Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Janna Denton-Howes: Marriage Coach | Sex Educator | Low Libido Expert
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Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.

Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    Breaking Free from the Traps of Tough-Guy Culture - with Keith (Part 1)

    In this two-part episode, Keith shares the first part of his story. Growing up as a child of color, Keith learned early on what was and wasn’t acceptable to express around his family and friends, especially the men and boys. While the women in his life supported his artistic side and sensitivity, Keith feared being labeled as weak or ridiculed by the men. His culture taught him that toughness and strength were the key qualities of being a "real" man. As a result, Keith struggled with his emotions in his marriage. He longed for a deeper connection with his wife, but nothing he'd been taught from tough-guy culture seemed to work. Feelings of confusion and resentment grew, and he felt rejected and unwanted. When his wife tried to express her wants and needs, he couldn’t hear her without becoming very defensive. After finding Janna's work, Keith begins to unpack what he has learned to make sense of his jumbled emotions and find the real connection he was seeking. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    1h 11m

  2. 11 FEB

    Adventures in Online Dating, Faith, Betrayal & Low Desire - with Brandi | Ep. 133

    In this enlightening episode, 40-year-old Brandi shares her inspiring journey of self-discovery and rekindled desire. Growing up in southern Utah within the Mormon faith, Brandi's sex education was rooted in the belief of abstinence until marriage. After her first marriage ended due to years of betrayal, she ventured into the eye-opening world of online dating before meeting her current husband.  In the beginning, their sex life was amazing, but after she became pregnant, her desire faded completely, and things became challenging. She and her husband found themselves stuck in endless arguments, and Brandi felt lost and broken, unsure of where to turn for help.  Everything changed when she discovered Janna’s Doing It Together program. Through the program, Brandi experienced many powerful “aha” moments and, together with her husband, learned how to reignite their connection. Now, with hope restored, Brandi shares the transformative lessons they’ve learned. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    49 min

  3. 4 FEB

    Feeling Broken and Alone While Searching for Answers About Low Libido - with Kate | Ep. 132

    Kate and her husband started out having what she describes as a great sex life. It felt exciting, easy and fun and her pleasure was easily accessible. As the years passed and life got more stressful and overwhelming, her desire plummeted. She couldn’t understand what happened. She started keeping a calendar to track how often they had sex and if too much time went by she would shame herself into doing it. Even though sex felt fine in the moment, she had no desire and felt broken and very alone. Desperate for help, she searched for ‘low libido’ in her podcast browser and discovered Janna’s podcast. She listened to the first episode on the way to the grocery store and exclaimed, “That’s me, that’s me, that’s me!” Hearing her story for the first time prompted her to listen and learn further, and finally take the program with her husband. Listen as Kate describes what was really going on, what she and her husband learned, and how their communication and sexual relationship has dramatically improved.  Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    59 min

  4. 28 JAN

    Couples Share How Their Relationship Thrived by Doing It Together | Ep. 131

    On the final day of the last round of Doing It Together, Janna and her team gathered all the husbands and wives for a farewell Zoom call. During this heartwarming session, she asked, "What’s been your most unexpected takeaway from this program?" The couples’ honest responses were deeply moving. After just eight weeks on their journey, they had already made remarkable progress in rekindling their intimacy. Although the journey wasn’t without its challenges, witnessing their progress in real-time continually reinforced the mission of Doing It Together—to empower couples with the skills to create an intimate life that feels fulfilling for both partners. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    1h 4m

  5. 21 JAN

    The Doing It Together Team Answers Your Questions - with Janna, Melissa & Justin | Ep. 130

    In this special episode, Janna talks with her coaching teammates, Justin and Melissa, about the upcoming round of Doing It Together, what couples can expect from the program, and common questions they are asked about low libido and sexual connection from both men and women. Justin and Melissa answer: What are men and women worried about when considering joining Doing It Together?What would you say to someone considering joining but is on the fence?What do you hear men and women share about their experience of Doing It Together? How have their lives improved and become better? You can listen to Justin and Melissa's personal stories by listening to these previous episodes: Justin's Story in Episode 82 Melissa's Story in Episode 4 Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    49 min

  6. 14 JAN

    Understanding Anxiety and Emotional Suppression in Men - with Kris | Ep. 129

    From a young age, Kris learned to suppress his emotions and handle his feelings alone. His friends, family, and culture reinforced this mindset, showing him quick fixes for managing his growing anxiety, such as drinking alcohol, using drugs, or turning to adult entertainment. Over time, he became an expert at burying his emotions, but this came at a cost—dark moods, silence, and withdrawal from his family and marriage. After decades of living this way, Kris hit a breaking point and, with hesitation, opened up to his wife about his struggles. What he didn’t know was that she had been listening to Janna’s podcast for years and suggested they try the Doing It Together program. In this episode, Kris shares his transformative experience in the program, how he faced his greatest fears, and what he’s learned about emotions, communication, and the difference between intimacy and sex. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    49 min

  7. 7 JAN

    Overcoming Years of Silent Tension & Unspoken Emotions - with Chloe | Ep. 128

    Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn’t come naturally to them. Her husband’s moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years. Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna’s program but never mentioned it to her husband, fearing it might hurt his feelings. Eventually, after reaching a breaking point, they had an honest conversation and decided to try the Doing It Together program. Chloe shares how surprised she was by what she discovered about herself, especially the depth of certain issues she hadn’t fully recognized before. Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

    1h 5m

  8. 1 JAN

    Tim's Journey from Confusion to Clarity in His 30-Year Marriage | Ep. 127

    Tim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn’t. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him. Thankfully, Tim’s wife discovered Janna’s podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immediately recognized their own experience in what was being shared, and they decided to sign up for the program. In the men’s group, Tim was able to open up honestly with other men for the first time and realize he wasn’t alone. Meanwhile, in the women’s program, his wife discovered she wasn’t broken either. For the first time in years, they felt like they were on the same team, working together to find a solution. Listen to why Tim now feels free from the emotional turmoil that sex had caused in his life, and why he and his wife have never been closer. Episode References: Zoe’s Episode 121: https://jannadentonhowes.com/121-breaking-the-cycle-zoes-30-year-journey-to-reclaim-intimacy/ Ep. 79: https://jannadentonhowes.com/79-is-wanting-it-more-the-right-program-to-solve-my-low-libido-problem/ Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration. The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist. Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

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Doing It Together is about empowering women and men to heal from cultural messages so that they can discover true pleasure and connection in their sexual relationship and marriage. This podcast addresses the common dynamic in a heterosexual relationship in which the wife doesn’t want and enjoy sex and the husband does.Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!

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