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The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

ManTalks Podcast Connor Beaton

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 158 Ratings

The ManTalks podcast features conversations between one of the leading men’s work facilitators and philosopher, Connor Beaton, and world class guests with expertise in mindset, life purpose, psychology, relational communication, sexual intimacy, business and spirituality. For more information about ManTalks go to: http://www.mantalks.com

    How To Start A Men's Group—And Why Most Fail

    How To Start A Men's Group—And Why Most Fail

    Talking points: leadership, accountability, group settings, masculinity

    If you're thinking about starting a men's group, or just want to know what to look out for, this one's for you. With everything going on in the world, I want to dig a little into creating your own men’s group—or what to look out for if you’re thinking of joining one.
    Because the truth is there are legions of men who would benefit from belonging to something focused on the mutual benefit of everyone involved. Seriously.

    (00:00:00) - Intro, and five traits to look for in the men you want for your group
    (00:07:58) - Where most guys go wrong: lack of leadership, clear roles, and overstructure
    (00:09:42) - The right amount of structure, and consequences of too much victimhood and not enough accountability
    (00:12:31) - What are some of the core ingredients of a powerful men’s group? Number 1: some like-mindedness
    (00:13:54) - A clear purpose, and clear rules of engagement
    (00:17:04) - A culture of calling one another forward, and strong moderation
    (00:19:48) - Willingness to say (and hear) hard stuff, transparency, and confronting the uncomfortable
    (00:22:02) - An example meeting structure that works
    (00:26:42) - The Hot Seat and how to use it, and a closing ritual
    (00:30:14) - Be flexible to red alerts, and final thoughts on structure

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    • 35 min
    Dr. Aliza Pressman - The Principles Of Parenting

    Dr. Aliza Pressman - The Principles Of Parenting

    Talking points: culture, parenting, psychology, lying

    Parenting has never been easy, but our modern culture adds a few extra layers of challenge and questions. Fortunately (and sometimes unfortunately, as you might have found out), there's a mountain of info online. This week, I sat down with the brilliant Dr. Aliza Pressman to dig into what works, what doesn't, what parents are facing these days, and how to sift through it all. Lots of great info here for anyone who's got kids or who's thinking about it. Seriously.

    (00:00:00) - What kind of landscape are parents in now, and what do you think they’ll face in the future?
    (00:11:15) - How do parents prep their kids for the onslaught that is social media?
    (00:14:43) - Defining executive function, and how to build an environment that helps cultivate it
    (00:25:03) - How do you help your kid develop good impulse control?
    (00:32:09) - The early stages of development: what’s going on?
    (00:37:56) - On learning how to manage discomfort, create safety, and the importance of roughhousing
    (00:53:03) - What does effective discipline look like for children?
    (01:01:00) - How to handle lying

    Dr. Aliza Pressman is a developmental psychologist with nearly two decades of experience working with families and the health care providers who care for them. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book THE 5 PRINCIPLES OF PARENTING: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, and the host of the award-winning podcast Raising Good Humans.
    Aliza is the co-founding director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center and is an assistant clinical professor at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital. She holds degrees from Dartmouth College, Teacher’s College, and Columbia University. Aliza is the mother of two teenagers.

    Connect with Aliza
    -Website: https://draliza.com/
    -Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/
    -Book: https://amzn.to/3TNDhZ0
    -Podcast: Raising Good Humans: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans
    -Substack: https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
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    • 1 hr 8 min
    A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

    A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

    Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationships

    Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've worked with a ton of men who have it. So let's dig in on what fearful-avoidant attachment is, how it affects relationships, and how to move back towards something more secure, authentic, and thriving with easy, deliberate steps.

    (00:00:00) - Intro and defining fearful-avoidant attachment, and how conflicting it can feel
    (00:08:20) - Where this attachment style starts, and what makes it different from anxious and avoidant
    (00:13:19) - What does fearful-avoidant look like in a relationship? 
    (00:15:38) - What builds a fearful-avoidant style? Neglect and/or inconsistency
    (00:23:33) - One of the most important (and unspoken) needs of a child
    (00:28:19) - Parentification, one of the most common causes of fearful-avoidant attachment 
    (00:33:37) - More on what this looks like in a relationship: control, distrust, 
    (00:35:57) - Wanting closeness but fearing closeness, difficulty regulating emotions, and negativity
    (00:38:24) - On being disappointed by others, protection from rejection, and concentration 
    (00:40:02) - The big one: inability to self-soothe
    (00:41:40) - So what do we do? Two BIG steps
    (00:45:24) - On how to self-regulate/self-soothe, and starting with the breath
    (00:50:20) - Find someone to help you work with your hypervigilance
    (00:53:07) - Develop consistent connection with your partner (or with friends). Here’s how
    (00:56:53) - Build trust. Slowly. Over time
    (00:59:46) - Set boundaries with the fear-based thoughts in your head

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

    • 1 hr 6 min
    Experts On: Initiation, Purpose, And A Man's Way Through Chaos

    Experts On: Initiation, Purpose, And A Man's Way Through Chaos

    Talking points: purpose, initiation, adversity, grief, culture

    It isn't always easy to find a sense of purpose or meaning in life, never mind feeling initiated into maturity. In these chaotic times, it gets even harder. This is a special compilation episode featuring four masters of finding humanity, clarity, and meaning in life. Their combined efforts have helped legions of people get a better handle on life and all of its twists and turns. Two of them are people I revere as elders, and three work with men and purpose on a regular basis. Featuring ideas from...

