Finding Serenity in the Midst of Chaos Dr. Tülay Massey

We are talking about feeling good enough - or not feeling good enough as the case maybe.

 

One of my clients said this is how she felt before we started our coaching journey together: “No matter how much I achieve and what job title I have I will never feel good enough! I was seeking the credibility, legitimacy and approval of others.”

 

You might be feeling the same.  

 

It was as if her value depended on how much other people saw it and validated it. This is why she spent most of her time to have that validation and ended up with burnout.

 

You see, your value does not depend on other people's ability to see it! It depends on how much you value yourself! Because other people, don't care about you, they care about themselves and therefore their interpretation of YOUR value might change depending on how much you do for them, how much they need you or how useful they think you are.

 

...and you guessed, this can change! But your value doesn't.

 

Today we talked about why women like you (and J- my client) never feel like they are good enough and what you can do to change that even if you are not confident in yourself!

  

Don't take my word for it, tune in today as I talk about how you can feel good enough now no matter where you are in life and in your career and discover it for yourself.

 
How about you?  What is stopping you from feeling good enough now? 

 

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Have you ever wondered just 'what are the benefits of working with a coach?"

Well, today, the tables are turned and I get to interview Ian Fleming, my podcast partner, to hear his experience of working with me in the past 4 years.

I asked Ian what life was like before we embarked on this journey together.

He explained some of his biggest realisations as a result of working with me. He told listeners how this affected and still affects his daily life.

He then shared the 4 most significant things he learned and still applies every day. 

If you think you don't need a coach, this might change your mind.

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If you are at a crossroads in life, you might start to wonder "How can I find what I want next in life despite the uncertainty of the future?"

This is why today, we talked about this question and more importantly how to answer it without the overwhelm that comes with it.

I went through this process 6 years ago when I started questioning what I wanted to do next with my life.

I was already in a job that I had been in for a long time and leaving my career behind seemed silly.

I was full of fear about the uncertainty of the future. Using the process I described in this episode I got myself out of fear and found great clarity.

It is because of this process I am here talking to you and changing lives whilst doing what I love.

Watch the full episode to discover this simple process.

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How do you prioritise your own needs over everything else you have to do in any given day? More importantly, WHAT should you prioritise amongst all your needs as a person?

When it comes to priorities, most people I work with tend to prioritise other people, their work, their kids, their parents etc,  Prioritising yourself is important because if you don't, not only will you suffer but everyone who depends on you will suffer. But what are your top 4 needs that need to be taken care of before any other?

Today I gave some insights into those 4 needs and what can happen when they are not satisfied first.

They were:

1. SLEEP

2. NUTRITION

3. EXERCISE

4. STRESS

Tune in and listen to the full episode to find out, how all of these are interlinked and how neglecting one will affect the others.

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Today, we are talking about how to stop worrying about the uncertainty about the future.

I gave 6 different ways to train your brain to stop focusing on the unwanted future and start focusing on now. This will give you more control of the situation and help you deal with it much better now and in the future.

1. Accept that the uncertainty exists and stop resisting it, thinking about it and ruling your life!

2. Once you accept the situation, you'll feel more in control and you can tell your mind to STOP worrying and focus on something more productive like taking action towards the outcome you want. 

3. Focus on the outcome you want - Most people focus on unwanted scenarios which makes anxiety about the future worse. 

4. Connect with your purpose - the thing that drives you and inspires you from within (not the thing that everyone else keeps saying you should do because they are doing it) 

5. Make some things certain when working towards your purpose- with the habits you choose, your daily routine etc, to help your brain have the comfort it is seeking.

6. Spend 5 minutes a day to focus on your vision and how you'll feel when everything works out exactly the way you want it. This is how athletes prepare for their big wins.

I also gave a BONUS one that you may not have heard before. Listen to the full episode to discover what the bonus is.

Reach out to me to let me know which one of these you applied and how it worked for you.

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If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have 😍 A better mental and physical health 🤗 Enhanced compassion 😊 Feeling of calm and peace 😴 Better sleep  😎 Improved self-esteem.  just by making gratitude a habit? Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day. It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation. I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!

 

 

Gratitude is the attitude, right?

But what sort of gratitude?

You might be thinking, what do you mean what sort of gratitude? How many sorts are there?

Well, as it turns out there are 5 levels/types of gratitude and this is exactly what we are talking about today.

I recently became aware of these levels through one of my mentors and wanted to share it with you, because it is mind-blowing!



No gratitude- complaining and being a victim!- 99% of people do this, without even knowing.



Being grateful for the things you have in your life- your health, family, running water, food, money, your house etc. - Most people who have some level of awareness operate here and that is a good thing.



(Here is the big one)- Being grateful for the things you do not yet have in your life!- What? How can I be grateful for the things I don't yet have?-- well ponder on that, cause I will come back to it another day.



Being grateful for the bad things that are happening in your life- like having to homeschool (yet again) your 2.4 kids whilst trying to get some work done and keep your sanity!



Realising and being grateful for that there are no good or bad things. There are just things happening in our life and they are happening FOR you, not TO you.Which level are you currently operating from?



LIsten to the full episode today to discover my example of practising level 4 gratitude with the events that happened on the weekend.

 

If you are serious about attracting what you want in life, make gratitude a part of your daily routine and watch amazing things happen...

Did you know that you can have 😍 A better mental and physical health 🤗 Enhanced compassion 😊 Feeling of calm and peace 😴 Better sleep  😎 Improved self-esteem.  just by making gratitude a habit? Well, I have just the thing for you to integrate gratitude into your daily life in just 8 minutes a day. It is what I call a 'Heartfelt Gratitude' meditation. I put it together just for you and it is now available to anyone who wants to use it for FREE!

Go to www.tulaymasseycoaching.com/gratitude and start living your life in gratitude right now!