121 - SEX: Do you have a spontaneous or a responsive / reactive sex drive? + What cues turn you on? Ft. Dr Massimo Fontana

Ever wondered why you’re not ready for sex at the drop of a hat? Or, maybe you are, and your partner isn’t? Enter stage right: the two types of sex drives that you NEED to learn about: the responsive and the spontaneous. 

In today’s episode, Louise and clinical sexologist Dr. Massimo Fontana explore the responsive vs. spontaneous sex drives and why often people think they have mismatched libidos but actually they have different sex drive types and styles - and why understanding the difference is SO important for for understanding our sexual pleasure and relationships.

The pair discuss:

❤️‍🔥 Two types of sex drives: spontaneous and responsive

❤️‍ What triggers each sex drive into action

❤️‍🔥 How to identify which sex drive type you have

❤️‍🔥 How to communicate this to your partner to modify and optimize your intimate moments

❤️‍🔥 How to not ‘over categorize’ yourself and learn to flow between the two

The pair also discuss the different types of ‘cues’ that turn different people on and how visual, auditory and kinesthetic cues are *probably* another part of our sex lives that they never taught us about at school.

In this episode, we unravel the dynamics of sex drives, helping you enhance your intimate connections with yourself and any lucky person in your life. 

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