I Should Say That Out Loud

Donna Brendel
I Should Say That Out Loud Podcast

When Donna Brendel was diagnosed with autism as an adult, the drive behind her passion for advocacy made more sense than ever. Her special interest is fighting for hurting people. She has a lot to say, and she's finally ready to say it out loud.

  1. Understanding Autism - Help Me Help You Help the World

    21 JUN

    Understanding Autism - Help Me Help You Help the World

    Donna Brendel, a late diagnosed autistic woman, shares her struggles with expressing her thoughts and ideas out loud. She introduces her podcast, 'I Should Say That Out Loud,' as a platform for herself and others to share their thoughts and experiences. Donna discusses her inspiration from other podcasters and YouTubers, such as Taylor Heaton, Jordan Peterson, and Justin Root. She outlines her plan to create a community where people can engage with each other and share their voices. Donna invites listeners to subscribe, comment, email, and potentially be a guest on her show. She has decided to only "lightly edit" this episode so that you can see more of the real Donna and her thought processing moments. She naturally uses a lot of eye movement to access information and thoughts in her brain before she is able to put her thoughts together and speak them out loud. Even with verbal abilities, expressing thoughts and ideas can be challenging for individuals with autism, but having a platform like a podcast can provide a space for them to share their voices. Drawing inspiration from other podcasters and YouTubers has helped Donna in developing ideas and strategies for content creation. Creating a community where people can engage with each other and share their experiences can lead to a better understanding and acceptance of autism, which is Donna's ultimate goal. Subscribing, commenting, and potentially being a guest on the podcast are ways for you, the listener to actively participate and contribute to the community. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: Struggles with Expressing Thoughts and Ideas 00:46 What My Show Is About 03:26 Discovering the Purpose of 'I Should Say That Out Loud' 05:58 One of My Favorites - Taylor Heaton, Mom on the Spectrum 07:36 One of My Favorite Thinkers - Jordan Peterson 08:35 My Newest Favorite, The Justin Root Show 09:22 I Am My Own Producer 10:35 How Stars Are Made Nowadays - Jordan Peterson & Dennis Quaid 12:40 Putting My Thinking Sweater On 15:27 Microscope (That's Me) and Macroscope (That's All of You) 17:17 Help Me Help You Help the World 20:10 Subscribe, Comment, and Email 24:11 Today's Question: Favorite Piece of Clothing, But Falling Apart  @MomontheSpectrum   @JordanBPeterson   @TheJustinRootShow

    29 min
  2. Part 4 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe

    12 JUN

    Part 4 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe

    In this conversation, Autistic Friends, Donna (from USA  @IShouldSayThatOutLoud ) and Orion (from Australia  @orionkelly ) discuss how autism affects individuals physically, including the impact on self-care and the tendency to forget basic needs. They also explore the challenges of explaining special interests versus hobbies and the importance of understanding and acceptance from family and friends. The conversation highlights the need for increased awareness and understanding of autism's physical manifestations and the importance of advocating for better nutrition and overall well-being. They laugh and get serious and then laugh some more, and what better way to get through some difficult topics than with some laughter. We'd love to hear how you relate to the topics of this conversation, in any of the Parts, 1-4. What else would you like to hear Donna and Orion discuss in their next conversation? Chapters: 00:19 Discussing Orion's Book "Autism Feels...An Earthling's Guide" 01:07 Gently and Patiently Increasing Awareness & Understanding 02:24 Family & Friends Placing Neurotypical Expectations on Us 03:49 It's Your Responsibility to Learn About Your Autistic Loved-One 05:27 Harmful Comments by Pre-Enlightened Family & Friends 05:56 Sadly, No Quick Revelations of Understanding (by Family & Friends) 07:44 Making Friends & Gaining Acceptance Around the Planet 11:24 How Autism Affects Us Physically 13:01 A History of Un-Diagnosable Physical Manifestations 16:44 Advice for Healthier Outcomes Before the Snowball Effect Causes Bigger Issues 20:45 Physical Pain vs. Ache vs. Annoyance & the Difference in Autistic Reactions 21:23 Nutrition Needs & Struggles for Autistic Kids & Their Parents 22:30 Concluding Thoughts - Signing Off From Around the Globe

    25 min
  3. Part 3 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly

    5 JUN

    Part 3 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly

    Autistic Friends Orion  @orionkelly  and Donna  @IShouldSayThatOutLoud  discuss several pages and topics from Orion's book "Autism Feels...An Earthling's Guide." There's so much more to share in a conversation between friends than can be fit into a book, including shared experiences between friends. Orion discusses the importance of including autistic voices in parenting and the workforce. He emphasizes the need for professionals to have a better understanding of autism and the lived experiences of autistic individuals. Orion also highlights the challenges of self-care for autistic people who are deeply invested in their special interests. He compares and contrasts the concept of hobbies vs. special interests for the autistic community and explains how special interests are a form of therapy and regulation for autistic individuals. Including autistic voices in parenting and the workforce can lead to better outcomes for autistic individuals. Professionals in fields such as criminal justice, mental health, and employment should have a better understanding of autism and the unique needs of autistic individuals. Special interests are an important form of therapy and regulation for autistic individuals. Autistic individuals may struggle with self-care when deeply invested in their special interests. The concept of casual hobbies can be difficult for autistic individuals to understand, as our special interests often consume our lives. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Friendship 00:20 Creating Better Outcomes Through Autistic Voices 00:55 Creating Better Outcomes through Autistic Voices 00:56 Mental Health and Suicide in the Autistic Community 03:00 Criminal Justice System Interactions for the Autistic Community 05:38 Misunderstanding Can Lead to Health Misdiagnosis in the Autistic Community 07:07 Intertwine Lived Experience Workforce & Parenting Supports 10:24 Greetings in an Autistic World 10:42 Understanding and Accommodating Autistic Individuals in Various Settings 13:20 Social Awkwardness & Unique Perspectives for Autistic Individuals 14:32 Special Interests vs. Hobbies for the Autistic Community

