 30:59 – Final Word: “Connect Before You Correct” 🤔 Submit Your Question:🎤 Leave a voice question via SpeakPipe 📚Get All Our Resources:🎁 Join the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle Bundle – Lifetime Access, One Flat Price

    33 min

  3. 04/15/2025

    How to Talk About Money Without Shutting Down or Blowing Up

    01:49 – What Jesus and Proverbs Teach Us About Money 02:47 – The S.A.F.E. Framework for Budgeting 03:48 – How to Steward Your Money to Honor God 05:42 – How to Get on the Same Page with Your Spouse 10:35 – How to Focus on One Budgeting Goal 14:48 – How to Bring Enthusiasm to Your Budget Meetings 16:42 – Final Recap: Stewardship, Agreement, Focus, Enthusiasm 17:11 – Action Step: What’s Your Small Step Today? 🤔 Submit Your Question:🎤 Leave a voice question via SpeakPipe 📚Get All Our Resources:🎁 Join the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle Bundle – Lifetime Access, One Flat Price

    18 min

  4. 12/21/2023

    How to Reflect God's Forgiveness in Relationships

    LaShaude and Dorianna James explore how the gospel strengthens marriages by fostering heaven on earth, emphasizing forgiveness and rejecting perfection. They advocate for modeling relationships after Jesus' love, promoting forgiveness and deeper spiritual connections. 04:16 - Understanding the Gospel's Impact: Experiencing Heaven on Earth 06:35 - The Power of Gospel Understanding: Creating Paradise in Marriage 08:57 - Reflecting God's Love: How Forgiveness Transforms Relationships 11:37 - Role of Forgiveness: Overcoming Resentment in Marriage 14:49 - Gospel's Solution: Addressing Selfishness, Fear, and Laziness 18:00 - The Gospel as a Role Model: Influencing Marital Dynamics 21:41 - Conclusion & Engagement: Resources for Enhanced Marital Bonds 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Let Us Coach Your Relationship Today: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching

    23 min

  5. 12/14/2023

    Breaking the Chains of Laziness: Igniting Action in Your Marriage

    🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching In this episode, you'll discover tips to reignite passion and overcome obstacles, unraveling the secrets behind nurturing an enduring connection. Timestamps: 08:38 - Surpass Apathy, Nurture Love 09:31 - Realize Your Marriage Dream Board 10:31 - Break Free from Ignorance's Grip 11:57 - Craft a Vision for Remarkable Relationships 13:18 - Discover True Relationship Wealth 14:17 - Seek Wisdom in Marriage Models 15:41 - Elevate Your Marriage: Extraordinary! 17:01 - Expand Imagination for Relationship Blessings 18:00 - Journey Beyond Familiar Relationship Paths 19:21 - Reimagine God's Plan for Your Marriage 20:17 - Embrace a Boundless Vision for Love 21:41 - Unfold God's Plan for Your Relationship 23:36 - Unveil Miracles in Your Marriage 24:27 - Redefine Relationship Boundaries 25:50 - Open Doors to Divine Relationship Growth

