The Parent & Teen Toolbox

Cai Graham
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This podcast is for those of us who are parenting teenagers. Cai Graham’s straight-talking insights and tools & techniques are designed to equip parents (and teenagers) with the tools for navigating adolescence.

  1. EP 100 - Cai Graham - What not to Expect When Parenting a Teenager

    15/02/2022

    EP 100 - Cai Graham - What not to Expect When Parenting a Teenager

    When we reach the teenage years - we often feel that we ought to have Parenting sussed! Ha! Not true … and if you do - believe me, you are setting yourself up for a BIG Fall.   Here’s 7 Pointers when parenting a teenager : Don’t Expect The Worst Life to be Predictable To be a Perfect Parent To be Mind Readers Your Teen to think the same way that you do Your Teen to understand their own emotions Your Teen to always do what you say! Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ * Online Resources : HUGE Discount By way of a thank you - and a celebration for my 100th episode I am offering a HUGE saving on my Online courses : * Beat Your Anxiety * Breathe Through Anxiety & Your Big Emotions * Crack Your Confidence * Self Care : The Art of Putting Yourself First All to be found at : 📍www.caigraham.com/courses Just enter HUNDRED at the Checkout … that’s a potential saving of £400 ~~~~~ * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!  ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    31 min
  2. EP 99 - Cai Graham - Tired of Nagging Your Teenager?

    08/02/2022

    EP 99 - Cai Graham - Tired of Nagging Your Teenager?

    Are you sick and tired of sounding like a cracked record?  Do you feel that you are saying the same things to your kids - and yet nobody’s listening? How else are they going to remember to do stuff - if you don’t keep reminding them … and yet you feel that you are constantly on their back. This is not how parenting is supposed to be! In this episode I give you 12 tips - 12 things to say - so that your teenager will be more motived and inspired to think for themselves; so that you can stop “nagging” once and for all. Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

* Recognising the triggers * Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together * Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s track * How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!  ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    34 min
  3. EP 98 - Nellie Harden - You only have 6570 Days to Build a Fully Fledged Adult!

    01/02/2022

    EP 98 - Nellie Harden - You only have 6570 Days to Build a Fully Fledged Adult!

    Technically, we only have 6570 days until our child turns 18. How we spend those days is crucial to building a strong foundation so that our kids are best equipped to becoming fully fledged adults. No pressure! In this episode I chat with Nellie Harden where we discuss how best to ‘flip the coin’ and use the days that we have left more effectively. It doesn’t have to be hard work and nose to the grindstone - in fact, it’s better if it’s not.  Nellie explains how keeping it real, and removing the power struggles is the best way to build better connection with your teen - so that together you can make the best use of the time you have left, before they ‘fly the nest’ for good. Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ More about Nellie Harden : Nellie Harden is a wife, mom, dreamer and multi-preneur to businesses that are born from experience and serve others with BIG purpose.  Coming from a diverse background including marine science & behavior and family wellness she decided years ago that living a life designed by purpose and for freedom was how she and her husband, along with their 4 daughters, wanted to live. Today she is a family life coach helping others build their own extraordinary story while, also, building an unshakable foundation for their children to launch into their adult lives with. She believes that a family filled with creativity, fun, laughter, challenge, adventure, problem-solving, hugs, good food and learning can not only change a person's life, but is the best chance at positively changing the world. How to contact Nellie : Website : www.nellieharden.com The 6570 Family Challenge : https://www.nellieharden.com/challenge Podcast : The 6570 Family Project Podcast Instagram : @nellieharden Facebook : @The6570Project ~~~~~   * FREE Resource : A Parent’s Guide to Eating Disorders : 📍 www.caigraham.com/ED   * Online Resources : My Anxiety course equipped to become provides you with support by :

* Recognising the triggers * Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together * Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s track * How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!  ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    45 min
  4. EP 97 - Cai Graham - How to Help a Child with an Eating Disorder

    25/01/2022

    EP 97 - Cai Graham - How to Help a Child with an Eating Disorder

    Since COVID has been a thing - I have seen a marked increase in the number of parents seeking support for their children with eating disorders. The problems arise when the child sees the eating disorder as the solution rather than the problem. In this episode, I discuss my Parents Guide to Eating Disorders; offering insights into : * Different types of eating disorders * How to sport the signs * Behavioural Symptoms * Physical Symptoms * Psychological Symptoms and  * 7 pointers in how parents can support their child with an eating disorder. Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ * FREE Resource : A Parent’s Guide to Eating Disorders : 📍 www.caigraham.com/ED   * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

* Recognising the triggers * Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together * Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s track * How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you!  ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    44 min

  5. 18/01/2022

    EP 96 - Oie Dobier - Helping Your Child Find Their Ideal Path

    We were brought up at a different time. The world has changed - and as a result, many parents struggle to help guide their child through the myriad of decisions they are expected to make in order to find their way onto the “correct career path.”   These decisions are expected to be made earlier and earlier - which causes so much heartache. 

