152 episodes
Failing Motherhood Danielle Bettmann | Parenting Coach for Strong-Willed Kids
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- Kids & Family
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5.0 • 4 Ratings
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If you're riddled with mom guilt, your temper scares you, you're terrified you're screwing up your kids and are afraid to admit any of those things out loud....this podcast is for you. Hosted by Danielle Bettmann, parenting coach for families with 1-7-year-old strong-willed kids, each episode is a storytelling interview about one mom's raw and honest experience of growth that leads to new perspectives and practical strategies. Each week we will normalize the struggle, share vulnerably about our insecurities, and rally around small wins and truths. We hope to convince you you're not alone and YOU are the mom your kids need. Interviews with experts that have brilliant insight to share will be sprinkled among interviews with moms just like you. We hope you see yourself, hear your story, and find hope and healing. Welcome to Failing Motherhood. You belong here!
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GLOW UP: Feel Better In Your Body Without Changing It
For the past 6 months I’ve had the opportunity to work on my relationship with my body- no procedures, no weight loss, no supplements, just selecting and being more mindful of how I’m dressing myself and how it makes me feel.
In today’s episode I break down what kicked off the journey, the milestones along the way, and the absolute game-changer that sealed the deal!
This episode is for you if you know your appearance has taken a back seat to your kids, and more self-love is on your list this season.
IN THIS EPISODE I SHARED:
How I re-wrote the “unwritten rules” I used to dress myselfThe stores I had luck with (and where I got burned!)Takeaways I recommend to every momDON'T MISS:
The P.S. at the end that might be just what you need to hear
// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //
Colsie underwear from Target
CRZ Yoga brand on Amazon
Atolea Jewelry
Seasons of Color Omaha - Amanda Thiessen
IG: @seasons.of.color.omaha
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
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*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
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What to do when they won't let it go
Today's episode is a little bit of a different, more special setup. I had a fantastic coaching conversation with a parent of a 3 1/2 year-old about a situation that they were dealing with around an irrational hyperfixation they just could not get over or let go of no matter what they tried!
Listen as I dive into this universal experience and offer some more context around these situations and what I recommend.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
The critical step to salvaging your sanity in these momentsWhen to introduce the logic or reasoningA counterintuitive game-changer I dare you to try!DON'T MISS-
The lifesaver that is individualized feedback and support!I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
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*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic
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Do LESS and Feel BETTER: Saying Goodbye to Intensive Mothering and the "Perfect Mom" Myth with Erica Djossa
Ever feel like you're doing it ALL and it's never ENOUGH?
My guest today, Erica Djossa is a registered psychotherapist, sought-after maternal mental health specialist, and the founder of wellness company Momwell. Erica is frequently featured in media publications and her popular Momwell podcast has over a million downloads.
Her book - Releasing the Mother Load: How to Carry Less and Enjoy Motherhood More comes out TODAY (Tuesday, April 9th) and our conversation today highlights so much of the meaningful work inside it.
After she shares her "breakdown to breakthrough", Erica reiterates it’s not just us - MOMS ARE NOT OKAY. She introduces ideas like the motherload, our motherhood filing cabinet, and an activity called a Values Sort to help us become more conscious of the default patterns we've found ourselves in and how to dig our way out.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
Where the myth of the "perfect mother" comes fromThe 5 core beliefs of "intensive mothering" and what to replace them withThe measuring stick we should use to evaluate ourselves instead of blood, sweat and tearsDON'T MISS-
What it truly means to be a good mom
// CONNECT WITH ERICA DJOSSA //
Links to order the book: Ericadjossa.com
Website: http://Momwell.com
Instagram: @momwell
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
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Support the show
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic
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Caregiving, Aging, + the Sandwich Generation with Michele Magner
Many parents today find themselves in the sandwich generation where stress, guilt and burnout is real.
My guest today, Michele Magner, has earned her MBA and Master's certification in gerontology and is a Gerontology PhD student at the University of Nebraska Omaha. She's a certified life coach, certified dementia practitioner, and certified conscious aging facilitator and an adjunct professor in the fall of 2024.
As an experienced family caregiver with many years in the senior living industry, she understands the challenges that you are facing as you care for those you love.
