Dr. Leah Tidey shares research informed advice that can lubricate any conversation about sex. As a sexual health and arts-based researcher, I bring together your questions about sex, interviews with professionals in the field and my take on social media trends, t.v. shows, music and books. If you have questions, send a voice memo to firstname.lastname@example.org or check me out on social media! Instagram @dr.leahtidey Twitter @TideyLeah Facebook https://www.facebook.com/leah.tidey.1/
What's Dating Like With 600K Subscribers? feat. Rachel Leary
Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about accessing inclusive sexual health care and what to do if your doctor has very different values than you. Like will they still offer you an IUD if you’re single and queer? I also interview social media personality and YouTuber, Rachel Leary. We talk about what it’s like sharing your life online as a woman, the struggles of trying to date as an influencer, and what she has learned about sexual health from starting her own podcast, Rated R with Rach Leary.
Resources from the Show!
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/rachelleary6 (https://www.youtube.com/c/rachelleary6)
My interview on Rachel’s Podcast! https://open.spotify.com/episode/73GtlRnok3dyVkUpBtUqhh?si=63013ec67e884923
Dan Savage Revolutionized Sex. Then the Revolution Came for Him: https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/09/dan-savage-advice-savage-love-criticism-interview.html
‘One-size doesn’t fit all’: Understanding healthcare practitioners’ perceptions, attitudes and behaviours towards sexual and reproductive health and rights in low resource settings’: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7316327/ (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7316327/)
How to Talk To With Your Doctor about Sex: https://www.healthgrades.com/right-care/sexual-health/how-to-talk-with-your-doctor-about-sex
Online STI Testing:https://getcheckedonline.com/Pages/default.aspx
What It's Like Being Married to a Sex Educator feat. Levi Hildebrand
Today on the show, we are switching things up by bringing on my husband and business partner, Levi Hildebrand, to answer your questions about jealousy and TikTok, coming out to your partner after 11 years of marriage, and setting boundaries before your first sexual experience with someone. Like, is asking someone whether or not they’d get an abortion crossing a line or is it just strong communication? We also talk about the evolution of our relationship, some of our learning from the world of ethical non-monogamy and what it’s really like being married to a sexual health educator.
Resources from the Show!
Levi and Leah YouTube Channel:
Instagram: @dr.leahtidey and @levi_hildebrand
Pokemon Evolution Database: https://pokemondb.net/evolution
Big Mouth Has Nailed It’s Raunchy Limits in Season 5: https://decider.com/2021/11/05/big-mouth-season-5-leah/ (https://decider.com/2021/11/05/big-mouth-season-5-leah/)
Sexual Debut versus ‘Virginity”: https://nypost.com/2021/09/24/woke-writer-attacks-the-word-virginity-suggests-sexual-debut/ (https://nypost.com/2021/09/24/woke-writer-attacks-the-word-virginity-suggests-sexual-debut/)
FAQ: The Abortion Pill Mifegymiso: https://www.actioncanadashr.org/resources/factsheets-guidelines/2019-04-06-faq-abortion-pill-mifegymiso (https://www.actioncanadashr.org/resources/factsheets-guidelines/2019-04-06-faq-abortion-pill-mifegymiso)
How To Access A Safe, Self-Managed Medical Abortion: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/pregnancy_and_parenting_sexual_health/how_to_access_a_safe_selfmanaged_medical_abortion
Options for Sexual Health (Including Referrals for Pregnancy and Abortion Care): https://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/
Yes, Your Grandma Has Sex feat. Joan Price
Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about queer representation in the media and how to maintain independence in a relationship. As someone who literally works 10 feet away from their partner all day, it’s something I have thought about a lot!
I also share my interview with the one and only, Joan Price. This 78 year old Senior Sexpert - by the way, happy birthday Joan! - spends her time talking out loud about senior sex. We talk about the myths that people have about sexuality and aging, share advice on how to navigate conversations with new sexual partners, and how humour is essential to great sex.
Resources from the Show!
Find Joan and her books, webinars, and blog at https://joanprice.com/ (https://joanprice.com).
Naked at Our Age with Joan Price Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/JoanPriceAuthor/ (https://www.facebook.com/JoanPriceAuthor/)
Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoanPrice (https://twitter.com/JoanPrice)
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejoanprice/ (https://www.instagram.com/thejoanprice/)
View https://youtu.be/wqVeBfzzYD4 (Joan Price Talks Out Loud About Senior Sex)
Author of award-winning books https://joanprice.com/books/naked-at-our-age (Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex) and https://joanprice.com/product/sex-after-grief (Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved).
