How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

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How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships

Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.

  1. Beyond 50/50: Understanding Equitable Distribution • Your Divorce Case

    1 DAY AGO

    Beyond 50/50: Understanding Equitable Distribution • Your Divorce Case

    Splitting Assets in Divorce: More Than Just Breaking a Toaster in Half In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright tackle the thorny issue of dividing assets in divorce. As part of their P.E.A.C.E. Process mini-series, Seth and Pete break down what "equitable distribution" really means - and why it's about way more than just splitting everything 50/50. Seth and Pete walk through the four key steps of dividing assets: Identification (what stuff do we actually have?), Classification (whose stuff is it really?), Valuation (what's it worth?), and Distribution (who gets what?). They cover everything from basic bank accounts to complex business valuations, and even dive into some surprising assets you might not think about - like vacation days and airline miles. Along the way, they share real-world examples that show why "fair" in divorce court might not match your definition of fairness. Questions we answer in this episode:• How do you figure out what's "yours," "mine," and "ours" in a divorce?• What happens when one person tries to hide assets?• Can my ex get half my frequent flyer miles? Key Takeaways:• Just because something's in your name doesn't mean it's all yours• Personal goodwill (like your winning personality) isn't a marital asset• Sometimes arguing for "fairness" means you've already lost Plus, we tackle another listener question! A California resident asks about inherited money that got mixed into shared accounts and home purchases during marriage. Seth explains why following the money matters and how different states handle these situations differently (spoiler alert: location matters!). Whether you're facing divorce or just curious about how courts slice and dice assets, this episode breaks down complex legal concepts into bite-sized pieces. Seth and Pete take a practical approach to help make this topic both digestible and surprisingly engaging. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - PEACE: Equitable Distribution (01:10) - Equitable, Not Equal (01:38) - Identification (03:55) - Classification (09:35) - Both Marital and Non-Marital (11:30) - Filing Date (12:23) - Proof (13:32) - Rings (14:42) - Valuation (19:34) - Valuing a Business (24:40) - Distribution (26:55) - Not Equitable (28:21) - Hiding Assets (31:52) - Prenups (34:40) - Lots of Nuance (35:26) - Listener Question (41:16) - Wrap Up

    43 min
  2. Mending Family Bonds: A Guide to Reunification Therapy with Gina Aguinaga • Your Divorce Case

    19 NOV

    Mending Family Bonds: A Guide to Reunification Therapy with Gina Aguinaga • Your Divorce Case

    Reunification Therapy: Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships During and After Divorce Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome psychotherapist Gina Aguinaga to explore one of the most challenging aspects of divorce: repairing fractured parent-child relationships. As part of their ongoing "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode dives deep into reunification therapy. Gina, who specializes in helping families navigate difficult divorces and separations, brings her expertise to this crucial conversation about healing broken family bonds. The episode examines the nuanced dynamics of parent-child estrangement during divorce, including both unintentional and intentional alienation behaviors. Seth and Pete guide the discussion through practical approaches to rebuilding relationships, from simple first steps like phone calls to the importance of maintaining presence at children's events. Gina shares insights from her therapeutic process, emphasizing the need to treat family issues holistically rather than focusing solely on the rejected parent and child relationship. Questions we answer in this episode: What behaviors or situations typically lead to parent-child estrangement during divorce?How can parents start rebuilding damaged relationships with their children?When should families seek reunification therapy versus trying to handle issues themselves?Key Takeaways: Start with small, manageable steps toward rebuilding relationshipsFocus on the child's activities and interests during reconnection attemptsAddress issues early - waiting only makes reunification more challengingThis vital installment in the children and divorce conversation provides essential guidance for parents navigating complicated family dynamics. Through professional insight and practical examples, listeners gain valuable strategies for maintaining and rebuilding parent-child relationships during the divorce process, making it a crucial resource for families in transition. Links & Notes Find Gina and learn more about the reunification process at her websiteSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Gina Aguinaga, Reunification Specialist (01:00) - When Reunification Therapy Is Needed (03:36) - Reasons (06:25) - When the Child Doesn’t Want to Connect (07:59) - Role of Favored Parent (10:27) - Intentional Alienation (13:20) - Court-Ordered (15:41) - The Favored Parent’s Perspective (16:57) - Frequency (18:48) - Changing Outcomes (20:49) - New People in Parents’ Lives (21:12) - Extended Family (22:24) - Harder Cases (24:04) - When They’re Doing the Work (26:14) - Out of State (27:50) - Get Your Own Treatment Too (30:24) - Finding Gina

