Love and Libido Emily Jamea, PhD, LMFT, LPC, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist

Sexual scripts comprise your attitudes, values, beliefs, feelings, and behaviors about sex. They are formed from a very young age and are affected by your upbringing, culture, religion, experiences, and expectations about gender. Holding too rigid of a sexual script inhibits pleasure and satisfaction, especially as you age. Given the fact that we are living longer, we need to talk about how to adapt our scripts to our lives as they evolve. Early in 2021, Jim Benton decided on a career change. After many years in the Special Events industry, and the ravages of Covid-19, Jim took a deep dive […]

Fat is not a dirty word. It’s not a bad word. And it shouldn’t have negative connotations. But unfortunately, it still does. We live in a society that celebrates thin bodies and judges fat ones. But the fact is, everyone, regardless of their body type, is entitled to experience love, connection, and great sex. On this episode, I’m joined by an expert on fat sexuality to challenge myths, breakdown stereotypes, and offer hope to people struggling to accept their big body. Note to smaller people listening, you can learn a thing or two from this episode.
Tamara Pincus is a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT certified sex therapist who runs The Pincus Center which offers individual and relationship therapy, coaching and sex education. She specializes in working with fat, kinky, polyamorous and LGBTQ clients. Tamara has been working in the field of sex therapy since 2011 and since then has built a practice with a team of 10. Tamara is passionate about racial justice, fat justice and LGBTQ rights. She also co-authored a book titled “It’s Called Polyamory: Coming Out About Your Non-Monogamous Relationships” with Rebecca Hiles.
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Are you someone whose past sexual trauma is preventing you from enjoying sex at your full capacity? Do you even know what your full capacity is or have you like so many people accepted mediocre sex as your norm? Today, we’re going to talk about how reclaiming, reconnecting, and rediscovering vital parts of yourself can propel you out of trauma and into sexual pleasure.
Kim Coffin is a certified Trauma Informed, Somatic (body-based) Empowerment & Sexuality Coach, Bestselling Author & Teacher, a graduate of Layla Martin’s Institute of Integrated Tantric Sexuality, and founder of Get Your Sexy Back.
She specializes in Sexuality, Tantric Sex and Relationship Transformation giving you the tools to unleash your sexual confidence and unlock profound new levels of self-love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with yourself – and in your relationships!
By creating deep trust and safety in your body and mind, Kim will show you how to RECONNECT to your body, ACTIVATE your turn-on, HEAL heartbreak & shame, and RECLAIM your true SEXY self so that you can fully step into your UNAPOLOGETIC POWER!
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If you like what you hear, don’t forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released.
If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show.
And don’t forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Do you long for a sense of effortlessness, harmony, and synchronicity when you make love to your partner? Do you want to experience a sense of unity and surrender to the moment? Then you need to listen to today’s episode. The feelings I just described can only happen when you and your partner are highly attuned. Being attuned means that your bodies sync up with each other. Your breathing and heart rates move in unison, which – the latest research shows – massively amplifies sexual pleasure and satisfaction. I am fortunate to be joined by sexual attunement expert, Dr. Bridget Freihart.
Bridget is a Ph.D. candidate in clinical psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is currently completing her training as a Clinical Fellow at Harvard Medical School. Her research, which focuses on the role of relationships in sexual and reproductive health, has been featured in a range of leading medical journals. In addition to her work as a scientist, Bridget specializes in the delivery of cutting-edge interventions designed to optimize emotional and sexual health.
If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released.
If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show.
Exciting news! You can now pre-order my book, "Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion," from your favorite book retailers. Don't miss out on securing your copy early!
And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Social media has completely changed the landscape of relationships. It gives couples a lot of gray area to consider when thinking about what constitutes as cheating or even little boundary violations. How does social media affect relationships? Can it offer any benefit? How do you talk to your partner about boundaries regarding social media use? We are going to chat about all of that and more in today’s episode. 
I’m joined by my friend and colleague, Dr. Rachel Needle. Dr. Needle is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice as well as an Adjunct Professor of Psychology at Nova Southeastern University. She is the founder and CEO of the Advanced Mental Health Training Institute and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provides continuing education to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Glamour and Cosmopolitan.
If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released.
If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show.
Exciting news! You can now pre-order my book, "Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion," from your favorite book retailers. Don't miss out on securing your copy early!
And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.

Have you ever wondered what the secrets are to long-term love and attraction? Well, we have some interesting new research that sheds light on what the happiest couples already know. Get your pen and paper ready because whether you’re dating or partnered, you’re about to learn the key ingredients for lasting intimacy. 
I’m joined once again by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, who conducted the research I mentioned and compiled it for us in her new book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love. 
Dr. Sara is a Social Psychologist who specializes in Sexuality, Relationships, and Intercultural fluency. Her commitment to the growth of our human community manifests itself through her multi-dimensional efforts as a thinking partner, educator, consultant, author, keynote speaker, and media commentator.
Thank you to BetterHelp, an online therapy platform that has already helped millions, for sponsoring the show. Get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting www.betterhelp.com/dremily or by using code DREMILY at check out.
If you like what you hear, don't forget to leave me a five-star review. Your positive feedback helps me grow so that we can continue having these engaging, informative, and fun conversations. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to follow & subscribe so that you’ll be notified when a new episode is released.
If you have a question or a story you would like to share, you can submit it at www.loveandlibido.com. You can either email in your story or you can record your submission, whatever is easier for you. We always give you the option to have your voice professionally disguised with our fancy editing software, so no worries if you would like to remain anonymous. Or if you’re loud and proud, and you want to tell us who are as you share your question, that is fine too. We are also collecting story submissions as well. You can follow me across all the social media channels @dremilyjamea. That’s usually the best place to see what information we are looking for as it relates to topics we are discussing on the show.
And don't forget to check out my online workshop, Anatomy of Desire: 5 Secrets to Lasting Intimacy. Visit www.emilyjamea.com/workshop for your free sample. Subscribers can use code HALFOFF for 50% off.