Homeschool mama's self-care needs are easily overlooked with a steady stream of childhood needs and interpersonal interactions.
Homeschool mamas grapple with the not-good-enough feeling, perfectionism, loneliness, anger, doubt, boredom, impatience, and overwhelm. You know, all the human feels.
This podcast explores aspects of self-care that will serve the homeschool mama in her real homeschool days.
You'll be introduced to homeschool mamas that you need to know so you can build self-care strategies into your real homeschool world.
A Beginner’s Guide to Your First Year of Homeschool
Amy from Saskatchewan asked, “I have all the fears I suspect most moms might have begun their homeschool, but I also have a sense of peace that has replaced my sense of dread when I sent him to school. Do you have any tips?”
If I could share a cup of tea with Amy, these would be my first thoughts.
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Here’s a beginner’s guide to your first year of homeschool.
When my kids were young, our third daughter was just a baby, I was driving our oldest daughter to kindergarten, twice a day to a private school.
The kitchen would be a disaster as I backed the minivan out of the attached garage, kids bundled in their snow gear, all three of them, consent forms signed for whatever activities Hannah needed permission for.
When I returned from that 45-minute jaunt, I’d come home to a disaster in the kitchen so I’d clean that up and occupy the youngest two.
When the kitchen was reasonable, I’d bend down to pull out my second daughter’s learning things that I’d been collecting. We’d pull something from the cupboard to work together at the kitchen table. Rachel sat in the high chair and fed her baby Elmo.
We’d never do that for more than 20 minutes. Madelyn was preschool age. She loved her learning things, such as underwater sea sticker book & printing book & giant red pencil. She was an academic from way back.
A mom friend might come over to have coffee and a chat with her son after lunch. My girls would have an afternoon nap, and I’d have to wake up my baby girl so we could all drive to get Hannah in time for the afternoon bell. And we did this on repeat until Hannah finished grade 2.
It didn’t take long to realize that what I was doing at home with Madelyn I could also do with Hannah and Rachel too.
Why all the busywork, why wake up my babies from their afternoon naps when I was doing stuff at the kitchen table?
When I picked up the book, The Homeschool Option, by Lisa Rivere on a lark during a vacation, our lives shifted.
Within one week of reading it, I’d come up with all sorts of reasons why I should be homeschooling (even though I picked up that book to prove my reasons why I shouldn’t).
(And I share a whole bunch more on that book and the 8 reasons why I decided to homeschool on my very first episode of this podcast).
Sure, homeschooling has not been quite what I thought it would be. But it’s also been a whole lot more.
Let’s address the Deschool your Homeschool concept in your home
In Season #3 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care podcast, I want to undergird you, the new(er) homeschool mama with confidence, clarity,
Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast for the New(er) Homeschooler
What are you going to hear on Season #3 of the Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast?
Season #3 Homeschool Mama Self-Care Podcast is dedicated to the new(er) homeschool mama.
If you’ve been homeschooling for just a few years, a few months, or are planning to homeschool in the upcoming fall, then this podcast season is dedicated to you.
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In the season #3 Homeschool Mama Self-Care podcast, I’m going to share with you the most important elements you need to consider before you get started.
Or now that you’ve begun to identify how things actually work in your homeschool life, I’ll share the most important elements of the homeschool life that will help you clarify & reorder how you’re doing this homeschool thing.
* A Beginner’s Guide to Your First Year of Homeschool* the surprising transition from school to homeschool* What about gaps in my child’s home education?* curiosity and education: how to facilitate it* How to Facilitate Child-Led Learning in your Homeschool* why my family homeschools: the book (& the 8 reasons) that convinced me in one week * why kids don’t need school socialization & why they need you, the parent, instead* when you buy new homeschool curriculum: 5 clever suggestions * Homeschool Mama Book Club: “Hold Onto Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld
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I hope you enjoy season #3 Homeschool Mama Self-Care podcast as much as I’ve enjoyed putting it together for you.
