How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

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Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.

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Court Presence: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part III • Your Divorce Case

Mastering Courtroom Behavior: Your Guide to Trial Success In this final installment of our three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into courtroom etiquette, behavior, and psychological preparation. As part of our season-long exploration of Your Divorce Case, this episode provides essential insights into how to present yourself effectively in court and work productively with your attorney during trial. Seth and Pete break down the discussion into three key segments: mastering courtroom behavior, being an asset to your attorney during trial, and psychological preparation. They explore everything from appropriate facial expressions and dress code to the importance of proper note-taking and communication with your attorney. The conversation also covers critical aspects of post-trial procedures, including motions for rehearing and appeals, while emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure both inside and outside the courtroom. Questions we answer in this episode: What are the most common courtroom etiquette mistakes that can hurt your case?How should you handle emotionally triggering statements during trial?What's the proper way to communicate with your attorney during proceedings?Key Takeaways: Maintain neutral facial expressions and conservative dress in courtUse note-taking to manage emotions and assist your attorney effectivelyStay off social media before, during, and after trialWhether you're preparing for trial or simply want to understand the court process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of divorce court. Seth and Pete's practical advice and real-world examples make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce proceedings or interested in understanding courtroom dynamics. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part III (01:16) - Mastering Courtroom Behavior (04:38) - Handling Emotional Triggers (06:48) - Judicial Hot Buttons (10:04) - Being an Asset to Your Legal Team (13:00) - Communicating During Zoom Court (13:29) - Strategy and Psychological Preparation (16:34) - The Courthouse Encounter (19:22) - Avoid Social Media (21:33) - Post-Trial Steps (25:45) - Testing Pete (30:27) - Don’t Get Freaked Out (31:45) - Wrap Up

34 min
4 MAR

Strategic Moves: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part II • Your Divorce Case

Trial Strategy: Making Your Case in Divorce Court In this second installment of their three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into trial strategy and momentum. Part of their season-long "Your Divorce Case" conversation, this episode explores how attorneys navigate the complex dynamics of presenting evidence, examining witnesses, and adapting their approach as trials unfold. Building on last week's overview of courtroom basics, they now focus on the strategic elements that can make or break a case. Seth shares detailed insights about trial preparation, witness examination, and the intricate dance between attorneys, judges, and clients during proceedings. Through real-world examples and candid discussion, Seth and Pete break down how success is measured in divorce court, why "winning" isn't always what it seems, and how attorneys must constantly adjust their strategy as new evidence emerges. Their conversation reveals the complex reality behind courtroom proceedings, including how judges signal their thinking and why settlement offers often play a crucial role in defining success. Questions we answer in this episode: What happens when you finally take the witness stand?How do attorneys measure success in divorce court?Why don't clients really get their "day in court"?Key Takeaways: Trial momentum can shift dramatically between daysYour attorney should be completely transparent about how the case is progressingThe best outcome often beats the last settlement offer, not necessarily "wins" everythingWhether you're headed to trial or trying to decide if you should settle, this episode offers crucial insights into how divorce trials really work. Seth and Pete's practical discussion helps demystify the process while providing valuable perspective on what constitutes success in divorce court. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part II (01:44) - Be Prepared for Anything (06:21) - It’s Not Your Day in Court (08:56) - Sit Still and Don't React (10:55) - Legalese (16:19) - Shifting Strategies (20:56) - The Final Judgment (23:39) - Momentum (25:03) - In-Court Relationships (27:51) - Closing Statements (33:28) - Finishing the Case and Measuring Success (42:58) - Being Honest (46:04) - Wrap Up