    -Lion tracker, coach, and storyteller Boyd Varty: https://boydvarty.com/
    -Depth psychologist Francis Weller: https://www.francisweller.net/
    -Culture activist Stephen Jenkinson (unreleased material!): https://orphanwisdom.com/
    -Writer, teacher, and coach Rainier Wylde: https://www.rainierwylde.com/
    -Purpose guide Tim Corcoran: https://www.purposemountain.com/

    (00:00:00) - Boyd Varty on the role initiation plays in a man’s life—and what happens without it
    (00:16:20) - Francis Weller on why we need to (but can’t seem to) handle the unknown, failure, and grief
    (00:25:45) - Why the soul needs failure to find meaning, and how Francis runs grief workshops
    (00:30:35) - Given our current times, what does it mean to be a “generative ancestor”?
    (00:33:05) - Stephen Jenkinson on what defines and gives meaning to your humanity
    (00:39:47) - Rainier Wylde on how to find a sense of purpose in chaotic times
    (00:55:27) - Tim Corcoran on how to practically define purpose, and what’s often in the way
    (01:05:29) - Where does the “soul” fit into all of this?

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

    • 1 hr 9 min
    A Man's Guide To The Inner Critic

    A Man's Guide To The Inner Critic

    Talking points: psychology, mindset, self-talk

    This is one of THE things that blocks men from all kinds of growth and progress. An internal dialogue that is harsh, abusive, shaming, even cruel. Let's change that, shall we?

    If you or someone you know is constantly deprecating or talking negatively towards themselves, strongly encourage you to share this one. It's important.

    (00:00:00) - Intro, how prevalent a harsh inner critic is, and how nasty mine was
    (00:06:56)- Where does an inner critic come from, and how is it formed?
    (00:11:13) - Neglect and abandonment
    (00:15:52) - Trauma as an origin for a harsh inner critic
    (00:16:57) - “Dark motivation” and it’s useful but maladaptive power
    (00:23:15) - It damages your ability to appreciate or validate yourself
    (00:24:45) - What to do, what NOT to do, and questions you can use to find your inner critic’s origin
    (00:28:09) - Figure out what it wants
    (00:29:51) - Set some boundaries
    (00:31:34) - Repurpose the loyal soldier
    (00:34:31) - Build a relationship with this part of you

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

    • 36 min
    Duey Freeman - The Core Components Of Attachment

    Duey Freeman - The Core Components Of Attachment

    Talking points: parenting, children, attachment, psychology

    You may have heard me mention Duey before. He co-facilitates the ManTalks Men's Weekends with me, and his work is absolutely incredible. I was thrilled to sit down with him last week, just before our sojourn to Texas. We dive into all things attachment. How children and adults experience it, when it starts forming, and how my own son has taught me some incredible lessons on it. Also, listen in for Thunderbutt. No, I'm not kidding.

    (00:00:00) - Intro and Duey’s take on why real elders don’t seek power
    (00:10:08) - How do we begin to truly understand our partner?
    (00:15:49) - On the importance of curiosity and not assuming you know someone—especially your partner
    (00:21:28) - What are the building blocks of really healthy attachment?
    (00:30:52) - Attachment is somatic, and how children are inherently, incredibly sensitive
    (00:45:27) - What “interrupts” attachment?

    Duey Freeman, MA, LPC is co-founder of the Gestalt Equine Institute of the Rockies, director of the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and owner of his psychotherapy private practice. After teaching for 24 years at Naropa University he has decided to move in a more creative direction. Most recently, in collaboration with Kimberly Beck M Ed, he has created: The Coming Home Project and Relational Rewilding Retreats.
    A licensed psychotherapist, teacher, and consultant, Duey has extensive training and experience in gestalt therapy, equine therapy, family therapy, bioenergetics, and counseling with children and adolescents. Duey joined Naropa in 1992 and has been extensively involved in the creation of the Gestalt, Human Development, and Family Systems programs. He has helped to develop the Equine section of the Wilderness Therapy certification and degree. He taught for the University of Northern Colorado, traveling across Colorado teaching and working with schools systems supporting teachers to better understand and work with the children they teach.
    Throughout the year, Duey partners with professional therapists and skilled horsemen and women worldwide to provide psychotherapy, Gestalt Equine Psychotherapy, parenting and human development workshops, and Relational Horsemanship classes. Some of Duey's partners include Joan Rieger, Duane Mullner, Erika Friess, Megan Powers, Rosemary Wyndham-Jones, Rob Pliskin, Kristi Moon, Kimberly Beck, and Amy and Steve LeSatz.

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    Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend
    Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/
    Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship
    Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 
    Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify
    For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

    • 57 min

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FreutEuchDesLebens ,

August 2023 Bonus Episode

Has Society Failed Men? Women had Feminism starting in the 1960s. It was difficult for everyone. It required smarts snd sacrifice of women. It was for the rights of women and girls. It’s long overdue that men do the same and they will find that they have a lot more support from women than women ever had from men. Changing the patriarchal structure that holds back both women and men is the only thing that will save us and our environment from ourselves.

RIVERBEND RICKY ,

AMAZING

I’ve never really heard anyone talk about these topics and issues he tackles???

This is SO NEEDED in the world today

I love his delivery and how he approaches topics!!!!

I also love how he tells people about his own struggles and what he is like - it’s an in depth look at another guy’s life experience and I find that very helpful!💙

Max (thanks Nick) ,

Love the variety of topics and guests

Connor is doing some great work leading men forward towards an more enlightened state. Highly recommend!

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