LEARNING TO SAY NO

Welcome back to Tough Love Energy! After a short summer hiatus, I’m thrilled to be back with another episode for you.
This week, I’m exploring a topic that I’m asked about a lot. It’s around boundaries – and specifically, how to say NO. It’s only a little word – but for many of us, we often find ourselves saying ‘yes’ when we really mean to say ‘NO’. So, my hope for all of us is that we make this the year that we all finally learn when and how to say no.
Our lives have been turned upside down over the last 14 months and we’ve had to sacrifice many of the things that we were accustomed to doing. For a long time, social occasions – and the decisions that come around those - were just not an option and we got really used to that. We adapted with relative ease to not having to make those decisions or worry about doing it all and keeping those around us happy.
What I’m hearing now in my community, amongst my clients and in my social circles, is a fair amount of nervousness as the invitations begin to pour in for social gatherings, reunions, and other occasions.
Whilst of course it’s wonderful to be able to see our loved ones, families, and friends again, what we must be mindful of is not falling back into our old patterns and habits of saying ‘yes’ when we really mean ‘no’. If we take anything away from the events of the last year, it’s the real importance of honouring our needs and taking good care of ourselves.
In this episode, I share with you some ideas and ways that you can say no, gracefully. I also re-affirm the reasons why this is so important, and how saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’ links to our ‘people-pleasing’ tendencies. I hope it will help you to find the confidence to step back into your power and get better at saying ‘NO’ when you mean to.
And if this topic resonated with you, I invite you to take my free People-Pleasing quiz. It will help you identify which type of people-pleaser you are, and therefore how people-pleasing tendencies may be showing up for you. Once you’ve completed the quiz, sign up to receive your results guide, which has a number of practices to help you begin to shift old patterns and behaviours around people-pleasing. Take the quix here: www.niamhennis.com/quiz
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Until next time, Niamh x