45 episodes

The Unsuitable is the podcast of innovative Sydney clothing designer and manufacturer, Shane Ave. Founded by Deb Saywell, Shane Ave specialises in clothing for the Queer Community and the podcast is a natural extension of the business, presenting the stories of some of the world's most interesting people.

The Unsuitable - LGBTQ Stories Shane Ave Productions

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    • 4.9 • 28 Ratings

The Unsuitable is the podcast of innovative Sydney clothing designer and manufacturer, Shane Ave. Founded by Deb Saywell, Shane Ave specialises in clothing for the Queer Community and the podcast is a natural extension of the business, presenting the stories of some of the world's most interesting people.

    S6 E1 My brother told family members that I was a lesbian so I set out to prove him wrong!

    S6 E1 My brother told family members that I was a lesbian so I set out to prove him wrong!

    Today's guest has an interesting story that saw her leave her homeland in France in search of a better life down under. Arriving on Australian shores in 2012 as a newly married couple, Lucie and her husband settled into Australian life and went through the motions of having a child and securing permanent residency.
    In 2017, 5 years after landing in Australia, Lucie subconsciously started thinking more about herself and how unhappy she really was. Some self exploration which included cutting her hair short led her down a path that, at the age of 32 she accepted she was gay. 
    She describes it as a light bulb moment that just felt right and liberating. Sadly, this led to a breakdown in her family relationships and today Lucie has no contact with her immediate family.
    Lucie will share with us the trials and tribulations she has experienced as a result of her coming out.
    Get in touch with Lucie on Instagram: @lucieptyltd
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    • 50 min
    S5 Ep 1 $14k to save their beloved dog led Zac to make a life changing decision!

    S5 Ep 1 $14k to save their beloved dog led Zac to make a life changing decision!

    Zac Callaghan spent their entire life living between two identities. Born female, Zac struggled with body dysphoria and their identity for almost 50 years. Top surgery in Australia is not covered by medicare and starts at around $12k, so having this surgery and starting the transitioning process was never an option. When their beloved dog took ill it took a whopping 14K to save him. This led Zac to revaluing their own health and life and making the decision that if they could spend $14k to save their dog then they could spend $12k to save themselves and finally live their best life. Zac shows us that its never too late to live your authentic self!
    Book your tickets to see Zac show Queer as Flux at the Sydney Opera House 3 nights only 24th, 25th and 26th November 2022.
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    • 53 min
    S5 Ep 2 From alcohol and substance abuse to clean and sober after transitioning!

    S5 Ep 2 From alcohol and substance abuse to clean and sober after transitioning!

    Originally from Glasgow Scotland, Sam is a transgender guy who has had to overcome some massive hurdles in his journey to understanding gender and what it meant for him. Sam abused alcohol and substances as a means of masking the confusion and pain that he felt from being “different”. Sam talks about his childhood bullies and how they impacted his life, the dark days of his teenage years and his diagnosis of ADHD as an adult and how he lives with his diagnosis whilst also being completely sober. No doubt many will resonate with Sam’s story and we trust that his raw and honest encounter will help many who are on a similar journey.
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    • 44 min
    S5 Ep 3 Optus Dei to Gay

    S5 Ep 3 Optus Dei to Gay

    Alex identifies as a lesbian and has a wonderful relationship with her partner Jackie. Alex attended an all girls Catholic School run by Opus Dei. Alex enjoyed school and her faith, so much, that she made the decision at 16 to become a numerary. This is where things went sour for Alex. Made to wear a cilice (metal spiked chain) for an hour a day around her leg as a form of self harm and referred to as mortification of the flesh, sleep on a blanket for a mattress, sleep without a pillow, take cold showers and regularly use a flagellum (small whip) on oneself is all part of the corporal mortification that is expected of all numeraries within Opus Dei.
    Alex became close to an older numerary who would often invite Alex into her bed especially during a time when Alex was suffering deep depression and mental health problems as a result of living in the Opus Dei homes and working toward becoming a numerary. Alex had always considered herself heterosexual as homosexuality was a sin and not something she would have ever considered, however all that changed when she left the Opus Dei sect in Sydney and headed to Spain where she discovered amongst other things, AFL and teams filled with lesbian women. Tune in as Alex shares her fascinating story that will have you captivated and shock you all at the same time.
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    • 1 hr 6 min
    S5 Ep 4 Being harassed out of the army for being gay ensured Jen never let anyone hold anything over her ever again!

    S5 Ep 4 Being harassed out of the army for being gay ensured Jen never let anyone hold anything over her ever again!

    Growing up in the housing area of the western suburbs of Brisbane in the 60’s, Jen spent a large portion of her youth trying to be the peacemaker in a family that was filled with physical violence at the hands of her dad. Always the tomboy, Jen tapped into what she describes as the “masculine side” in order to combat the physical violence at home.
    At 17 Jen decided to join the Army as a means of escaping from the family situation and in doing so, found a career path that she loved and could see herself progressing in for many years to come. Sadly, this all came to an abrupt end when the powers to be in the Army harassed her to the point of no return.
    As a result, Jen never did pursue a career in the Army however this did not define her and she went on to live a full and eventful life in Naturopathy that saw her traveling the world as a speaker and author.
    Jen is an avid podcaster and shares many helpful tips on how to live a healthier life via her podcast, Healthy Life Hacks. Link can be found below in the show notes.
    Click here to check out Jen's podcast!
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    • 47 min
    S5 Ep 5 Are you trying to be a man???

    S5 Ep 5 Are you trying to be a man???

    Natasha studied at university with the aim of becoming a designer for Disney and whilst doing so worked in retail environments where she developed a passion for suiting.
    Fast forward a few years and Natasha is a much sought after custom suit designer who works for an awesome company in Toronto called Got Style. Growing up in Toronto Canada, Natasha shares with us the difficulties she faces working in a male dominated industry where she was often not taken seriously and questioned if she is trying to be a man because she enjoys wearing suits.
    Natasha also shares with us how she found the love of her life Amelia, and how they are navigating a long-distance relationship between Canada and Sweden.
     
    For anyone living in the US and needing a custom-made suit make sure you hit up Natasha!
    Link here!
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    • 49 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
28 Ratings

28 Ratings

SueyR1702 ,

Open and honest

Thanks Rebecca for sharing your story. What an inspirational woman you are.

J.Lesley ,

Real and Open

So wonderful to have a platform that allows ppl to be authentic in whatever that is for them. More straight ppl need to hear these stories to breakdown ignorance. I have been lucky enough to know that you Deb would be instrumental in helping change for the better. Always there, what a brilliant podcast. Thank you

Longtothebottom ,

Excellent!

Great concept, great people and well interviewed 👌🏽

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