Our conversation included dissecting how we are managing stress, how core values play into our capacity and integrity, why it's okay to fill your cup just for you, and the difference between making promises and making plans.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
Michele's vulnerable example of "failing" her daughter and the powerful realizations she took from itThe 3 "C's" all caregivers needThe Importance of bringing your kids into hard conversationsDON'T MISS-
Fascinating research around the relationship between chronological age and subjective age, and its effect on aging
// CONNECT WITH MICHELE MAGNER //
Website: www.michelemagner.com
Instagram: @inspiredcaring
LinkedIn: Michele Magner
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/Apply
Support the show
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic
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The 3 Types of Parents of Strong-Willed Kids
Which one are you? Which one is your partner?
Not only does the second half of your parenting life begin when you understand you're parenting a strong-willed child, but your self awareness sky rockets when you realize you're a Worrying Warrior.
Your next step is to evaluate whether you're parenting with a "Just tell me what to do" parent or an "It is what it is" parent.
In this episode, I break down each of these three parenting approaches, the motives behind their actions, and wedge of divide that grows between parents that feel they need to overcompensate for the other.
IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARED...
How to identify your parenting styleThe long term ramifications of you + your partner parenting from opposite ends of the spectrumThe foundation to build from and move forward withDON'T MISS:
How Chelsy and Matt found common ground
// CONNECT WITH DANIELLE //
Website: parentingwholeheartedly.com
IG: @parent_wholeheartedly
APPLY: parentingwholeheartedly.com/apply
Support the show
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic
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Life After Divorce with Paige Dempsey
Have you ever wondered what life after a divorce would even look like?
Today's guest, Paige Dempsey, is an anti-anxiety Dating and Relationship Coach for women.
In Paige’s words, she got married late and divorced early. She’s been a step mom, mom of a child with her ex, and a solo mother by choice. At the same time as her and her husband were separating, her best friend was diagnosed with cancer. She felt like she was just getting by.
In this episode, Paige holds nothing back as she narrates her thoughts and feelings both inside and outside of her marriage. She shares how she believes divorce can strengthen the kids’ experience of and relationship with their fathers, the mindset she used to move forward without fear, and the patterns she sees in her dating clients.
This episode is for you if you’ve wondered what’s on the other side of a divorce, been intimidated by leaving or dating again, or just hope to glean wisdom for your current relationships!
IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...
How Paige decided getting a divorce was the right decisionWhy Paige and her Ex get along now better than everThe difference between therapy and coachingDON'T MISS-
Paige's timeless dating advice, especially if you're on the apps// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE//
UnF*ck your Brain podcast - Kara Loewentheil
Ep. 121 of Failing Motherhood - Solo Motherhood by Choice - 9/12/23
// CONNECT WITH PAIGE DEMPSEY //
Website: www.paigedempseycoaching.com
Instagram: @datingcoachpaige
TikTok: @datingcoachpaige
I believe in you + I'm cheering you on.
Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.
Apply to work together: parentingwholeheartedly.com/Apply
Support the show
*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt
www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologetic
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Customer Reviews
Finally - let’s normalise the struggle!
Having strong willed kids of my own this podcast is exactly what I and so many parents need. With a combination of practical strategies, ideas and real stories that make us feel more normal and less alone. This podcast is a real honest look inside what many parents face alone. I’m so grateful to have found this podcast now.
The Bible all new parents need by their side
Danielle has done such a brilliant job at speaking to exactly what exhausted new parents need to hear!! I recommended this show to so many of my friends. If you have young children, you MUST listen to this!
A must listen to any parent to young kids!
I adore this podcast - Danielle and her guests have a way of making me feel seen, even though I live on the other side of the globe. There are so many things that I’ve been afraid to admit out loud but then, I’ve listened to this podcast and realised, I’m not alone.
→ hate playing with your kids, me too.
→ Yell more than you like to admit, yep.
→ Often feel like you’re failing and don’t know what you’re doing - that’s me 99% of the time.
Thank you Danielle for bringing so many incredible topics and conversations to a public space so we can all see that actually, we’re all in this together. I appreciate the realness and the encouragement so very much!