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This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Certified Trainer, Behavioral Change Specialist and Life Transition Coach) is all about sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face everyday like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast Tony Dufresne, Ph.D.

    • Self-Improvement

This show is designed to Entertain, Educate and Enlighten you to rise above the roadblocks and confusion and live life on your own terms. Along with special guests, Tony Dufresne, PhD (Philosopher, Author, Speaker, Certified Trainer, Behavioral Change Specialist and Life Transition Coach) is all about sharpening your critical thinking skills and sharing tips and advice on topics you face everyday like feeling lost, making a big life decision, relationship conflicts, creating a sense of purpose and direction in life, being true to who you really are, dating, break-ups, finding a job, changing careers and creating loving relationships. Welcome to the Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast.

    Story About Wolves, a Butterfly and the Incredible Power of Your Actions

    Story About Wolves, a Butterfly and the Incredible Power of Your Actions

    This week's "Best of" Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast episode is me sharing two stories about the immense power of your actions...like...







    ...change the world POWERFUL.







    There's probably a good chance you don't believe you have that kind of power.







    I don't blame you...it's probably because you haven't seen big results from your small actions.







    Problem with that is...most of the time you can't see them.







    Once your actions are put out there, they are carried away into the universe and it's pretty hard to track them.







    So, I thought I would share with you a great story about 14 wolves that were released into Yellowstone Park, and...







    ...the flap of a single butterfly's wing...







    ...and how both actions ended up having a HUGE impact on the world.







    In the show I talk about:







    * How the presence of the wolves in Yellowstone Park set off a chain of events known as the Trophic Cascade, and how that literally changed the earth.* How Chaos Theory and the Butterfly Effect shows the significant impact on weather patterns by the flap of a single butterfly's wing.* How the smallest of mindless daily actions you take can have a HUGE impact on the entire world.







    Questions or comments: tony@javabud.com







    Other podcasts and an Amazon link to my book: www.javabud.com







    Youtube : thejavabud







    Make it Happen!

    • 8 min
    Frankenstein Explains the Social Dilemma

    Frankenstein Explains the Social Dilemma

    In this week’s podcast episode our favorite man-made monster, Frankenstein, explains the movie, “The Social Dilemma”.







    Social media was initially created for good.







    It was a better and easier way to connect and also a great way to share information and knowledge but,







    unfortunately, just like Frankenstein’s monster, what was created for good can sometimes be bad.







    Which brings me back to the “Social Dilemma” because







    It does an amazing job at exposing the underlying problems of our current social media platforms.







    The show also goes into great detail about the psychological, physical and philosophical manipulation that is happening to you and me by just scrolling through our news feed.







    The message is plain and simple: We all need to be aware of what’s happening.







    Aware of how algorithms, newsfeeds and “Likes” are slowly eating away at the fabric of our society and how we can get things back on track.







    In the show, I expose:







    * What is happening to us psychologically* What is happening to us physically* And, what is happening to us philosophically







    The first step in change is AWARENESS.







    The second step is Understanding.







    The last step is taking ACTION.







    I have included a number of reference links including a great post in the Stanford University Encyclopedia of Philosophy.







    In addition,







    I list a number of things we can do to shift the focus of social media away from the bad and more towards its original objective, which is







    a positive source for connection and knowledge.







    Questions and/or comments: tony@javabud.com







    Inquire about private coaching sessions: tony@javabud.com







    #socialdilemma #socialdilemmamovie #socialmediaproblems #socialmediasolutions #socialmediaandpsychology #onlinemanipulation #themoreawarethebetter #getwoke #lessonfromfrankenstein #balanceandflow #coachfortheselfemployed #empowermentcoaching #tonydufresne #thejavabud

    • 22 min
    A Sweaty Frog’s Important Message About GASLIGHTING

    A Sweaty Frog’s Important Message About GASLIGHTING

    This week’s podcast episode is all about Gaslighting







    * Why you need to know what it is* Who does it* How it’s done* Who it affects* What to do if you notice it in your life or in the life of a close friend or family member







    If you don’t know anything about it, Gaslighting is one of the worst forms of emotional abuse that one person can do to another.







    It’s used by Narcissists to slowly manipulate someone into questioning what they think and believe.







    It’s gradually eating away at someone’s confidence, just like that saying about boiling a frog.







    If you turn the heat up slowly, he won’t notice until it’s too late.







    This technique is very effective at destroying someone emotionally by creating confusion, anxiety and a false reality that gives the gaslighter ultimate power over their victim's life.







    This is a big topic right now because here in the U.S., the entire country is being gaslighted.







    And yet, there are still millions of people who don’t see it happening and how much damage it is doing.







    So, I figured this show is a good opportunity to explain everything about Gaslighting.







    And more importantly, what to look out for if you suspect a gaslighter is trying to manipulate you or someone you care for.







    Lastly, I provide a number of resources and options to help a person break free of a Gaslighter in their life including:







    The Domestic Violence Hotline







    Resource list posted by positivepsychology.com







    As far as the country is concerned, it’s pretty simple, we just have to VOTE!







