These Things Reveal if an Avoidant is Healing

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In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and her co-host, Mike Di Zio dive into the healing journey of avoidant attachment styles, focusing on how to recognize if a dismissive or fearful avoidant is making progress in their emotional growth.

Join Thais and Mike as they break down the key signs of healing, such as the avoidant's gradual reconnection with their emotions and body. They discuss practical tools and strategies for avoidants, like journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices, to help them process suppressed feelings and reduce their instinct to avoid vulnerability. The episode also explores the common misconception that avoidants are emotionless, revealing how they often numb themselves rather than confront their inner experiences.

The hosts share personal stories and provide real-life examples, including a powerful analogy comparing emotions to a "check engine light," signaling unmet needs. They offer insights on how avoidants can begin to recognize these signals and respond with self-care rather than avoidance. The conversation highlights the importance of routines, physical activity, and reducing technology use to help avoidants stay grounded and connected with their emotions.

Listeners will gain actionable advice on how to support a partner with avoidant tendencies, including how to create a safe space for open communication and ways to encourage vulnerability without pressure. This episode is essential for anyone looking to better understand avoidant attachment patterns and support loved ones on their path to healing.

Timestamps:

00:00:00 – Introduction: Healing Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

00:01:00 – Why Discomfort Leads to Growth

00:02:15 – Core Wounds and Rewiring Negative Beliefs

00:04:00 – Meditation and Emotional Awareness

00:06:00 – Emotional Feedback and Recognizing Needs

00:08:30 – Self-Soothing vs. Self-Numbing Explained

00:11:00 – Setting Boundaries: Survival vs. Nuanced Approaches

00:13:15 – The Six Pillars of Secure Attachment

00:15:30 – How to Rewire Negative Patterns Through Practice

00:18:00 – Communicating Needs Effectively in Relationships

00:20:15 – Building Emotional Resilience and Vulnerability

00:23:00 – Key Triggers for Dismissive Avoidants in Relationships

00:26:00 – Importance of Emotional Safety and Trust

00:29:30 – Understanding Loneliness and Quality Connections

00:33:00 – Rewiring Beliefs About Independence and Dependence

00:36:30 – Responding to Feedback Without Defensive Behaviors

00:40:00 – Shifting from Avoidant to Secure Attachment Dynamics

00:45:00 – Developing Deeper Emotional Awareness Over Time

00:50:00 – Practical Tools for