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I'm Tanya Meessmann and this is the Raising Girl Shaped Flames Podcast. It's my fundamental belief that every girl has a fire in her belly and confidence is the oxygen to those flames. If you're the parent of a teenage girl who could do with a confidence injection, listen in as we deep dive into the relationship between confidence and the areas of your daughter's life it directly impacts, such as happiness, resilience, communication, connection, and much more. This podcast aims to leave you inspired by new ways to build your daughter's self-belief and nurture her flame from a flicker into an inferno. All right, all right. Enough of the fire puns already... Let's strike the match!The Raising Girl Shaped Flames podcast is for parents looking for support and advice on how to encourage stronger self-confidence and courage within their own daughters, so as to positively affect their daughter’s life outcomes, livelihood and day-to-day happiness. A variety of guests are interviewed by GSF Founder, Tanya Meessmann, and together they discuss topics regarding the relationship between CONFIDENCE and courage, setting boundaries, assertiveness, language, stress management and much more. Each episode, Tanya is also joined by Dr Diane Harner for a ‘9 Minutes of Neuroscience’ deep dive into the selected topic.For more information, head to girlshapedflames.com

Raising Girl Shaped Flames Tanya Meessmann

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 6 Ratings

I'm Tanya Meessmann and this is the Raising Girl Shaped Flames Podcast. It's my fundamental belief that every girl has a fire in her belly and confidence is the oxygen to those flames. If you're the parent of a teenage girl who could do with a confidence injection, listen in as we deep dive into the relationship between confidence and the areas of your daughter's life it directly impacts, such as happiness, resilience, communication, connection, and much more. This podcast aims to leave you inspired by new ways to build your daughter's self-belief and nurture her flame from a flicker into an inferno. All right, all right. Enough of the fire puns already... Let's strike the match!The Raising Girl Shaped Flames podcast is for parents looking for support and advice on how to encourage stronger self-confidence and courage within their own daughters, so as to positively affect their daughter’s life outcomes, livelihood and day-to-day happiness. A variety of guests are interviewed by GSF Founder, Tanya Meessmann, and together they discuss topics regarding the relationship between CONFIDENCE and courage, setting boundaries, assertiveness, language, stress management and much more. Each episode, Tanya is also joined by Dr Diane Harner for a ‘9 Minutes of Neuroscience’ deep dive into the selected topic.For more information, head to girlshapedflames.com

    The Parent’s War on Confidence Enemies

    The Parent’s War on Confidence Enemies

    Season 2 is here and we're diving straight in with a short episode about a concept I've been mulling on recently. In this episode, I discuss an analogy of a parent's war on confidence enemies, and how we train ourselves and our daughters to fight them!

    I’d like to preface this quick episode with the following: in this episode I’m going to talk about war, however it is through a conceptual analogy and in no way meant to downplay the impact live and deadly wars are having on millions of people around the world right now, especially the ongoing war in Ukraine. 
    Speaking with a parent recently, we discussed the litany of ways that her daughter’s confidence is being compromised right now. And I mused that it feels like a fight. The parent’s fight. No wait, the parent’s war. A defensive war against threats to your daughter’s confidence, where the enemy is social media, volatile and toxic friendships, unrealistic body imagery, the media, academic pressures, perfectionism and judgment.
    I’m always keen to hear thoughts on my bold analogies, and this one has been a bit of a doozie! So drop me a line at info@girlshapedflames.com or via the Girl Shaped Flames Facebook page on whether this one resonates, and whether you feel you’re winning the war in your household.
    If you’re a parent, aunt, grandparent, educator or just anyone who cares about the confidence and self-worth of a tween or teen girl in their life, then go ahead and HIT THAT SUBSCRIBE BUTTON as we’re going to be not only diving into more juicy topics this season, but also listening in on some of the live coaching sessions Dr Diane Harner and I ran with parents of tweens and teens last year as part of our The Confident Daughter program.

