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In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with my friend Amy Refeca.
Amy and I met in 2019 while networking. Amy is the owner and managing attorney of Atlanta Wills and Trusts Law Group in Alpharetta, Georgia. Her firm helps women protect who and what they love the most. 
We talk about how great it is to meet professionally and then become personal friends. 
We cover the importance of friends who help us maintain our boundaries and how our friend groups change throughout our lives. We also touch on how realizing we have the wrong friends helps us keep on our toes, looking for people who are a fit with us.
Amy shares her experience from 20+ years ago, when, as a new mother, she returned to her work in a "big law firm" a mere 4 weeks after giving birth. She was exhausted and had zero energy for making friends. One of her work friends at the firm stepped up and helped her figure out how to handle that high stress job and a new baby. Amy notes that her friend, who has become one of her ride-or-dies, is not a parent.
Which, of course, led to talking about the advantage of having friends with different life experiences who bring a richness and perspective to our relationships. We both believe this is particularly important for moms with young children because we know how easy it is to find ourselves in the parenting tunnel.  
Perhaps my favorite part of our chat happened when Amy shared that some of her most important friends weren't traditional friends. They were the women who hosted the podcasts and wrote the books she listened to as she shopped or watched a sporting event. When she ran out of energy and it was just too much to even consider talking to anyone, she relied on those voices in her earbuds. They became the voices in her head (this will be a podcast topic!).
Amy talks about feeling like a crone most of her life. So, now that she's entering her 50's, she feels like she's coming home. And, as the wisest crones know, as we age, we get to forgive ourselves for beating ourselves up about things like not having enough friends. We realize that we did the best we could at the time and survived to tell the story.
And that right there is why I created this podcast: To share the wisdom of women over 50, and to reassure our younger listeners that life is not about the mistakes we've made, it's about weaving them into our stories as powerful examples of how we've grown.
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Suggestions for future episodes:
Have someone you want me to interview (including you) or a topic you'd like us to cover? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Resources and Show Links:
Atlanta Wills & Trust Law Group: https://atlantawillsandtrusts.com/
Amy's Social: 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/refecas.refecas (personal)
https://www.facebook.com/atlwillsandtrustslawgroup (business)
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyrefeca/ (personal)
 https://www.instagram.com/atlwillsandtrustslawgroup/ (@atlwillsandtrustslawgroup)
X (formerly Twitter): @atlwills_trusts
Email me (Becky): shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com
My coaching website: https://beckyberrycoach.com 
 

Since I consider women's healthcare a pressing issue, this episode is longer, coming in at just under an hour. Listening to it is a worthy investment of your time.
In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with Susan Salenger, author of Sidelined: How Women Can Navigate a Broken Healthcare System.
Sue's publicist reached out to me about her book. Since I, like most women, understand how broken our healthcare system is in the United States, I was intrigued.
After reading Sidelined, I couldn't wait to interview Sue. In her book, she shares her research and knowledge about women's health, providing actionable strategies that can improve our health outcomes immediately. I particularly appreciated the context she created for this conversation in her chapter on how women have been regarded throughout history. It was both enlightening and disconcerting given how little has changed.
At 81, Sue serves as both a role model and inspiration.
In our conversation, Sue talks about the reluctance of many women to seek healthcare for themselves while not hesitating to obtain it for our families.
The most powerful actionable strategy she shares is writing down a numbered list of what we want to cover when we see our doctors. Taking that list (a copy for them and a copy for us) will yield a more productive appointment - particularly if the doctor sees something on that list that is of more concern than we realize.
One of my favorite parts of the book and our conversation covers the importance of getting 2nd opinions, particularly for complicated diagnoses. Sue points out that there are over 40,000 diseases and many of them have symptoms in common. She notes that it's not realistic to expect doctors to be familiar with all 40,000+ diseases, so obtaining that 2nd (or 3rd) opinion increases our chances of receiving the correct diagnosis.
She also talks about one of my particular struggles with going for that 2nd or 3rd opinion, I don't want to hurt the doctor's feelings. Which by the way, is right in line with not wanting to bother the doctor, or impose on the doctor when we're not sure what's going on with our bodies!!
SMH (smack my head)!!
It was an enlightening and educational conversation. I hope you enjoy it.
You can find Sue on her website: https://www.susansalenger.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/suesalenger
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-salenger-a4a02716/
Instagram: @susansalenger
Tiktok: @grandma.gains
Thanks in Advance for your help:
I hope you enjoy this episode. If you did, don't keep it a secret! Please tell a friend. Your recommendation is the most powerful way to help us acquire new listeners.
Also, if you're listening to us on Apple podcasts, please rate and review us.
Suggestions for future episodes:
Have someone you want me to interview (including you)? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Have a topic you'd like for me to discuss? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
My coaching website: https://beckyberrycoach.com 
 
Thanks again for listening!

In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with novelist Mary Ann Noe.
I'm excited to chat with Mary Ann because I'm an inveterate reader (150+ books/year) and I've always wanted to interview an author. Mary Ann is my first.
Mary Ann embodies the idea of She's Not Done Yet. She's in her late 70's and has published 3 books in the last 3 years. Another one will be released in October 2024. Talk about not being done yet!
In our conversation we talk about her novel, A Handful of Pearls and her newest release, Water the Color of Slate plus her other novels in process. 
One of my favorite parts of our conversation occurred when Mary Ann shared how her mom gave her the first sentence in A Handful of Pearls - it's an attention-grabbing sentence!
We also cover her writing process, her writing group, and, in general, the business of writing.
Water the Color of Slate was released in October 2023 at a launch party hosted by Tricia's Troops, a local Southeast Wisconsin non-profit organization that supports people with cancer. Mary Ann is a breast cancer thriver.
Stay tuned for more books from Mary Ann. Her murder mystery, Deserving of Murder, will be published in October 2024. It's part one of a trilogy.
You can find Mary Ann's books at independent bookstores, on Amazon (including Kindle), and at Barnes & Noble online.
I'm going to invite Mary Ann back to talk about Deserving of Murder when it's published. 
Thanks in Advance for your help:
I hope you enjoy this episode. If you did, don't keep it a secret! Please tell a friend. Your recommendation is the most powerful way to help us acquire new listeners.
Also, if you're listening to us on Apple podcasts, please rate and review us.
Suggestions for future episodes:
Have someone you want me to interview (including you)? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Have a topic you'd like for me to discuss? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Resources and Show Links:
Mary Ann's blog: www.maryannnoe.com
Tricia's Troops: https://triciastroops.org/ 
Email me: shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com
My coaching website: https://beckyberrycoach.com 
Thanks again for listening!
Becky

