Episode 124: Boundaries & Numbing—How to Set Healthy Limits and Stop Avoiding Your Feelings

If you’ve ever struggled to set boundaries or wondered why it’s so hard to respect them in others, this episode is for you. We dive deep into how to set and receive healthy boundaries, and why so many of us confuse healthy limits with toxic behaviors. Spoiler: setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s necessary for healthy, thriving relationships.

But that’s not all. When our boundaries are shaky, complicated emotions—like guilt, resentment, or anxiety—often arise. And instead of dealing with them, many of us reach for quick fixes: we numb. We avoid confronting those tough feelings that boundaries bring to the surface. Today, I’ll break down why we numb, how to recognize it, and the steps you can take to stop avoiding your emotions and start healing.

This episode covers:

* The difference between healthy boundaries and toxic behaviors

* How to communicate boundaries without guilt or shame

* Practical ways to receive boundaries from others gracefully

* How to recognize when you’re numbing emotions (and what to do about it)

* Why boundaries and emotional numbing are deeply connected—and how to untangle them

You deserve relationships that nourish you, not drain you. This episode will help you understand the power of boundaries and guide you toward emotional freedom.

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