The Memoir Bobbie Goldie

How are you? Don’t just answer with your programmed response. Take a second and really think about it . . . how are you? Personally, I know my life has been disrupted. Many of us are going through uncertain times right now with no clear end in sight. 
While the world is in the midst of this unprecedented chaos, I have been thinking quite a bit about humanity, compassion, support and understanding. These things tend to slip our minds when we're trying to manage through difficult times with the feeling of uncertainty looming over us. 
I had a very intense but amazing conversation with somebody that I'm incredibly close to who is going through a hard time. Because of that conversation, I realized that our talk was probably something that others are thinking about right now as well. There could be someone going through a difficult time, so I want to remind everyone to reach out to people in a caring and compassionate way.  It makes a difference. Taking it a step further, now is the time to be humble and ask for help if you need it.
A lot is going on in this world right now. So more than ever . . . we need a little humanity and compassion. Be humble, ask for help, share a kind word with others, and of course . . . be a better person than you were yesterday. 
Show Notes

When people make the decision to become parents, no matter their circumstances, the expectation of the child should be that these adults will care for me, nurture me, and love me.  Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Many children grow up with one parent being the sole caregiver, and if you are as lucky as me, neither parent actually cares for or loves you.
In this episode of The Memoir I share some pretty raw moments from my childhood . . . be prepared.  Sometimes, especially as a young child, you do not get to control certain events in your life. However, only you can decide how you respond.  And that’s why I share my stories. Despite my terrible home life, I found solace at school because I controlled the outcome. I chose to succeed, and school gave me hope that my world wouldn’t be dark forever.

Greg and I experienced devastating news every time we went to the doctor while going through my cancer diagnosis that began in 2015. Since trauma and difficult situations impact individuals differently, we are both sharing our journey in a two part series, discussing how we processed and managed through our diagnosis of breast cancer. 
Diagnosis can be tough, and it is most certainly a journey. It affects you, your work, your loved ones, and the simplest of tasks. Everyone’s diagnosis story is different, but all are teaching moments. Don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel, find a doctor that you are comfortable with, and do what makes you happy.  https://bobbiegoldie.com/episode-7/

While living with my family in Canada, my annual physical in 2015 saved my life.  This routine physical ended up leading to additional mammogram imaging, ultrasounds and multiple biopsies. In the beginning, I was told not to worry - possibly pre-cancer. Ha! Did they just say cancer?!  I don’t know about you, but if someone uses the word cancer to share health news with me, all I hear is cancer and then cue the Charlie Brown school teacher . . .  
Many people that have had cancer rarely talk about the diagnosis process, the emotions that come with the unknown, and how it affects the loved ones around them.  I actually googled cancer diagnosis stories, and the results were sparse.

Not only was it painful for me but for my family as well, which is why I have a special guest on this episode. My husband, Greg will share his version of the story and how cancer rocked his world as well. I want this episode to not only be for people who have had cancer, but for the family members and friends as well. Cancer is NOT a disease of one . . . it is a family disease.

This is absolutely NOT what I planned on recording for episode 5 of my podcast . . . but sometimes life happens.  I just hit my three year cancer-free date, so I did not expect to find a lump under my arm on January 1, 2020. Happy New Years to me!  I am still waiting for my test results, but times like this need to be shared. Stay positive . . . keep yourself busy . . . don't think about it . . . it's all going to be okay.  If you have been through this, you know that's nearly impossible. I commit to myself and my family I will manage through whatever the results are; however, they will be good. Get to know more about my story at www.bobbiegoldie.com. 

There is no clear path to building a family, and sometimes your journey may be completely unexpected.  However, the end goal is the same . . . have some babies, try not to break them and hope they grow up to be decent human beings.  All of this while enjoying a glass of wine and a couple tacos with the person you love.
Our journey to have children was of course, anything but ordinary.  We are among the select few that get to say we have artificial twins.  Frowned upon by some adoption agencies but known to be a miracle to the parents that have been given this special gift, we share our story with you.
But be prepared, this isn’t for the faint of heart.  Resilience and humility are required. We share this with you because it needs to be shared.  And that’s what Goldie’s do!