    About Girl Shaped Flames: https://girlshapedflames.com

    FREE RESOURCE: Access our free Confident Breakthrough Video Series, delivered by Teen Expert Tanya Meessmann and Neuroscientist and Counsellor Dr Diane Harner: https://resource.girlshapedflames.com/cbs-2022-registration-pod

    Our signature The Confident Daughter program for parents raising tween and teen daughters: https://resource.girlshapedflames.com/the-confident-daughter-pod

    Also don't forget to sign up to our mailing list. You'll get a reminder of new podcast episodes each week as well as more great confidence resources and information for both yourself and your daughter.

    • 6 min
    RGSF is BACK! [Season 2 Trailer]

    RGSF is BACK! [Season 2 Trailer]

    Aaaaaand we’re back!

    This teaser looks ahead to Season 2 of the Raising Girl Shaped Flames Podcast, including upcoming topics such as Stop ‘fixing’ and Start Having Fun’, Negative Thinking, Convincing her to Try New Things, and the 5 key Areas of Courage Every girl needs – to name a few!

    If you’re a parent, aunt, grandparent, educator or just anyone who cares about the confidence and self-worth of a tween or teen girl in their life, then go ahead and HIT THAT SUBSCRIBE BUTTON as we’re going to be not only diving into a lot of juicy topics this season, but also listening in on some of the live coaching sessions Dr Diane Harner and I ran with parents of tweens and teens last year as part of our The Confident Daughter program.

    About Girl Shaped Flames: https://girlshapedflames.com

    FREE RESOURCE: Access our free Confident Breakthrough Video Series, delivered by Teen Expert Tanya Meessmann and Neuroscientist and Counsellor Dr Diane Harner: https://resource.girlshapedflames.com/cbs-2022-registration-pod

    Our signature The Confident Daughter program for parents raising tween and teen daughters: https://resource.girlshapedflames.com/the-confident-daughter-pod

    Also don't forget to sign up to our mailing list. You'll get a reminder of new podcast episodes each week as well as more great confidence resources and information for both yourself and your daughter.

    • 7 min
    Confidence as a Working Mum with Dana Malstaff

    Confidence as a Working Mum with Dana Malstaff

    For today’s edition of the Podcast I am joined by Dana Malstaff
    Today’s topic will take a dive into the impact that a working mum’s confidence can have on her daughters confidence development
    We sat down to gain deeper insights into:
    Women’s personal journeys and confidence blocksWhat impact can a mother’s confidence in herself have on her daughters confidenceReflections on Dana’s personal experiences with her young daughters confidenceAdvice for mum’s with daughters moving into the confidence rattling space of running a businessAnd finally, the importance of proactive confidence development in young girlsSo listen in on this not to be missed episode that covers confidence development and parenting young teen girls as a working mum. It’s a perfect time to reflect on the confidence blocks that enable you to create and sustain a successful work, family and personal life.

    If you are a mum who has a business, or are wanting to connect with a community of mums in business, come and join Dana at: https://www.facebook.com/groups/BossMomGroup

    Dana also has a free 90 Day Email Nurture System Guide, which can be downloaded here: https://boss-mom.com/90free/
    About Dana Malstaff:
    CEO and founder of Boss Mom, she is a mother of 2, author, speaker, business strategist, podcaster, blindspot reducer, and movement maker.
    She launched the Boss Mom brand with her first book, Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business and Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro, and quickly grew to a 6-figure business within a year.
    Now she’s got over 20,000 students in various courses, almost 60,000 Boss Moms in her FB group of the same name, and helps woman all over the world raise their businesses and babies at the same time.
    She believes that pursuing our passions and building our dreams while including our children in the process is the best way to build thriving businesses and families.

    • 46 min
    Mother's Day + Courageous Mums

    Mother's Day + Courageous Mums

    For today's extra special edition of the Podcast I am joined by Courageous Mums: Cheryl, Stacey and Petra.
    These incredible women are parents like you, right in the thick of it all. Each with their unique experiences and courageous parenting stories to share.
    We sat down to gain deeper insights into:
    How it feels to be a mother to a teen in the 21st CenturyHow it has personally affected their journeyReflecting on their expectations vs. the realityTouching on the fears they experience as they raise their own girl shaped flameAnd finally, what they are most proud of as parentsSo mothers, put your feet up (as you wait for your breakfast in bed no doubt) and hit play on this not to be missed conversation.
    During the episode you will hear these incredible Mums mention the Courageous Parenting Program, as past participants of the program. The next round of Courageous Parenting will be opening again at the end of this month, so be sure to head over and join the waitlist here.