    Questions and/or comments: tony@javabud.com







    #gaslighing #signsofgaslighting #boilingfrog #mentalhealthtips #stopemotionalabuse #signsofemotionalabuse #abuseresources #relationshipissues #podcastersofinstagram #womensempowermentcoach #tonydufresne #javabud

    • 16 min
    Finding the Truth in a Sea of Lies

    Finding the Truth in a Sea of Lies

    This week's podcast episode is about TRUTH







    * What is Truth?* Which opinion is the truth?* How to I find the truth buried in so many lies?







    There are so many ways people can bend and manipulate the truth to confuse and control you.







    This can happen in society as a whole or in a family or with a significant other.







    That is why it is so important to know how to find the truth.







    And the best way to do that is by developing your CRITICAL THINKING SKILLS.







    The steps are not hard and you can start using them right away in order to







    * Understand what is really the truth* Be more in control of your thoughts and perceptions of the world* Have a clearer vision of what your life is and where you want to go







    Important topics having to do with finding the Truth include:







    * What is False Equivalence and how it is used to manipulate* What is Gaslighting and why you need to know the signs* What is a False Dichotomy and why it paints a false picture of reality* How to effectively use Critical Thinking Skills in your relationships and in life







    Questions or comments: tony@javabud.com







    #whatisthetruth #whatistrue #falseequivalency #thetruthwillsetyoufree #criticalthinking #developingcriticalthinkingskills #falsedichotomy #gaslighting #manipulationtools #podcastersofinstagram #empowermentcoach #womensempowermentcoach #importantlifeskills #signsofgaslighting #tonydufresne #javabud

    • 23 min
    The Healthy Way to Vent Your Problems in an Out of Control World

    The Healthy Way to Vent Your Problems in an Out of Control World

    This week's podcast episode is about our current anxiety coming from an out of control world and how to feel better by venting our frustrations the right way.







    The world currently feels out of control, which is bad for humans because we REALLY need to feel like we have some control in our lives.







    And because we've given up so much control and significantly changed our lives in the process to fight this invisible virus, it's creating a lot of anxiety, fear, anger, depression, sadness and divisiveness.







    Interestingly enough, Stoic philosophy was born out of the same kind of political and social upheaval including dealing with the plague.







    So, the show is about taking the lessons learned from those philosophers and putting them to use today in order to help us:







    * Accept what we can change and what we can't * Be able to put things in a more realistic perspective * Set up Venting Boundaries with our loved ones so our emotional dumping doesn't drag them down in the process* Better communicate our intentions with our significant others to avoid unnecessary arguments * Become stronger, more effective leaders* Determining if and when you need to talk to a professional







    When a large group of people are going through a crisis together, it's important to understand people process the feelings of being out of control differently.







    Which is why it's so important to fall back on the basic teachings of Stoic Philosophy in order to guide you towards a more controlled, calm and balanced life.







    Questions and/or Comments: tony@javabud.com







    Website: javabud.com







    Tony Dufresne, PhD







    Surrounded by Idiots Radio Podcast







    #copingskills #covidcoping #howtovent #dumpingmyproblems #toomuchtotake #covidanxiety #whenwillthisbeover #podcastersofinstagram #tonydufresne #javabud #womensempowerment #betteremotionalsupport #leanonyourtribe #stoicism #stoicphilosophy

    • 19 min
    Could You Make a Big Life Decision on a Coin Flip?

    Could You Make a Big Life Decision on a Coin Flip?

    Has the isolation, anxiety and uncertainty from the pandemic got you thinking you're not where you should be in your life?









    The initial shock has worn off and the new reality is forcing us to look at things from a different perspective.









    Relationships are being tested like never before, and







    jobs or career direction is being looked at from a different perspective.









    The space, or lack thereof, brought on by the pandemic response has exposed both the solid parts and the flaws in the life you have built around you up to this point.







    So, it's natural to start to question your choices, asking yourself,









    "Is this relationship or job working for me?"







    So, the show today is about making a big decision and changing your life direction.







    I talk about a recent research study by Steven Levitt (Freakanomics) that provided some fascinating results from 20,000 people making a big life decision based on a virtual coin flip.







    Other stuff I talk about include:







    * The Art of Strategic Quitting* Why you should Pull the Trigger and make the change* How to make a huge life change and not blow up your life in the process* The two big things that keep you stuck and unable to follow through on making a big life change







    As Albert Einstein said,







    "The measure of intelligence is the ability to change"







    Comments, questions or concerns : tony@javabud.com







    Website: javabud.com







    Be the Change You Want to See







    #bethechange #makingabiglifedecision #cantdecide #atacrossroads #shouldistayorshouldigo #timeforanewrelationship #signsofabadrelationship #signsofabadjob #coinflip #makeadecision #podcastersofinstagram #instaadvice #womensempowerment #empowermentcoach #professionalwomencoach #tonydufresne #thejavabud

    • 15 min

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