    20 min
  4. Part 2 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly

    30 MAY

    Part 2 - Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly

    In this week's conversation, Donna Brendel (USA) introduces and interviews her friend from across the globe, @orionkelly Orion Kelly (Australia), a content creator, podcaster, author, and advocate for autism. They did into Orion's book, "Autism Feels: An Earthling's Guide" and page by page reminisce through shared experiences of childhood costumes, attachment to things, bullying, being sent to stay with family, the importance of alone time, how helpful key people were to integral to their lives, and parenting autistic children. Coming up next week in Part 3... In this part of the conversation, Orion and Donna will discuss the importance of having lived experience voices in parenting and the workforce. They emphasize the need for autistic individuals to be involved in helping parents raise their autistic children and in providing insights to professionals in various fields. They also highlight the significance of understanding and accommodating autistic individuals in settings such as criminal justice, mental health, healthcare, and employment. Orion shares his perspective on how autistic people can offer unique insights and contribute to better outcomes. They also touch on the topic of social interactions and how autistic individuals may have different default greetings and reactions to new people. Coming up in two weeks in Part 4... In this part of the conversation, Donna and Orion will discuss how autism affects individuals physically, including the impact on self-care and the tendency to forget basic needs. They also explore the challenges of explaining special interests versus hobbies and the importance of understanding and acceptance from family and friends. The conversation highlights the need for increased awareness and understanding of autism's physical manifestations and the importance of advocating for better nutrition and overall well-being. Coming up sometime in the future... Donna and Orion have barely scratched the surface of Orion's book. They have so much more to talk about, so watch for their next AFChLAG later this year... Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe, that is... Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Digging into Orion's book, "Autism Feels: An Earthling's Guide" 00:58 Childhood Costumes 04:15 Attachment to Things 04:59 Bullying - It Never Ends 08:30 Being "Shipped Off" to Family 11:25 Autism Genetic Paternal Link and "Maternal Cocktail" 13:33 Alone Time - Getting Away to Breathe 15:41 But for These People... 17:30 You Just Need Someone to Believe in You 17:35 The Angry Parent Trap 18:13 When Our Kids Are Masking at School 20:33 When You're a Parent of an Autistic Kid

    21 min
  5. Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly - Part 1

    21 MAY

    Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe - with Donna Brendel and Orion Kelly - Part 1

    In this week's conversation, Donna Brendel (USA) introduces and interviews her friend from across the globe,  @orionkelly  Orion Kelly (Australia), a content creator, podcaster, author, and advocate for autism. They have a blast discussing their friendship, their experiences with autism, and the importance of sharing their stories. They also talk about their respective books and the challenges of writing and publishing. The conversation touches on themes of identity, resilience, and the power of connection. Have a laugh along with them, it's good for you! Coming up next week in Part 2... In this part of the conversation, Orion and Donna will discuss the importance of having lived experience voices in parenting and the workforce. They emphasize the need for autistic individuals to be involved in helping parents raise their autistic children and in providing insights to professionals in various fields. They also highlight the significance of understanding and accommodating autistic individuals in settings such as criminal justice, mental health, healthcare, and employment. Orion shares his perspective on how autistic people can offer unique insights and contribute to better outcomes. They also touch on the topic of social interactions and how autistic individuals may have different default greetings and reactions to new people. Coming up in two weeks in Part 3... In this part of the conversation, Donna and Orion will discuss how autism affects individuals physically, including the impact on self-care and the tendency to forget basic needs. They also explore the challenges of explaining special interests versus hobbies and the importance of understanding and acceptance from family and friends. The conversation highlights the need for increased awareness and understanding of autism's physical manifestations and the importance of advocating for better nutrition and overall well-being. Coming up sometime in the future... Donna and Orion have barely scratched the surface of Orion's book. They have so much more to talk about, so watch for their next AFChLAG later this year... Autistic Friends Chatting & Laughing Around the Globe, that is... Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Friendship 01:39 Discovering Autism and Parenting 03:26 The Power of Sharing Personal Stories 07:31 Navigating the Challenges of Writing and Publishing 12:08 Building Resilience and Finding Connection

    20 min

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When Donna Brendel was diagnosed with autism as an adult, the drive behind her passion for advocacy made more sense than ever. Her special interest is fighting for hurting people. She has a lot to say, and she's finally ready to say it out loud.

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