    33 min
  3. Co-Parenting Strategies: Supporting Your Kids After Divorce • Your Divorce Case with Leanne Tran

    12 NOV

    Co-Parenting Strategies: Supporting Your Kids After Divorce • Your Divorce Case with Leanne Tran

    Parenting Across Two Homes: Strategies for Success After Divorce In this installment of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright continue the conversation about parenting plans by exploring the realities of co-parenting children across two households after divorce. They are joined by Leanne Tran, a registered psychologist who specializes in working with children and families dealing with autism, ADHD, and learning disorders. Building upon the previous episode about crafting effective parenting plans, Seth and Pete dive deeper into the impacts of divorce on children and strategies for successful co-parenting, with a special focus on the unique considerations for neurodivergent kids. Leanne shares valuable insights on the key factors that influence how children cope with the changes brought by divorce, such as the level of parental conflict, disruption to routines and sense of identity, and the emotional and behavioral signs of distress parents should watch out for. The discussion also touches on the additional challenges faced by neurodivergent children, who may struggle more with transitions, need for sameness, and sensory sensitivities. Leanne emphasizes the importance of parents being on the same page, providing consistency across households, and being mindful of the impact on siblings as well. Questions we answer in this episode: What signs indicate a child is struggling emotionally with divorce?How can parents best support neurodivergent children across two homes?What should be considered when introducing a new partner to the family dynamic?Key Takeaways: Changes in behavior, emotions, sleep, appetite, and interests can signal distress.Consistency, predictability, and catering to sensory needs are crucial for neurodivergent kids.Clear communication and gradual introductions help children adjust to new partners.Through the lens of her expertise, Leanne provides valuable guidance for parents navigating the complexities of co-parenting, both for neurotypical and neurodivergent children. This episode offers practical tips and compassionate advice to help families thrive after divorce, building upon the foundation of a well-crafted parenting plan discussed in the previous episode. Tune in for insights that can make a real difference in your post-divorce parenting journey. Links & Notes Find Leanne on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and her websiteListen to Leanne’s podcast Parent Like a PsychologistSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Leanne Tran (02:37) - Impact on Kids (04:37) - Signs of Distress (06:07) - Changing Their Own Identity (09:27) - Changes in Routine (11:52) - When They’re Neurodiverse (17:00) - Autism (19:20) - Splitting Time (21:20) - Finding a Sense of Regulation (22:05) - Impact on Siblings (23:30) - New Partners (26:43) - Therapeutic Options (30:29) - Handling Parenting Plan (32:07) - Priority Dilution (36:34) - Finding Leanne (37:49) - Wrap Up

    39 min
  4. Parenting Plans 101: Building a Strong Foundation for Co-Parenting • Your Divorce Case

    5 NOV

    Parenting Plans 101: Building a Strong Foundation for Co-Parenting • Your Divorce Case