Co-creator of “https://joanprice.com/wicked-sex (jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex: Senior Sex),” winner 2019 AV award, AASECT (American Assn. of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)
Resident Senior Sexpert for https://www.hotoctopuss.com/senior-sex/ (Hot Octopuss Senior Sex Hub)
For senior sex news and views, subscribe to my newsletter: http://eepurl.com/cx2Nab (http://eepurl.com/cx2Nab).
The Pervasive Reality of Anti-Black Racism in Canada: https://www.bcg.com/en-ca/publications/2020/reality-of-anti-black-racism-in-canada
Bill 2 is “the most transphobic bill ever proposed in Quebec” activist says: prohttps://montrealgazette.com/news/local-news/bill-2-is-the-most-transphobic-bill-ever-proposed-in-quebec-activist-says
Petition: Withdrawal of Certain Sections of Bill 2: https://www.assnat.qc.ca/en/exprimez-votre-opinion/petition/Petition-9319/index.html (https://www.assnat.qc.ca/en/exprimez-votre-opinion/petition/Petition-9319/index.html)
Reality TV and Queer Identities: https://link.springer.com/book/10.1007%2F978-3-030-14215-5 (https://link.springer.com/book/10.1007%2F978-3-030-14215-5)
But How Many Are We? LGBTQ+ Stats and Stigmas: https://yr.media/identity/but-how-many-are-we-lgbtq-stats-and-stigmas/ (https://yr.media/identity/but-how-many-are-we-lgbtq-stats-and-stigmas/)
LGBTQ Stats: https://www.lgbtqstats.org/about
Consensual Non-Monogamy: Is It Just About Sex? feat. Dr. Amy C. Moors
Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about jealousy and what to do if you’re feeling insecure about your partner watching porn. I also share my interview with Dr. Amy C. Moors where we debunk some major myths about consensual non-monogamy. Like how many people are doing it? And is everyone jealous all the time?! Amy shares the most up to date research and practical advice on how to navigate romantic relationships, monogamous or non-monogamous.
References from the show!
Dr. Amy C Moors: email@example.com
website: http://www.amycmoors.com/ (www.amycmoors.com)
Perceived Effects of Pornography on the Couple Relationship: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-016-0783-6
Polyamory is more common than you think: https://www.publichealthpost.org/research/polyamory/
Prevalence of previous engagement in consensual non-monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/prevalence-of-experiences-with-consensual-nonmonogamous-relationships (https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/prevalence-of-experiences-with-consensual-nonmonogamous-relationships)
Prevalence of the ideal type of relationship: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/10.1080/00224499.2019.1580667 (https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/10.1080/00224499.2019.1580667)
Comparisons of relationship quality among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/the-investigation-of-consensually-non-monogamous-relationships (https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/the-investigation-of-consensually-non-monogamous-relationships)
New language people create to describe "jealousy": https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1363460706069987?casa_token=L7A3je_LtVAAAAAA:65czk8sF5lUr9AHgAADj4qkPbVENdnq78MFEGoLgbkGvYcvD_xPbNwe2G5_eHCXJCnlbkAjYXuE5Woo (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1363460706069987?casa_token=L7A3je_LtVAAAAAA:65czk8sF5lUr9AHgAADj4qkPbVENdnq78MFEGoLgbkGvYcvD_xPbNwe2G5_eHCXJCnlbkAjYXuE5Woo)
Safer sex practices among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and ostensible monogamy: https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/unfaithful-individuals-are-less-likely-to-practice-safer-sex (https://www.amycmoors.com/publications/unfaithful-individuals-are-less-likely-to-practice-safer-sex)
STI rates among people engaged in consensual non-monogamy and monogamy: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1743609515344222 (https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1743609515344222)
Willow Smith Opens Up About Being Polyamorous: https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-56852099
State of Affairs by Esther Perel
Polysecure by Jessica Fern
Opening Up by Tristan Taomino
Sex Education with the Halal Sexpert feat. Dr. Shaakira Abdullah
Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about whether gay men can donate blood here in Canada and how to feel like you’re part of the LGBTQ2S+ community as a bisexual. I also share my interview with the Halal Sexpert, Dr. Shaakira Abdullah. We talk about the workshops she teaches, such as Get Cliterate and What That Mouth Do? Oral sex, Fellatio, and foreplay, and if there is space in the sexual health world for educators from very different perspectives.