    27 min

  6. 12/07/2023

    From Fig Leaves to Fully Known: Overcoming Barriers to Intimacy in Marriage

    🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching This episode delves into the profound essence of intimacy, guiding listeners through the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships. It offers insights on shedding masks and embracing authenticity, fostering stronger connections. The discussions touch on the importance of genuine community, encouraging listeners to create safe spaces for emotional expression and growth. It navigates the complexities of intimacy, spanning beyond physicality to encompass emotional, financial, and spiritual aspects. With tangible examples and relatable anecdotes, it equips individuals with tools to cultivate openness, trust, and grace in their relationships. Ultimately, this episode serves as a roadmap for fostering deeper connections and experiencing the richness of genuine intimacy in all facets of life. Below are some detailed timestamps. Feel free to HOP in wherever! 3 00:00 - Introduction, Setting the Stage 00:26 - Encouragement to Download, Introduction of Hosts 00:54 - Reflection on Podcast Evolution and Material Sharing 01:24 - Reflecting on the Last Episode's Depth 01:50 - Banter on Parenting and Topic Introduction: Fear of Intimacy 02:19 - Exploring Fear of Intimacy in Relationships 03:18 - Concealing True Selves, Withholding in Relationships 04:13 - Importance of Being Fully Known for Full Love 05:11 - Gospel's Role in Allowing Openness in Relationships 06:08 - Encouraging Intimacy with God's People and Spouse 07:03 - Experience of Love Within Community and Marriage 07:31 - Impact of Vulnerability in Strengthening Relationships 07:56 - Battling Enemy's Lies through Openness and Community 08:54 - Strengthening Against Enemy's Attacks Through Support 09:50 - Importance of Genuine Christian Community 10:19 - Experiencing God's Grace Through Community 10:47 - Actively Participating in a Godly Community 11:16 - Fighting for Authenticity in Relationships 11:44 - Shedding Secrecy to Embrace Vulnerability 12:11 - Overcoming Past Family Dynamics for Intimacy 12:39 - Consistently Pushing for Emotional Openness 13:03 - Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability 13:27 - Cultivating a Safe Place for Emotional Expression 13:56 - Integrity and Wholeness Through Openness 14:26 - Addressing the Tiring Facade of Secrecy 14:44 - Biblical Perspective on Wholeness and Intimacy 15:11 - Analogies of Wearing Fig Leaves in Relationships 15:35 - Encouragement to Drop the Mask, Embrace Fullness 16:03 - Establishing a Groundwork for Intimacy 16:33 - Ensuring Forgiveness and Grace in Relationships 17:00 - Initiating Tough Conversations for Intimacy 17:30 - Encouraging Full Disclosure and Support 17:59 - Cultivating an Environment of Forgiveness 18:23 - Embracing Imperfections and Growth Together 18:51 - Transition to Defining Intimacy 19:19 - Into-Me-See: Defining True Intimacy 19:41 - Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection 20:08 - Sharing Vulnerabilities, Insecurities, and Stories 20:35 - Intimacy in Financial and Emotional Sharing 21:05 - Aim for Progress, Not Perfection 21:34 - Building a Relationship Rooted in Trust 22:02 - Encouraging Openness in Marriage 22:26 - Preparation for Uncomfortable Conversations 22:55 - Embracing Fullness in Relationships 23:22 - Dive into Intimacy's Core Meaning 23:51 - Beyond Transactional Relationships 24:20 - Fighting for Emotional Transparency 24:49 - Acknowledging Challenges in Vulnerability 25:19 - Various Forms of Intimacy to Explore 25:49 - Conclusion & Encouragement for Intimacy

    28 min

  7. 12/05/2023

    How To Improve Your Communication and Intimacy Without Feeling Lost For Words : Revisited

    🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily Free Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family Personalized Coaching For Your Relationship from the James Family: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/coaching [02:17] Some Scripture [02:58] Don't Be A Fool [03:55] Report vs Rapport [04:20] Destination vs Journey [05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them [08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster [10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application [11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This [12:20] Intimacy In Conversations [13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night [13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift [14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse? [18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd

    22 min

  8. 11/30/2023

    Overcoming Selfishness: A Guide to Spiritual Unity in Marriage

    Discover the beauty of marriage through the lens of faith! In this episode, we'll explore how shared beliefs and prioritizing each other are strengthened by faith. Uncover invaluable tips on building a resilient, loving bond, navigating challenges, and experiencing the profound impact of including God in your marriage. 05:09 - How to Understand the Impact of Selfishness on Oneness 07:58 - How to Prioritize Your Spouse's Spiritual Growth 10:20 - How to Trust God's Work in Your Spouse's Life 12:04 - How to Develop Spiritual Rhythms Together 16:22 - Conclusion: How to Focus on Overcoming Selfishness & Personal Growth 🤔 Submit Your Question: https://www.speakpipe.com/JamesFamily 14 DAY Free Online Training: https://www.themarriagesecrets.com/family

    30 min
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