    • 59 min
    Confidence and Passion with Ceara Bakes

    Confidence and Passion with Ceara Bakes

    In today's episode, I am thrilled to be joined by teen cake artist, the very talented Ceara from Ceara Bakes.
    Ceara courageously reached out to me to be interviewed for this podcast. It wasn't just her cake creations or karate skills, but her drive and determination blew me away from the get go.
    Her passion for baking brewed in the classroom when science taught Ceara about chemical reactions along with her Grandmother's baking influence, but it's her self assurance and confidence that allows her to continue to grow her passion. 
    In today's discussion, we dive into a range of topics including:
    Where her motivation comes fromThe role her friends play when it comes to combating demotivation and overwhelmSocial media and managing negative commentary The confidence she draws upon and now that she has moved her hobby into a businessInsight into how her parents supported her journey from the beginningJuggling her priorities including school workKey advice for young people wanting to follow their passionCeara’s passion for baking stems from her Grandmother, a professional baker from Ireland. She cooked her first cake on her own at the age of seven, and now seven years on, Ceara sells her incredible cake creations online.
    In January 2020, she posted in the Mornington Peninsula community Facebook group about her idea to bake cakes and donate all proceeds to a charity during the Victorian bushfires. Her hobby quickly grew into a business that she manages alongside her school life and championship karate practice.
    As a teen role model to other girls, Ceara wants girls to know that business ideas can come from anywhere and anyone, no matter their age. Her advice is to be patient, start with friends and family and:
    “Trust the process and take everything as it comes."
    Click here to check out Ceara's Instagram!

    • 39 min
    Confidence in Nigeria with Irene Bangwell

    Confidence in Nigeria with Irene Bangwell

    In today's episode, I am absolutely thrilled to speak with our first ever international guest, Irene Bangwell from Raising Girls in Nigeria.
    Irene and I connected over our respective Facebook groups, Raising Girl Shaped Flames and her Parenting Champions Community. We instantly connected over our shared values, beliefs, and of course, our hopes and dreams for young girls in each of our countries, myself in Australia, and Irene is in Nigeria.
    I can genuinely say that this was one of the most empowering, exhilarating, insightful discussions I've had with a guest on this program to date. What we cover in this episode is so aligned, and really heartening to find someone on the other side of the world that not only believes so infallibly in the premise of Girl Shaped Flames and why I've started and what we're doing, but also the fact that she's over there doing it herself.
    The work that Irene is doing to support parents in Nigeria predominantly to raise strong, confident, independent girls, brimming with self worth.
    I do want to flag up front that we touch on a couple of topics that might be sensitive to some listeners, but I do want to stress: everything we spoke about is very real and very now, and is being experienced right now by thousands of girls in Nigeria. 
    In today's discussion, we do cover a lot of ground including:
    Her own personal confidence journey and influences from a teenager to nowThe importance of the proactive development of confidence in young girlsAn example of what life is like for a 15 year old girl in NigeriaSome of the key challenges girls in Nigeria face when building their confidenceSome of the key challenges parents face when trying to raise confident daughters in NigeriaWe also spoke about The KNOSK N100-a-day Secondary School, Kuje that Irene runs
    About Irene Bangwell​
    Irene is the Co-founder, The KNOSK N100-a-day Secondary School, Kuje and Raising Girls Coach at Parenting Champions in Nigeria.

    • 51 min

Customer Reviews

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6 Ratings

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Girl Shaped Flames - Tanya Meessmann

Tanya’s work is amazing and I look forward to listening to every episode.!

I highly recommend this podcast by Tanya Meessmann and implore all parents to embrace the principles and encourage your teen/tween daughters or girls you have in your life to embed this knowledge into “their” everyday life.

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