48 min
25 FEB

Behind the Bench: Anatomy of a Divorce Trial, Part I • Your Divorce Case

Inside the Courtroom: What Really Happens During a Divorce Trial Tampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore what really happens when a divorce case goes to trial in this first episode of a two-part deep dive. As part of the tenth season's "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete take listeners inside a Florida divorce courtroom, breaking down everything from the physical layout to the intricate procedures that govern these proceedings. Seth guides us through the mechanics of a divorce trial, describing the roles of everyone present—from the judge and attorneys to the bailiff and court reporter. The conversation examines how evidence is presented, the importance of proper documentation, and the strategic elements that shape trial proceedings. Pete's thoughtful questions help illuminate complex legal concepts, making them accessible to anyone facing divorce court. Questions we answer in this episode: What does a divorce courtroom look like and who will be there?How does evidence get admitted during a trial?What happens during opening statements and how do they shape the case?Key Takeaways: Trials move quickly—preparation and organization are crucialEvidence must be authenticated, relevant, and admissible to be consideredLike a tennis match, trials have momentum shifts but staying focused is keyWhether you're facing a divorce trial or simply want to understand the process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into how divorce trials actually work. Seth and Pete's engaging discussion demystifies the courtroom experience while offering practical knowledge about what to expect when your divorce goes to trial. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:36) - The Trial Part One (01:29) - The Courtroom (04:56) - Public Viewing (06:57) - Taking Notes (08:26) - Procedures (10:54) - Memoranda, Joint Stipulated Exhibits, Etc. (16:36) - Evidence (17:40) - Getting It Into the Transcript (19:00) - Housekeeping Issues (20:02) - Kids (20:24) - Back to Housekeeping Issues (23:58) - Opening Statements (27:06) - Presenting the Evidence (28:13) - Closing Statements (29:25) - Painting a Picture (30:15) - Chess Match (33:00) - Next Time and Wrap Up

35 min
18 FEB

You Asked, We Answer: Your Toughest Divorce Questions

Your Burning Divorce Questions: Expert Answers for Real-Life Situations As part of this season's deep dive into "Your Divorce Case," Pete Wright and family law attorney Seth Nelson tackle listener questions spanning complex financial arrangements to sensitive custody matters. Their insights provide practical guidance for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce proceedings. Real Solutions for Modern Divorce Challenges This episode explores creative solutions to modern divorce challenges, from managing shared living spaces post-divorce to handling delicate relationship transitions. Through real-world examples, Seth and Pete address concerns about property division, co-parenting, and legal documentation, offering actionable advice while emphasizing the importance of proper legal guidance. Listener Questions Covered: Post-divorce cohabitation: Managing shared home ownership with a low interest rateDating during slow-moving divorce proceedings: Understanding potential consequencesInternational divorce complications: Handling custody with a foreign national spouseReunification therapy timeline: What to expect in the healing processDocumenting parental alienation: Effective strategies for courtCatholic annulment concerns: Managing religious and legal proceedingsCreative settlement options: Handling significant age gap divorcesLegal annulment vs. divorce: Understanding the differences and requirementsEnforcing custody agreements: Dealing with violations and discovery requestsWhy This Episode Matters The episode delivers valuable insights for anyone facing divorce, whether dealing with unique living arrangements, complex financial situations, or challenging custody scenarios. Seth and Pete's practical approach and clear explanations make complex legal concepts accessible while emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions throughout the divorce process. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Listener Questions! (01:16) - Question One (09:44) - Question Two (12:06) - Question Three (14:26) - Question Four (16:09) - Question Five (20:06) - Question Six (25:40) - Question Seven (28:10) - Question Eight (31:11) - Question Nine (37:30) - Wrap Up