In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with my friend, Cheryl Cooper, and her friend, Kisha Solomon.
Cheryl and I met when we started our coaching businesses back in 2015/2016. We've been each others' orbit ever since. This was my first time meeting Kisha.
Cheryl and Kisha represent a cross-generational friendship, like me and my friend Kyle (Season 3 Episode 1).
Cheryl is one of the most grounded, motivated, and intentional women I know. Her deep experience in life and work makes her a fabulous coach and great friend. Plus, she has a great sense of humor and knows all the best places to eat! 
I loved getting to know Kisha through this interview. Like Cheryl, she's grounded, motivated, and so intentional. I also love her energy and sense of humor!
In this episode Cheryl, Kisha, and I and I talk about making friends at work, acquiring mentors, and how those friendships both lift us up and inform how we move forward.
Some notable moments:
Being a black woman in corporate America and how to survive and even thrive (spoiler alert - it's about friendships!). A conversation about the importance of relationships - other than romantic ones! How it feels to come back together after not seeing people for a while. Being a role model for intentionally single women. How our friends reflect us back to ourselves - as we could be. One of the best things in the best friendships is the validation of our self worth we receive from those friends. A chat about the value of the complementary points-of-view we can encounter in cross -generational friendships - particularly around entrepreneurship. Thanks in Advance for your help:
I hope you enjoy this episode. If you did, don't keep it a secret! Please tell a friend. Your recommendation is the most powerful way to help us acquire new listeners.
Also, if you're listening to us on Apple podcasts, please rate and review us.
Suggestions for future episodes:
Have someone you want me to interview (including you)? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Have a topic you'd like for me to discuss? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Resources and Show Links:
To get in touch with Cheryl Cooper:
Website: https://thecherylcooper.com
Email: Info@thecherylcooper.com
Insta: @thecherylcooper
Facebook: thecherylcooper
LinkedIn: thecherylcooper
To get in touch with Kisha Solomon:
Website: https://kishasolomon.com
Insta: @kishasolomon
Email me: shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com
MAD! Workspace for Women in Alpharetta GA (where we record): https://madworkspace.co
My coaching website: https://beckyberrycoach.com 
Thanks again for listening!

In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with my friend Aisha Flores.
Aisha and I met through her husband Dan, who was my coach a while back. Aisha became a client as she moved through defining and pursuing a new career in Public Health. 
We laugh at this now, but the first time I read Aisha's résumé, it was so bad that I lost it. To this day, it remains the résumé that most poorly represents the power and experience of its subject. 
Aisha is brilliant, she's the definition of self-motivated, she's a mom, a grandmom, and a wife, and she's also the definition of introvert.
As you listen to the podcast, you'll notice she's hesitant to talk about herself, but when she talks about her passions, she's eloquent. To me, this is the mark of a true introvert. 
In this episode Aisha and I talk about friendships that go back to preschool, how our friendships change as our lives change, and how friendships can pull us from the deep end of being overwhelmed by our lives.
Thanks in Advance for your help:
I hope you enjoy this episode. If you did, don't keep it a secret! Please tell a friend. Your recommendation is the most powerful way to help us acquire new listeners.
Also, if you're listening to us on Apple podcasts, please rate and review us.
Suggestions for future episodes:
Have someone you want me to interview (including you)? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Have a topic you'd like for me to discuss? Email me at shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com.
Resources and Show Links:
THE Book on introverts: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in A World That Can't Quit Talking by Susan Cain
Buttercup Steam Camp: https://www.buttercupsteam.io/
Buttercup Steam Social: 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/buttercupsteam
Instagram: @buttercupsteam
X (formerly Twitter): @buttercupsteam
Email me: shesnotdoneyetyall@gmail.com
MAD! Workspace for Women in Alpharetta GA (where we record): https://madworkspace.co
My coaching website: https://beckyberrycoach.com 

In this episode of She's Not Done Yet: Conversations with women over 50, I (Becky Berry) talk with mypodcast co-host and dear friend Diana Bader.
Diana and I met in July 2015 and started our podcast, Uniquely Brilliant (still available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, etc) in November of that year.
To say we hit it off immediately would be an egregious understatement. When we went on hiatus in 2022 because of Diana's health, we had published 161 episodes, including many episodes during the pandemic.
In this episode, we talk about our friendship, Diana's move from Georgia back to her home state (Ohio) and hometown, female friendships, and how women come together to support each other when things go sideways.
Talking with Diana always makes my day!
A note about Diana's photo. While I generally prefer to post photos of people without sunglasses, this photo of Diana is the most perfect representation of her I've ever seen.
I hope you enjoyed this episode.
Show links:
Uniquely Brilliant Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1jiRXkj0Elg1nTYIbWabv9?si=1b3e13f7dce54a8c
MAD! Workspace for Women in Alpharetta GA (where we record): https://madworkspace.co