An Evolving Man Podcast Piers Cross

What is the outer critic especially in terms of childhood trauma, complex PTSD and boarding school syndrome?How does the outer critic come to the fore? And what is the outer critic's link to the inner aspect?Today I wanted to offer some reflections about how this part of our psyche plays out.I quote from Pete Walker and his book, Complex PTSD and also from Nick Duffell's Wounded Leaders and his take on dissociation.If you have learned to dissociate from the unwanted parts of yourself you will...

Repressing emotions is abuse. Speaking with clinical psychologist Dr Nathan Baumann today we have a fascinating conversation about the psychology of emotions especially with men and boys.He talks about how most emotions are not allowed and how that impacts society.He also talks about what he feels about having no space for emotions like in a lot of boarding schools.He feels it is emotional abuse.A fascinating conversation. Very enlightening.---Dr. Nathan Baumann is a Licensed Clinical Ps...

Today I talk about our relationships to emotions at boarding school.I talk about how we repress them. And the cost of this on our psyches.I quote from the interview I did a couple of days ago with a clinical psychologist and Nick Duffell.I also quote from Daniel Kupfermann's book Don't Be So Senstive.The Emotion Feeling Wheel: https://www.davidhodder.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Emotion-Feeling-Wheel-1-1.jpg Podcast #97 with Dr Nathan Baumann goes live on Friday 21st June: https://yout...

Today I wanted to offer some reflections about emotional flashbacks.Pete Walker talks about how these emotional triggers and reactions are a symptom of complext PTSD.I used to struggle with emotional flashbacks regularly.Today I talk about some of the examples from my own life.I also talk about how to deal with these flashbacks and I link it to Pete Walker's 13 Ways of Dealing With Flashbacks:http://pete-walker.com/pdf/13StepsManageFlashbacks.pdfI also talk about Dr Claudia Gold's interview h...

In today's video I talk about how important it was for us to be liked at boarding school.If we weren't liked, we were often sent to coventry. We were banished.Richard Beard in his book Sad Little Men, talks about how on any given year group there was alway one 'custos' - the outcast.If you couldn't see the 'custos' then it was you.I talk about compliers and people pleasers.And how dangerous it was not to be liked at boarding school.We couldn't just go home at the end of the day. If we weren't...

In today's episode I talk about fear and boarding school.I talk about some of my own experiences of school and how I felt that I was in fear a lot of my time.I talk about some of the fear-based beliefs I left boarding school with:- Fear of making mistakes- Fear of getting close to others- Fear of being ostacized- Fear of failureI share some of Bear Gryll's experiences of fear at boarding school.#trauma #hypervigilance #fear #beargryllsTake care,Piers--- Piers is an author and a me...