What if I told you that there are no wrong decisions?!   In this episode Oie and I discuss her 4 stage model where she addresses : a ) Values b ) Natural Talents c ) Interests d ) Work Preferences   Her model will facilitate this journey and ease the burden from such young shoulders whilst having to make these big choices.   Want to know more? Then grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ More about Oie Dobier : Oie based her education and career on all the wrong things. She chose a path that others expected of her which led to changing her major, jumping from job to job, and finding herself always looking for the next big challenge. Then in her early 40’s, she was passed over for a promotion which caused her to do some self-reflection. Although the pay was good, she realized she was tired, bored and unfulfilled. She had chosen a career that didn't align with her values, passions or natural talents and felt it was time to be more purposeful with her life. What if there was a way to teach young people how to figure this out earlier? A way to help them start their career in something fulfilling, interesting and enjoyable? What if she could save them from the years of struggle and unfulfillment that she and so many others have experienced? As a result, Project Who Am I was born and she’s been helping young people learn about themselves and apply this knowledge to their educational and career pursuits. How to contact Oie : Understanding one’s own natural talents and using them to explore possible professions is an excellent first step in finding a fulfilling, successful career. Find out how to do this in Oie’s FREE Download : www.projectwhoami.com/career Website: https://www.projectwhoami.com/ Socials: https://www.facebook.com/projWhoAmI/ https://www.instagram.com/project_who_am_i/ https://www.tiktok.com/@project_who_am_i? * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

* Recognising the triggers * Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together * Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s track * How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you! ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    48 min
  6. EP 95 - Cai Graham - Don’t Blame The Smartphones!

    11/01/2022

    EP 95 - Cai Graham - Don’t Blame The Smartphones!

    We berate our teens for being addicted to their screens. We complain that our kids are unable to sit still or get their homework done.   And yet, I believe that they are a product of the environment that we have created for them.   We can’t just blame smartphones here.   How we eat and our relationship with food has also conjured up the belief that time is of the essence and that we need to take life on the run. We are now a world of processed meals, TV dinners and drive-thru “dining” - allowing us to nourish our bodies - whilst we are doing something else “more important”.   How bonkers is that?   In this episode I discuss how we have ALL fallen into the trap of immediacy - and that it’s not our children’s fault. Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

* Recognising the triggers * Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together * Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s track * How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you! ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    31 min
  7. EP 94 - Cai Graham - Can 2021 Make You A Better Parent?

    04/01/2022

    EP 94 - Cai Graham - Can 2021 Make You A Better Parent?

    I’m not one for this “New Year - New You” nonsense … it puts us under so much pressure to do better and achieve more. But what I do advocate is grabbing the learnings from the life that we live - and from that determining whether we continue as we are doing, or change our direction (if only a little bit). As parents we need to lead by example - and show our kids that (when they grow up) life is still fun and worthwhile and to be lived to it’s fullest. I offer some 25 pointers (give or take) that will help 1. Be comfortable with the discomfort 2. Slowing down is a sign of strength 3. Be a beacon of light 4. You are your first priority 5. We are all walking different paths 6. Nobody can do the pushups for you 7. Trust the experts 8. Friends matter greatly 9. Alone and Lonely are different 10. Start with Accepting yourself 11. Drop the SHOULDS 12. What brings you joy? 13. Practice gratitude 14. Be brave 15. Trust your gut 16. Surrender - Trust - Do not doubt 17. Do new things 18. Be Kind 19. Happiness is a choice 20. Allow time and space to heal 21. “You Do You” 22. Transparency is key 23. Change is inevitable 24. Hope Matters 25. Celebrate the wins Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~~~ * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

✔️ Recognising the triggers Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s tracks How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you! ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    44 min
  8. EP 93 - Cai Graham - Minimising Conflict at Home this Christmas

    21/12/2021

    EP 93 - Cai Graham - Minimising Conflict at Home this Christmas

    Presents need wrapped ( in my case some haven’t arrived yet!) - Relatives are coming home ( well, at least you hope they are ) - Turkeys need stuffed - AND Covid is still here. Nerves are understandably frayed.   No wonder we are at the end of our tether and taking our anxieties and stresses out on those closest to us.   In this episode I discuss how to avoid ( or if not - then minimise ) the tensions that are likely to be running riot in the home right now.   I offer some pointers that will help 1. Remember WHO you are 2. Stay away from the flash points / people 3. Remember “It takes two to tango” 4. Take much needed time-out 5. Set realistic boundaries 6. Eliciting support can help EVERYONE 7. If all else fails - BREATHE 8. Practice the “Fly on the wall” exercise Want to know more? Then Grab a cuppa - and keep listening! ~~~ Another Episode that might help : EP 41 : 12 Toxic People to watch out for : 📍 https://apple.co/3q1lChm ~~~~~ * Online Resources : My Anxiety course provides you with support by :

✔️ Recognising the triggers Understanding Anxiety - and why we don’t want to get rid of it all together Learning a couple of techniques to help you stop a panic attack in it’s tracks How as a parent, you can support your anxious child 📍www.caigraham.com/anxiety If you or your child are struggling with your emotions at the minute - then I have a great online course that introduces you to 7 different breathing exercises that a can get you out of many sticky situations : 📍www.caigraham.com/breathe * Three Questions to Ask Your Uncommunicative Child : All too often parents say to me : “My child won’t speak to me” or “I know something’s not quite right - but they won’t tell me what’s wrong.”

Well, I have a resource for you. 
Download this FREE Resource : 📍www.caigraham.com/threequestions It will help you reconnect with your child quickly and easily; and in a way that will not drive them to their bedroom to avoid you! ~~~~ If you are looking for support at a deeper level for your child, then please book a call with me. Invariably they might only need a couple of sessions. But if we can give our kids the tools to improve their emotional wellbeing NOW - then you’re more likely to alleviate the longer term damage to their mental health. 📍 www.caigraham.com/teencall Details of all further podcasts can be found on my website : 📍www.caigraham.com/podcast Please also have a look at my YouTube channel for additional support. 📍 www.caigraham.com/youtube * If you need to get in touch - Please email me at toolbox@caigraham.com Music Credits : MBB : https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial/happy

    37 min
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This podcast is for those of us who are parenting teenagers. Cai Graham’s straight-talking insights and tools & techniques are designed to equip parents (and teenagers) with the tools for navigating adolescence.

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