Leave a comment below and let me know about you and your homeschool story. (& definitely tell me what you most need to hear right now).
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A Homeschool Mom Giveaway to Get Inspired & Nurtured
“There is no one way to be a perfect mother–and a million ways to be a good one.”–Jill Churchill
Someone shared this quote in a women’s group very early in my parenting years. And I’ve kept it on my fridge ever since.
Who knew this parenting thing wouldn’t be a cinch.
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(This homeschool mom giveaway is for you if you need perspective, inspiration, and a little nurturing.)
Turns out the same can be said about homeschooling too: There is no one way to be a perfect homeschool mom–and a million ways to be a good one.
I read a lot of parenting books before I had my first baby, so I was set. (You’re giggling, as you should be).
When I overheard my two teenage daughters recently speaking about how they will parent someday, I didn’t interject. (I stayed in the room to listen, of course, but I didn’t say a thing.)
When one of them suggested that they knew what mom was thinking about their conversation, “Just wait till you actually have a kid or four,” then I decided to speak for myself.
“Yup,” was all I said. (Cause obviously that’d be true: what you think you’re going to do as a parent and what you actually do as a parent are two very different things.)
Before I was a parent, I was going to be the perfect parent. You’re welcome, world! (Insert rolling your eyes emoji here).
And now when my kids speak about my “parenting” book, I interject heartily, “No, that is not a parenting book, that’s a mothering book. I don’t want to dish parenting advice to others. I’d rather encourage moms to show up on purpose in their lives (which is indirectly parenting, of course, but less a to-do manual and more a to-be guidebook).
What I have learned about parenting over the years is this: It is a whole helluvalotta work!
* Requiring us to be the energizer bunny, * doing repetitively boring activities, * engaging energy-sapping scenarios (complaining, arguing, bickering, etc),* recognizing that our triggers to those things are internal work we have to do to be at peace and be a more effective parent,* And you fill-in-the-blank. (I’m sure you can add a few).
But parenting is absolutely one of the most meaningful things I have EVER DONE in my ENTIRE...
Why a Homeschool Mama Will Benefit from Coaching for Homeschool (& Life)
I’m privileged to virtually walk alongside homeschool mamas just like you. I am privileged to be invited into your homeschool, be told about why you homeschool, who you homeschool, the challenges in your homeschool, and why you’re not sure you want to continue homeschooling or at least, why you’re finding it challenging.
You know that I’ve been there done that, that I’ve homeschooled four kids, our oldest is 21, our second, 19, our third, 16, and it’s only our youngest, 13, who is still homeschooling.
So why would a homeschool mama need coaching for your homeschool (& life)?
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You’ve heard me share my story that somewhere in a January of our third year of homeschooling I was done with homeschooling…
Or to be precise, I had enough of kid conflict, forcing kids to sit down, be quiet, stay motivated, focus on their studies, stop arguing, leave the scissors in the same place I left them, not speak out of turn, not speak disrespectfully…and a whole bunch of other stuff that pushed me to my brink of overwhelm.
But I’ve had more than one moment of questioning my homeschool choice.
I’ve had more than one moment of homeschool overwhelm and even life overwhelm. I’ve had moments of exasperation with a child or two or three, even seasons of exasperation…and worry.
And because I’m not from one of those strong family stories where I felt secure and was taught that who I was mattered or even that my feelings mattered, or that anyone even noticed I was there at times, well, I’ve been reparenting myself too, growing myself up right alongside my kids.
Oh, and if it didn’t seem obvious already, I have plenty of stories where I’ve had to reorder relationships because I had to learn to instill boundaries in pretty much every relationship in my life at some point.
(Boundaries weren’t taught or instilled in my family of origin and I didn’t even explore them until I was 34, years after I began parenting.)
And when sometimes you hear me talk about homeschool mamas needing to find their identity, that experience was mine too. I remember attending my first writing conference and by the end of that weekend, I was in love and in awe: I found the love of my life, writing.