39 min
11 FEB

What's It Worth?: Smart Strategies for Appraisals • Your Divorce Case

Demystifying the Appraisal Process in Divorce Seth and Pete dive deep into the complex world of appraisals during divorce proceedings. Whether you're dealing with real estate, wine collections, artwork, or vintage electronics, understanding how items are valued can significantly impact your divorce settlement. Getting your assets properly appraised is crucial for fair distribution in a divorce, but timing and strategy matter. Seth and Pete explore the differences between full appraisals and market analyses, when to get items appraised, and how to handle situations where collections or assets may be damaged or hidden. Through real examples and practical scenarios, they break down the systematic approach professional appraisers use to determine value. Questions we answer in this episode: When is the best time during divorce proceedings to get items appraised?Should both parties get separate appraisals or share one appraiser?How do courts handle significant differences between competing appraisals?Key Takeaways: Start the appraisal process early, especially for valuable collectionsDocument everything with photos and receipts before moving itemsFor items you want to keep, lower valuations work in your favor during settlementThis episode provides essential knowledge for anyone navigating property division in divorce. Seth and Pete offer practical guidance on protecting your interests while maintaining transparency in the appraisal process. Their discussion of real-world cases and strategic considerations makes complex appraisal concepts accessible and actionable.Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Appraisals (02:02) - Garage Sale Value Unless… (03:07) - Why to Get an Appraisal (04:29) - When to Do It (05:29) - High vs. Low Appraisal (06:33) - Before or After Marriage Purchases (07:14) - Identification (08:51) - Quality (09:36) - Special Circumstances (09:52) - Value (13:48) - Separate vs. Joint Appraisals (15:44) - Analyzing the Appraisal (17:23) - Collecting Data (18:04) - Recording the Data (19:21) - The Report (19:54) - Can Be Tedious and Detailed (23:25) - Conflict in the Process (26:06) - Tainting Judge’s Opinion (26:51) - Active Appreciation and Depreciation (28:33) - Virtual Appraisals (29:12) - When to Update Appraisals (31:15) - Back to High vs. Low (33:30) - When It’s Overseas (35:22) - Wrap Up

37 min
4 FEB

The Hot Seat: Mastering Your Divorce Deposition • Your Divorce Case

The Art of Divorce Depositions: Strategy, Preparation, and Success In this episode of the season-long "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete tackle one of the most crucial elements of divorce proceedings: depositions. As Seth notes, depositions are where cases can be won or lost, making this episode essential listening for anyone facing divorce proceedings. The discussion reveals the strategic chess game that unfolds during depositions, from how attorneys prepare their clients to the careful dance of questions and answers. Seth shares insights from his years of experience, explaining why depositions are his favorite part of legal proceedings and how proper preparation can make all the difference. The episode covers everything from the basic structure of a deposition to advanced techniques for handling difficult questions, all while emphasizing the importance of authenticity and honesty in your responses. Questions we answer in this episode: What rules should I follow when answering deposition questions?How do attorney objections work during a deposition?What rights do I have if questioning becomes hostile?Key Takeaways: Listen carefully and only answer exactly what's askedTake your time reviewing documentsStay authentic - don't try to outsmart the processThis episode provides invaluable insights for anyone facing a deposition, offering both practical guidance and strategic understanding. Seth's enthusiasm for the deposition process, combined with real-world examples, makes complex legal concepts accessible and actionable for listeners. Links & Notes Tune in to our Deposition Prep episode!Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Depositions (00:56) - What Is a Deposition? (02:41) - An Art, Not a Science (03:36) - Who Is Present? (04:02) - Questions and Answers and Objections (07:34) - Recorded vs. Live (09:10) - Strategy (13:39) - What You Can’t Do (16:05) - Attorney Client Privilege (18:11) - Preparing the Client (20:33) - It’s an Interview, Not a Conversation (23:00) - How Much Coaching Works (25:11) - Recording Types (27:27) - Understand the Theme of Your Case (30:33) - Ethical Considerations (32:44) - Take Your Time (35:33) - Making Mistakes (36:53) - Wrap Up

41 min
28 JAN

The Child's Voice: Understanding Guardian Ad Litems in Custody Cases • Your Divorce Case

