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    • 4.7 • 311 Ratings

Radically empathic advice. Produced by WBUR.

    Rewind: Pet Dilemmas

    Rewind: Pet Dilemmas

    This episode was originally published on August 26th, 2017.

    In this episode, adventures in animal ownership! The Sugars, along with Julie Barton — author of the memoir Dog Medicine: How My Dog Saved Me From Myself — answer letters about pet dilemmas and the ways these creatures affect human relationships.

    • 46 min
    Redux: The Great Reckoning

    Redux: The Great Reckoning

    This episode was originally published on July 28th, 2018.

    This was a live show recorded in Portland, Oregon. Special guests Mitchell S. Jackson and Rebecca Skloot share the stage with the Sugars to tell stories of personal reckoning and answer letters from the audience.

    • 51 min
    Redux: There's Just One Thing

    Redux: There's Just One Thing

    This episode was originally released on May 26, 2018.

    In this "rapid fire" episode, the Sugars read letters from four women who each have one not-so-tiny reservation about the men they’re dating. A Black woman is dating a white man who is unwilling to talk about race issues, claiming that she’s “too sensitive.” Another woman’s boyfriend, a Christian, is having second thoughts about dating her because she’s an atheist. The Sugars tackle these issues and more, and weigh in on which can be ironed out and which should be deal breakers.

    • 40 min
    Episodes We Love: 'Head Or The Heart' Update

    Episodes We Love: 'Head Or The Heart' Update

    This episode was originally published on August 12th, 2016.

    The Sugars hear the latest from "Head or the Heart" -- a woman who'd fallen head over heels for a man with a troubled childhood. Everything seemed perfect, and yet, she couldn't help but wonder if the traumas of her love's past would surface at some point in their relationship.

    "Head or the Heart" became the first letter-writer ever to join the Sugars on the show. The Sugars asked her to write to them in six months to let them know how -- and if -- things were going with her boyfriend. Nine months letter, she sent an update.

    So, are they still together? Have any of his past traumas manifested in their relationship? The Sugars find out.

    • 33 min
    Redux: Body Weight and Romance

    Redux: Body Weight and Romance

    This episode was originally released on August 19, 2017.

    It’s never easy to talk to our romantic partners about their bodies, especially when it’s about weight. The Sugars, along with writer Ashley C. Ford, answer letters from people questioning their relationships because of major changes in their partners’ bodies.

    • 34 min
    Dear Sugars Presents: "Beyond All Repair", a new murder mystery podcast

    Dear Sugars Presents: "Beyond All Repair", a new murder mystery podcast

    Introducing Beyond All Repair, a new WBUR podcast from producer emeritus of Dear Sugars, Amory Sivertson. This series tells the story of a murder, but also the woman who was accused of that murder, Sophia.

    Sophia was newly married and 6 months pregnant when she was charged with murdering her mother-in-law in 2002. She gave birth to a son in jail that she hasn’t seen since, and for the last three years, she’s been telling me her story in hopes of getting justice for her mother-in-law, of having a chance of meeting her son, and of finally being believed.

    This is the first chapter of Beyond All Repair. Episode 2 is already waiting for you. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.

    • 25 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
311 Ratings

311 Ratings

louloullala ,

Love love love

So late to the party with this but I absolutely love it, wish I’d found it years ago

RosemaryFI ,


Just listened to the recent episode on friendship and loved it until the last question about friends with different political views. The female host validated ending friendships because of different political views. I was shocked. I grew up in Northern Ireland during the troubles. My generation (well most of it) was taught to be friends across the divides. This was so much work by community groups, religious groups, leaders with the vision to meet people as people. Americans please stop the division and labelling

nch_1991 ,


This is my all time favourite podcast. I’ve listened to every episode multiple times and it always soothes me and gives me something to think about.

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