    Parenting Plans: The Foundation of Co-Parenting After Divorce In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into the crucial topic of parenting plans as part of their season-long series, Your Divorce Case. Seth shares his expertise on the essential components of a parenting plan and how they can help establish a solid foundation for co-parenting after divorce. Navigating the Complexities of Parenting PlansSeth and Pete discuss the key aspects of parenting plans, including parental responsibility, time-sharing, and addressing the unique needs of children at different ages. They explore how the court determines the best interests of the child using various factors and delve into the implications of relocation cases. The hosts also touch on the importance of flexibility and adaptability in parenting plans while maintaining clear and enforceable guidelines. Questions we answer in this episode: What are the essential components of a parenting plan?How do courts determine the best interests of the child?What happens when one parent needs to relocate for work?Key Takeaways: Parenting plans should be clear, unambiguous, and enforceableFlexibility and adaptability are crucial for successful co-parentingSubstantial changes in circumstances can warrant modifications to the parenting planThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce with children. Seth's expertise and Pete's thoughtful questions provide listeners with a comprehensive understanding of parenting plans and how they can help establish a strong foundation for co-parenting after divorce. By tuning in, you'll gain the knowledge and tools needed to create a parenting plan that prioritizes your children's well-being and fosters a healthy co-parenting relationship. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - PEACE: Parenting Plan (01:25) - Essential Components (04:14) - Legal Terms (06:06) - Determining What’s Best for the Child (09:43) - Weight for the Factors (11:08) - Geography (14:08) - How Detailed? (16:49) - Allowing for Flexibility (18:55) - Modifying It (21:36) - Enforceability (24:34) - Education, Healthcare, Extracurriculars, Etc. (27:30) - Changes in FL Law (29:18) - It’s About the Child, Not You (31:19) - Wrap Up

    34 min
  5. Temporary Relief Unpacked: What It Is, Who It Helps, and Why It Matters • Your Divorce Case

    29 OCT

    Temporary Relief Unpacked: What It Is, Who It Helps, and Why It Matters • Your Divorce Case

    Temporary Relief in Your Divorce In the latest installment of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the complex world of temporary relief. Join them as they explore what temporary relief is, who it helps, who it hurts, and why it matters in the grand scheme of your divorce proceedings. Navigating the Choppy Waters of Divorce Seth and Pete break down the concept of temporary relief, a legal lifeline designed to keep families afloat during the tumultuous divorce process. They discuss how temporary relief can address critical issues like parenting plans, alimony, child support, and attorney's fees. The hosts also delve into the pros and cons of seeking temporary relief and the potential impact on the final outcome of your case. Questions we answer in this episode: What is temporary relief and how can it help during a divorce?How do you request temporary relief and what can you ask for?What are the potential drawbacks of pursuing temporary relief?Key Takeaways: Temporary relief can level the playing field in contentious divorcesRequesting temporary relief involves filing motions and attending hearingsSeeking temporary relief can be costly and time-consuming, so weigh the pros and consSeth and Pete emphasize that while temporary relief can provide much-needed support during a divorce, it's crucial to consider the financial and emotional costs involved. They offer valuable insights into the strategic decisions you'll face when contemplating temporary relief in your own divorce case. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce. With their trademark wit and expertise, Seth and Pete provide the guidance you need to make informed decisions about temporary relief and protect your interests during this challenging time. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Temporary Relief (01:51) - What It’s Supposed to Do (14:54) - Why to Consider It (15:42) - The Process (18:23) - Pros and Cons (24:23) - Review (26:16) - How Influential (28:03) - Wrap Up (28:20) - Listener Question