In this episode of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete explore the crucial role of Guardian Ad Litems (GALs) in custody cases. This episode breaks down how these court-appointed representatives work to protect children's interests during custody disputes, while navigating complex legal challenges like hearsay rules that can limit their effectiveness. The discussion centers on when and why courts appoint GALs, how they gather and present information, and their impact on custody decisions. Seth and Pete examine the limitations GALs face when presenting evidence from teachers, medical professionals, and other third parties, offering practical solutions for overcoming these obstacles. They also provide valuable insights into how parents can effectively work with GALs, including proper communication strategies and the importance of showing balanced perspectives about custody challenges. Questions we answer in this episode: When should you request a Guardian Ad Litem in your custody case?How can hearsay rules affect your GAL's effectiveness?What role do GALs play in the court's final custody decisions?Key Takeaways: Understanding hearsay rules is crucial for effective GAL testimonySuccessful GAL relationships require honest, organized communication from parentsCourts heavily weigh GAL recommendations, though they're not bound by themThis episode provides essential knowledge for parents navigating custody disputes. Whether you're considering requesting a GAL or have been assigned one, understanding their role, limitations, and the legal framework they operate within can significantly impact your case's outcome. Seth and Pete's practical advice offers valuable guidance for parents in the divorce process. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - The Guardian ad Litem (02:09) - Hearsay (04:52) - Truth of the Matter Asserted (06:43) - Exceptions to Hearsay Rule (09:05) - When to Use a GAL (10:48) - Connecting with the Kid (12:37) - Difference from a Therapist (14:32) - Impact (16:25) - How Do You Deal with the GAL? (17:55) - Coaching (20:14) - The Kid’s Opinion (21:45) - Cost (23:04) - Common Mistakes (24:18) - Qualifications (26:41) - Wrap Up

28 min
21 JAN

The Neutral Zone: Inside Divorce Mediation with Tami Sbar • Your Divorce Case

Inside the Mediation Room: Understanding the Process with Family Law Mediator Tami Sbar In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, part of the season-long series Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome back family law mediator Tami Sbar to dive deep into the mediation process. With 35 years of legal experience, Tami shares her unique perspective as a neutral party who helps divorcing couples reach agreements outside the courtroom. This episode builds on last week's discussion about mediation preparation, offering valuable insights into what actually happens during mediation sessions. Seth and Pete explore with Tami how mediation differs from courtroom proceedings, particularly in how it empowers couples to make their own decisions. Tami explains her role as a neutral facilitator rather than a decision-maker, and describes how she works with couples separately to help them reach mutually beneficial agreements. The conversation covers everything from managing power imbalances to handling emotional reactions, while providing practical examples of how mediators can help bridge communication gaps between divorcing partners. Questions we answer in this episode: What exactly does a mediator do during divorce proceedings?How do mediators handle situations with significant power imbalances?Can mediation address issues that courts can't enforce, like college expenses?Key Takeaways: Mediators work as neutral facilitators, not judges or decision-makersKeeping parties in separate rooms often leads to better outcomesSuccessful mediation requires both parties to be emotionally ready to settlePlus, we tackle another listener question! A parent asks about handling college expenses in states where courts don't address them, particularly when one parent previously promised to cover costs through inheritance. Seth and Tami discuss various solutions, from establishing trusts to creating detailed agreements with specific timeframes and conditions. Whether you're considering mediation or already scheduled for it, this episode provides crucial insights into the process. Tami's experienced perspective, combined with Seth and Pete's practical advice, offers valuable guidance for anyone navigating divorce mediation. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Mediation with Tami Sbar (01:29) - Tami’s Background (03:32) - Conditions to Get Through It (04:46) - Being ‘A Neutral’ (06:20) - Finding Underlying Reasons (07:53) - With or Without Lawyers (09:14) - Compartmentalization (11:26) - Preparing Mentally for Mediation (16:31) - How Lawyers Can Mess Things Up (21:02) - Your Authority (22:56) - Negotiating (25:01) - Power Imbalances (29:57) - Finding a Good Mediator (32:07) - Certification (32:51) - Feeling Comfortable with Your Mediator (34:42) - Listener Question (42:36) - Wrap Up

44 min

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Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In "How to Split a Toaster," Nelson takes on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving the most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself. Subscribe to the show wherever you get your podcasts and join us later this month for our official launch!

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