56 min
Appreciate & Request | Episode 239 Lunchtime in Rome
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- Health & Fitness
Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 239 is entitled “Appreciate and Request”. We all want better relationships. We introduced a level up challenge a few weeks ago. Maybe there’s a simpler way. That’s what we’re talking about tonight!
Pull up a seat at the table and join us!
Level Up Challenge…an alternative
* Spending time appreciating
* List 6 areas where you appreciate the other person
* Be specific. looking particularly for things you may have come to take for granted
* Examples
* I’m grateful for your diligence as a provider for our family.
* I’m thankful for your faithfulness and loyalty as a wife.
* I’m thankful for the way you show you care with words and touch.
* I appreciate your sensitivity to others feelings
* Request your needs to be met
* Things you might like to see concerning improvements and changes in this relationship
* Be specific and positive as you look for major items of importance to you
* Examples
* I’m hoping you can become more comfortable initiating affection.
* I’d like to see all cursing and abusive language stop.
* I wish we would not criticize one another in front of others—particularly our children.
* I’d hope that you might speak respectfully to those in authority.
* Share your lists with one another
* Be genuine, showing interest, emotion, and good eye contact, dedicated, private, and unrushed time alone
* Be positive, encouraging, and looking to the future with hope.
* Examples
* It would be important to me if
* It would mean a lot to me if.
* I’m looking forward to the time when
* Benefits
* Sharing your requests helps avoid the destructive cycle of:
* Having expectations and anticipations (i.e. requests) of another person.
* Not communicating these requests.
* But, becoming hurt or angry when these expectations aren’t met! This isn’t fair to either of the parties.
* Exchange lists if it will help you remember some of your partner’s “Requests”
* Practice Appreciation
* Make no further mention of the “Requests” during the next month. (To do so would be to approach “nagging” and actually hinder progress.)
* Make consistent effort to share praise for your “Appreciation” List plus other appreciation that come to mind.
* Look for opportunities to share praise and appreciation
* Privately with one another during daily conversations and private times
* Publicly when in the company of others. like family members, children, or friends
* In writing with special notes, cards, or gifts
Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe
Welcome everyone and pull up a seat at the table. It’s Lunchtime in Rome. Tonight’s episode 239 is entitled “Appreciate and Request”. We all want better relationships. We introduced a level up challenge a few weeks ago. Maybe there’s a simpler way. That’s what we’re talking about tonight!
Pull up a seat at the table and join us!
Level Up Challenge…an alternative
* Spending time appreciating
* List 6 areas where you appreciate the other person
* Be specific. looking particularly for things you may have come to take for granted
* Examples
* I’m grateful for your diligence as a provider for our family.
* I’m thankful for your faithfulness and loyalty as a wife.
* I’m thankful for the way you show you care with words and touch.
* I appreciate your sensitivity to others feelings
* Request your needs to be met
* Things you might like to see concerning improvements and changes in this relationship
* Be specific and positive as you look for major items of importance to you
* Examples
* I’m hoping you can become more comfortable initiating affection.
* I’d like to see all cursing and abusive language stop.
* I wish we would not criticize one another in front of others—particularly our children.
* I’d hope that you might speak respectfully to those in authority.
* Share your lists with one another
* Be genuine, showing interest, emotion, and good eye contact, dedicated, private, and unrushed time alone
* Be positive, encouraging, and looking to the future with hope.
* Examples
* It would be important to me if
* It would mean a lot to me if.
* I’m looking forward to the time when
* Benefits
* Sharing your requests helps avoid the destructive cycle of:
* Having expectations and anticipations (i.e. requests) of another person.
* Not communicating these requests.
* But, becoming hurt or angry when these expectations aren’t met! This isn’t fair to either of the parties.
* Exchange lists if it will help you remember some of your partner’s “Requests”
* Practice Appreciation
* Make no further mention of the “Requests” during the next month. (To do so would be to approach “nagging” and actually hinder progress.)
* Make consistent effort to share praise for your “Appreciation” List plus other appreciation that come to mind.
* Look for opportunities to share praise and appreciation
* Privately with one another during daily conversations and private times
* Publicly when in the company of others. like family members, children, or friends
* In writing with special notes, cards, or gifts
Get full access to Lunchtime In Rome Podcast at www.lunchtimeinrome.com/subscribe
56 min