    36 min
  6. Courtroom Cast: Understanding the Key Players • Your Divorce Case

    22 OCT

    Courtroom Cast: Understanding the Key Players • Your Divorce Case

    Meet the Key Players in Your Divorce In this seventh installment of the "Your Divorce Case" series on How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the various court personnel and professionals you might encounter during your divorce proceedings. From judges to forensic accountants, they break down the roles and responsibilities of each key player, helping you navigate the complex world of divorce court with greater ease and understanding. Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete discuss a wide range of court personnel, including trial judges, appellate judges, judicial assistants, bailiffs, court reporters, and clerks of the court. They also explore the roles of professionals outside the courtroom, such as divorce attorneys, paralegals, forensic accountants, guardians ad litem, mediators, and more. By understanding the function of each individual, you'll be better prepared to work with them effectively throughout your case. Questions we answer in this episode: Who are the key players in a divorce case, both inside and outside the courtroom?What roles do court personnel and professionals play in the divorce process?How can understanding these roles help you navigate your divorce more effectively?Key Takeaways: Familiarize yourself with the various court personnel and professionals involved in your case.Understand the responsibilities of each key player to work with them more effectively.Respect and be courteous to all individuals involved, as their actions can impact your case.As part of the "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce or considering one. By gaining a clear understanding of the key players in your case, you'll be empowered to make informed decisions and work more productively with your legal team. Seth and Pete's insights will help you feel more confident and prepared as you navigate this challenging process. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Court Personnel (02:23) - Pop Quiz (09:11) - Appellate Judge (12:21) - Trial Judge (13:01) - Judicial Assistant (13:35) - Bailiff (14:55) - Court Reporter (15:49) - Paralegals, Legal Assistant, Scheduler, Clerk of the Court (17:12) - Mediation (21:39) - Forensic Accountant (24:49) - Corporate Counsel (26:20) - Social Investigator (27:24) - General Magistrate (29:47) - Lawyers (31:29) - Other Roles (36:41) - Wrap Up

    39 min
  7. Motion Mastery Part II: Navigating Hearings & Common Motions • Your Divorce Case

    15 OCT

    Motion Mastery Part II: Navigating Hearings & Common Motions • Your Divorce Case

    Effortlessly Navigate the Motions Maze in Your Divorce Case In this sixth installment of our series, Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into the world of motions in divorce proceedings. Building upon the foundation laid in Motions Part I, we explore the differences between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, discuss various types of motions you may encounter, and provide valuable insights to help you navigate this crucial aspect of your divorce case. Seth and Pete break down the key distinctions between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, highlighting the importance of understanding what to expect in each type of hearing. They also discuss common motions, such as temporary orders, restraining orders, and motions to compel, providing real-world examples and practical advice for listeners facing these challenges in their own divorce cases. Questions we answer in this episode: What's the difference between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings?Do I need to testify at every hearing during my divorce?What are some common motions filed in divorce cases?Key Takeaways: Always be prepared to answer questions in court, even if it's a non-evidentiary hearing.Evidentiary hearings are like mini-trials, with witnesses, evidence, and cross-examination.Familiarize yourself with the types of motions that may arise in your divorce case.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce. Seth and Pete's insights and practical advice will help you understand the motions process, prepare for hearings, and make informed decisions throughout your case. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or in the thick of it, this episode will provide the knowledge and confidence you need to move forward. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Motions Part II (01:11) - Catch-Up on Last Week (02:41) - Motions Quiz (12:18) - Evidentiary vs. Non-Evidentiary Hearings (25:40) - What to Expect as the Client (28:07) - When They’re Filed Against Me (34:54) - Next Week: Court Personnel

    37 min
  8. Motion Mastery Part I • Your Divorce Case

    8 OCT

    Motion Mastery Part I • Your Divorce Case

    In part 5 of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete dive deep into the world of motions in divorce law. They explore what motions are, why they matter, and how the right move can dramatically impact your case. Seth and Pete break down the different types of motions, from motions to compel and for contempt, to emergency motions and motions for temporary relief. They discuss the requirements and strategies for each, sharing insider tips on how to effectively present your case to the judge in the limited time you have. Questions we answer in this episode: What are motions and why are they important in divorce cases?How do I get a hearing scheduled for my motion?What types of motions are common in divorce proceedings?Key Takeaways: Motions are requests for the court to take action before the case is finalizedThoroughly prepare for your motion hearing as time with the judge is limitedUnderstand the specific requirements and procedures for different types of motionsWhether you're seeking temporary alimony, exclusive use of the marital home, or enforcement of a prior court order, this episode arms you with the knowledge to confidently navigate the maze of motions in divorce court. Seth and Pete's expert insights and practical advice make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce litigation. Links & Notes Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Motions (02:13) - What Are They? (11:17) - Emergency Motions (13:03) - Motion for Temporary Relief (17:39) - Scheduling a Hearing (26:00) - After the Ruling (33:58) - Next Week: Motions Part II (35:03) - Wrap Up

    37 min
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Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.

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