Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy

Phil McAuliffe
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy

Come and connect over coffee with Phil McAuliffe (The Loneliness Guy) and his guests and explore not only how loneliness and social disconnection affects gay and queer men, but how to become more authentically connected.

  1. Ep. 74 - Join us for something great

    16/02/2024

    Ep. 74 - Join us for something great

    This is a bittersweet episode, because – well – after 74 episodes over almost 4 years and with thousands of listens in dozens of countries, this is the final episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy. But don’t despair! The podcast, the blog and the products and services for you as the beautiful gay man you are who’s worthy of feeling love and belonging just as you are still available to support you. My team and I have started something wonderful called HUMANS:Connecting, and we’d like to invite you to be a part of it. See you at Humans:Connecting: https://www.humansconnecting.org Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1SOwppkqaeM Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    13 min
  2. Ep. 73 - Are you starving while reading a cookbook? - Connection Espresso

    01/09/2023

    Ep. 73 - Are you starving while reading a cookbook? - Connection Espresso

    I have a question to ask you: Are you doing the equivalent of starving while reading a cookbook? In other words, are you starving for connection while gathering information about the importance of connection? Perhaps it’s time to stop gathering information and get living. Come and get that quick shot of connection goodness in this end-of-season episode and let’s get cooking. Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Get my help through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/hZRtK8mLLSY Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    9 min
  3. Ep. 72 - Being gay in East Africa - a coffee with Paul Canary Kanyamu

    25/08/2023

    Ep. 72 - Being gay in East Africa - a coffee with Paul Canary Kanyamu

    Like you, I’ve been watching in horror at the brutality of the laws that have been introduced in Uganda in recent months and seeing how these laws have affected the lives of our global LGBTIQA+ family in East Africa. I want to give a voice to those whose lives have been turned upside down by these laws and whose very lives are threatened by living outside of the closet. Come and join me and the amazing Paul Canary Kanyamu on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s listen to how life is for our family in East Africa and what asks us to do to support our LGBTIQA+ family there. About Paul Canary Kanyamu: Paul Canary Kanyamu was born in western Uganda and he’s 26 years old. Paul’s a Humanitarian Volunteer and Human Rights Defender. He fights for and champions the rights of LGBTIQA+ persons including Queer Refugees. Paul is very active on LinkedIn and that’s how we found each other. He highlighted the struggles of living in Kakuma Refugee Camp and brought attention to the dangers to life experienced daily. He was resettled in Canada under that country’s refugee resettlement program in April 2023. Paul now wishes to study and gain his Master’s Degree in Social Work, International Development, and Disaster Management and continues to advocate for the welfare and wellbeing of LGBTIQA+ people in East Africa. Follow Paul LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-canary-kanyamu Instagram: @murungicanary Support Paul’s work in East Africa: https://gofund.me/f25d9055 Uganda's Anti-Homosexuality Act 2023 (with links to original text): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-Homosexuality_Act,_2023 Have Phil’s guidance through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Crisis support services: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/crisis Join us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nvR9xvuKZNA Contact Phil: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    1h 20m
  4. Ep. 71 - Slow down, you're moving too fast - Connection Espresso

    18/08/2023

    Ep. 71 - Slow down, you're moving too fast - Connection Espresso

    Like you, I often see those photos and videos in my social feeds of elderly people holding up signs with advice and wisdom they’d give to their younger selves. ‘Slow down’ and ‘take time to be with people’ are two common pieces of advice. Let’s see what we can learn from their insights before we’re the ones dispensing advice in the same way. Come and get that quick shot of connection goodness and let’s get groovy. Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Get my help through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/R3iEJAGsui0 Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    11 min
  5. Ep. 70 - Loneliness, connection & polyamory - a coffee with Kevin Martin

