2 hrs 5 min
S1 E9 Guard Tower Conversations - Form Brothers in Time
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- Mental Health
I've found that the hard part is knowing that life is all about choices and still fucking up. Choosing to believe the best in me instead of always focusing on the worst that to be honest only I can see. Sometimes it's putting myself to work harder and move past it, other times admitting that's just how it is. I did my best and it has to be good enough. Holding on to negative thinking about me, by me, only serves to punish me. It doesn't help. Other times it's just realizing that because I see it, does not make it real. I've been wrong in my life more than I've been right. Just knowing that fact helps me feel better about me. Take an accurate look at the good in your life. If you are responsible for all the bad you are responsible for every good.
Check it.
When you have "negative" "7" whatever event or thought or memory
That means you have "positive" "7" just to get back to zero
I know it's corny but that is a fact. For me I am always focusing on the worst case scenario (thanks to the army and childhood "issues") trying to stop some impending action I do not want to happen.
Physically
I can only control two things in life. My actions, and My reactions. Focusing on manipulating these was the beginning of shadow work for me. Essentially becoming more methodical and less reactionary.
In my head I can talk, I can I guess I would say think? And some other thing that is more physical like I actually feel things I can only describe as E-motion or energy.
Emotionally.
It's harder because theres no fucking manual for our feelings except in therapy. Your thoughts become words. Your words become actions. Changing thoughts is a challenge, you honestly have to question EVERYTHING you think. The why, why. Why (insert literally any question about a thought or memory) then why (whatever it is you feel is an issue) and continue.
This is the part for me that is the fucking hardest to see. All these whys lead back to a decisive point. It's either based in love ( I love this) or fear (I'm afraid of this) even fear is just loves’ shadow. But I digress
Everytime you try you get closer to succeed.
Growth fucking hurts. It gets better , like all things, it gets easier with time and practice. For me the key has been trying to be a better man today than yesterday, if not today, its okay tomorrow is a new day.
If you think you are up for a challenge.
Go to the mirror and stare at yourself in the eyes for sixty seconds. Like really look into your heart. Then say OUTLOUD one positive thing about "you" to "you". If you are like me the first time will fucking break you.
If you can't do that. I recommend calling somebody, a professional somebody. There are tools that they teach that makes this shit fucking easy
I want to be clear. It gets easier, it never stops being work.
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I've found that the hard part is knowing that life is all about choices and still fucking up. Choosing to believe the best in me instead of always focusing on the worst that to be honest only I can see. Sometimes it's putting myself to work harder and move past it, other times admitting that's just how it is. I did my best and it has to be good enough. Holding on to negative thinking about me, by me, only serves to punish me. It doesn't help. Other times it's just realizing that because I see it, does not make it real. I've been wrong in my life more than I've been right. Just knowing that fact helps me feel better about me. Take an accurate look at the good in your life. If you are responsible for all the bad you are responsible for every good.
Check it.
When you have "negative" "7" whatever event or thought or memory
That means you have "positive" "7" just to get back to zero
I know it's corny but that is a fact. For me I am always focusing on the worst case scenario (thanks to the army and childhood "issues") trying to stop some impending action I do not want to happen.
Physically
I can only control two things in life. My actions, and My reactions. Focusing on manipulating these was the beginning of shadow work for me. Essentially becoming more methodical and less reactionary.
In my head I can talk, I can I guess I would say think? And some other thing that is more physical like I actually feel things I can only describe as E-motion or energy.
Emotionally.
It's harder because theres no fucking manual for our feelings except in therapy. Your thoughts become words. Your words become actions. Changing thoughts is a challenge, you honestly have to question EVERYTHING you think. The why, why. Why (insert literally any question about a thought or memory) then why (whatever it is you feel is an issue) and continue.
This is the part for me that is the fucking hardest to see. All these whys lead back to a decisive point. It's either based in love ( I love this) or fear (I'm afraid of this) even fear is just loves’ shadow. But I digress
Everytime you try you get closer to succeed.
Growth fucking hurts. It gets better , like all things, it gets easier with time and practice. For me the key has been trying to be a better man today than yesterday, if not today, its okay tomorrow is a new day.
If you think you are up for a challenge.
Go to the mirror and stare at yourself in the eyes for sixty seconds. Like really look into your heart. Then say OUTLOUD one positive thing about "you" to "you". If you are like me the first time will fucking break you.
If you can't do that. I recommend calling somebody, a professional somebody. There are tools that they teach that makes this shit fucking easy
I want to be clear. It gets easier, it never stops being work.
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/brothersintime/support
2 hrs 5 min