Resources from the Show!
Dr. Shaakira Abdullah: https://linktr.ee/thehalalsexpert
Where To Get A Vulva Puppet: https://www.thebodyagency.com/collections/all-products (https://www.thebodyagency.com/collections/all-products)
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Understanding general population impact and opportunities from changes to blood donation deferral screening and criteria for men who have sex with men: https://www.blood.ca/en/research/understanding-general-population-impact-and-opportunities-changes-blood-donation-0
About Men Who Have Sex With Men: Why We Talk About This Screening Criterion
Legality of Eligibility to Donate Blood: https://www.tcwalkerlawyers.com/legality-of-eligibility-requirements-to-donate-blood/
Men Who Have Sex With Men: https://www.blood.co.uk/who-can-give-blood/men-who-have-sex-with-men/ (https://www.blood.co.uk/who-can-give-blood/men-who-have-sex-with-men/)
How To Be A Bisexual+ Ally By Challenging these Bi+ Myths Everyday
Scarleteen Website: http://www.scarleteen.org (www.Scarleteen.org)
Is My Vagina Normal? feat. Farzana Doctor
Today on the show, I’m answering your questions about whether folks with vulvas mature more quickly than folks with penises and how what we’re watching on Netflix is impacting how we behave in the bedroom. I also share my interview with author, activist, and therapist, Farzana Doctor. Farzana and I talk about her new book Seven and how fiction is a powerful tool to address taboo topics in a pleasurable yet impactful way. In particular, we discuss khatna, a form of female genital mutilation (FGM) and what we can do to raise the profile to end its practice.
Resources from the Show!
Farzana Doctor: https://linktr.ee/farzanadoctor (https://linktr.ee/farzanadoctor)
Seven promo code for Canadians at http://www.dundurn.com (www.dundurn.com) with code DOCTOR25
End FGM Canada Network: https://www.endfgm.ca/ (https://www.endfgm.ca/)
Dear Maasi: https://sahiyo.com/2020/09/13/dear-maasi-a-new-sex-and-relationship-column-for-survivors-of-female-genital-cutting/ (https://sahiyo.com/2020/09/13/dear-maasi-a-new-sex-and-relationship-column-for-survivors-of-female-genital-cutting/)
The Practice of Khatna or Female Genital Mutilation Amongst the Dawoodi (Daudi) Bohra Shia Muslim Community: https://sahiyo.com/2016/01/19/the-practice-of-khatna-or-female-genital-mutilation-amongst-the-dawoodi-daudi-bohra-shia-muslim-community-part-1/
World Health Organization Key Facts about FGM: https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation
The Lost and Lonely Clitoris: Why Can So Few People Find It?: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/31/the-lost-and-lonely-clitoris-why-can-so-few-people-find-it (https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/may/31/the-lost-and-lonely-clitoris-why-can-so-few-people-find-it)
Labia Liberation: The Movement to End Vulva Anxiety for Good: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/sep/13/labia-liberation-the-movement-to-end-vulva-anxiety-for-good
The Vulva Gallery: https://www.thevulvagallery.com/the-vulva-gallery (https://www.thevulvagallery.com/the-vulva-gallery)
Ida Applebroog Monalisa (vulva drawings) https://www.hauserwirth.com/publications/9351-ida-applebroog-monalisa (https://www.hauserwirth.com/publications/9351-ida-applebroog-monalisa)
How TikTok is Reclaiming Outer Labia in a Humorous and Non-Judgemental Way: https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2021/08/10638396/tiktok-female-body-confidence-labia (https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2021/08/10638396/tiktok-female-body-confidence-labia)
Meat Curtains by @ella.watkins on TikTok
S.E.X. The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna
Science Explains Why Women Are Faster To Mature Than Men: https://www.mic.com/articles/111226/science-explains-why-women-are-faster-to-mature-than-men
Amazing sexual health resource
Thank you so much for this podcast Leah! It’s helped me think much more deeply about love, sex, gender, boundaries and so much more. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to expand my knowledge on these topics. Keep up the good work!
Loving this podcast so far! Leah definitely does her research and always speaks very thoughtfully on the topics she covers. I appreciate the inclusivity and sex positive messages in every episode.
This podcast is super inclusive and informative!