    11/08/2023

    Ep. 70 - Loneliness, connection & polyamory - a coffee with Kevin Martin

    One of the great things about being gay and queer is that we can question and challenge the norms of the heterosexual society. This includes how we choose to define our relationships. This is true of exploring open relationships and polamory. Non-standard relationships can be a source of connection and loneliness. While exciting, it can feel like we’re not sure how to navigate relationships that serve us and help us feel connected. Come and join me and Kevin Martin on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s get you some tools to navigate discussions about open relationships and polyamory. About Kevin Martin: Kevin is a gay farmer from northwest Ohio who's ventured into the world of psychology to live out his personal mission of helping people around the world know that they are loved. He's a mental health coach who operates his own private practice called SafeHaus Counseling & Coaching. Through his practice, he helps LGBTQ+ folx, particularly gay men, explore their mental well-being through such topics as sexual empowerment, open relationships and consensual non-monogamy, and radical self-care. He lives in Hawai’i and enjoys CrossFit, indoor rock climbing, and spending deep quality time with his friends and family. Follow Kevin Website: https://www.safehauscounseling.com Instagram: @safehauscounseling Have Phil’s guidance through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Crisis support services: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/crisis Join us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/LmYPjEWrzCQ Contact Phil: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    1h 21m
  6. Ep. 69 - How to use social media when lonely - Connection Espresso

    04/08/2023

    Ep. 69 - How to use social media when lonely - Connection Espresso

    Is social media good for you or bad for you? Well, it depends. I’ve got some insights in this episode that will help you use social media in a way that supports you when you next experience loneliness. Join me now for this Connection Espresso episode and let’s talk about how you can use social media to get the connection you need rather than it using you. Come and get that quick shot of connection goodness. Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Get my help through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/xzBOkK0aG1I Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    9 min
  7. Ep. 68 - Loneliness & taking unsafe risks - a coffee with Dr Shayna Skakoon-Sparling

    28/07/2023

    Ep. 68 - Loneliness & taking unsafe risks - a coffee with Dr Shayna Skakoon-Sparling

    Loneliness drives your behaviours. We can want sexual connection so much that loneliness can make you and I take potentially unsafe risks in the hope to feel any kind of connection. You and I – indeed, the community – need to have a conversation about this so we live our lives as gay and queer men without putting ourselves at risk of HIV and STIs. I’ve found the perfect guest to join us for this episode. Dr Shayna Skakoon-Sparling works within our community to help you make better decisions for your sexual health and wellbeing. Come and join me and Dr Shayna now on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s get you making less risky decisions when you’re feeling lonely. Grab a coffee in your favourite mug and join us now. About Dr Shayna Skakoon-Sparling: Professionally, Dr Shayna (she/her/elle) is an applied social psychologist and an incoming assistant professor in the psychology department at the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada. Her research explores the importance of social connection and how seeking social connection and intimacy can impact sexual health decision making among sexual minority men. For example, some of her work has examined how having sources of social support can buffer guys against the negative impact of sexual minority stress. Some of her other work looks at how trying to cope with loneliness can lead folks to agree to sex that isn't particularly fulfilling and that can put their health at risk – she’s currently working on a set of SSHRC-funded studies to explore this more deeply and to look at ways to help guys cope more effectively with loneliness. FOLLOW DR SHAYNA LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shayna-skakoon-sparling-71282587 Twitter: @Shaynagram Links: Join us on YouTube: https://youtu.be/oZ3sgfiuhvE Have Phil’s guidance through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Contact Phil: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    1h 22m
  8. Ep. 67 - Can you handle the truth? - Connection Espresso

    21/07/2023

    Ep. 67 - Can you handle the truth? - Connection Espresso

    Honesty. Honestly, honesty is a word and concept that I hear from you so often. You say you want honesty, but then hide from it when you receive it. When it comes to your loneliness and social relationships, can you handle the truth? Join me now for this Connection Espresso episode and let’s talk about honesty and how it’s time to get real and honest. Come and get that quick shot of connection goodness. Website: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com Get my help through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices Buy me a coffee to say thanks for the episode: https://bit.ly/3nDMrZm Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe Join me on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NCT7t8flU_o Contact me: connect@thelonelinessguy.com Sounds recorded with permission at Prefab Eatery, Wellington: www.pre-fab.co.nz

    7 min
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