If you’re grappling with overwhelm, use this self-coaching journaling workbook
But I was always in love with her.
I’d always known her. Remember that I began writing when I was seven,
Dealing with our Stuff so We Can Help our Kids Deal with Theirs with Jenn Dean
Jenn Dean is a parenting coach who founded Families Matter Most, an organization that helps families thrive.
Having faced difficulties and challenges in her own parenting, she knows firsthand just how tough it can be!
Jenn speaks online and all over Canada offering practical tools to families through private coaching, seminars, camps, and workshops. Families Matter Most material is tailored to reach the heart. Jenn’s teaching style is lighthearted and empathetic: no judgment here!
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Character trumps academics. Everything stops for character. Jenn Dean, Family Coach & Podcaster at Families Matter Most
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Jenn & I discuss:
* How to homeschool a kiddo with a sensory processing disorder.* The most important thing in homeschool: character development.* How to build self-awareness and strategies when kids are fighting or upset.* How to deal with my triggers when my kids are fighting or upset.* How we can deal without anxiety and dysregulation.* What a possible source of procrastination might be in your world.* What is the difference between fear and excitement?
Jenn encourages homeschool parents:
* Put your kids’ reactions into perspective and respond neutrally.* Don’t get on the rollercoaster of your kids’ big emotions.* Cue your kids when you’re not in a great space.* Understand that sometimes under our kids’ procrastination, they may just be feeling anxious.* Get more comfortable with emotions that you’re not really comfortable with because you’ll relate better with the kids who aren’t like you.
You can find Jenn & her resources at:
Her Website: www.familiesmattermost.comHer Podcast: Families Matter Most PodcastHer Facebook group: Families Matter Most
People also ask…
* Homeschool Mama Big Emotions Toolbox Part 3: Your Feelings* Tell me more about the virtual homeschool mama retreat.* Do you have a guided course (& coaching) for new homeschool parents? Why, yes I do!
Homeschool Mama Big Emotions Toolbox Part 3: Your Feelings
You want to address your homeschool mama’s big emotions with your toolbox so you’re always prepared.
What might be some of your Homeschool Mama Big Emotions?
Oh, I dunno…
Anger, you can handle one kid being too sharp, but not four; you told that kid a thousand times to do something and they forgot again, or you’re simply feeling a lot of intense frustration around that premenstrual time of your month,
Irritation, sibling squabbles, constant interruptions of any thought you have, you can never find the scissors (or is that just me?), no matter how many times you clear the minivan of garbage, dog hair, it’s always gross,
Loneliness, wondering if you can have the kind of communal support that you need to have to do this homeschool thing for the long-term,
Guilt, you lost it on your child, you don’t have the motivation to do the cool homeschool things everyone on Instagram or Pinterest are doing,
Stress, there’s more going on in your homeschool than homeschool, you’ve got a sick parent, you’re marriage is in a heck of a lot of trouble, you think you’re dealing with unresolved trauma or depression long before your family,
PS If you weren’t clear about the difference between emotions and feelings, check out this podcast episode with Sarah Susanka, author of Not So Big Life.
Use this Journaling Workbook for your Big Emotions
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So what is the third tool in your Homeschool Mama Toolbox for Big Emotions?
First, you have to know yourself: what even are your feelings?
You feel things all the time.
Always Nails It
Teresa is a pleasure to listen to and learn from as a new homeschooler. Her interviews go in interesting directions and always get me thinking. A must listen for anyone wanting to build their confidence as an authentic and simple homeschooling mom!
Always spot on!!
The first rule of life saving is…never become a victim yourself. As parents, we’re only as helpful to our kids as we are healthy. Teresa does an amazing job of keeping this front and center and helping parents care for themselves!!
Such an important topic
This is such a valuable and important topic for all moms especially those who are homeschooling. Thank you for the variety of guests you have on and for caring so much about others moms.