118 episodes

Katie and Helen answer your questions about narcissism, parentification and emotional abuse. Empowering growth through psychoeducation, breaking the cycle one podcast at a time.

In Sight - Exposing Narcissism Katie McKenna & Helen Villiers

    • Education
    • 4.8 • 148 Ratings

Katie and Helen answer your questions about narcissism, parentification and emotional abuse. Empowering growth through psychoeducation, breaking the cycle one podcast at a time.

    117. How Do I Deal With The Anger?

    117. How Do I Deal With The Anger?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can't help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger.
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 18 min
    116. Why Can’t I Cry?

    116. Why Can’t I Cry?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can’t be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she’s questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken’?
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 4 min
    115. Should I Confront Her?

    115. Should I Confront Her?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    Our listener this week recalls a family conversation about her grandmother’s toxic behaviour. However, her mother is oblivious to how she displayed the same behaviour, and the lasting effects it had on our listener. Despite her mother’s difficult relationship with alcohol and emotional manipulation, our listener doesn’t want to rock the boat by saying how she’s feeling and asks, can there ever be healing in confrontation?
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 9 min
    114. Can I Protect Myself & Keep My Siblings?

    114. Can I Protect Myself & Keep My Siblings?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it?
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 8 min
    113. Mother in Law + Trauma = Smothering. What Do I Do?

    113. Mother in Law + Trauma = Smothering. What Do I Do?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone that doesn't believe they deserve protecting?
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 6 min
    112. Is My Mother Toxic or Am I Being Unfair?

    112. Is My Mother Toxic or Am I Being Unfair?

    You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)
    TW: Pregnancy loss
    Despite a history of cold, abusive behaviour from her mother leading to a trail of broken family bonds, our listener is haunted by the notion that 'life is short'. She is questioning whether she was right to go low contact, or will she regret her decision in the future?
    Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.
    We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.
    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here!
    Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

    • 1 hr 8 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
148 Ratings

148 Ratings

Franny1912 ,

Discovered in November

Discovered this podcast in November 23 and been devouring the content. I hear so much of my own life being read out in the letters which is sad and empowering at the same time. Sad for younger me and me now but so empowered by what is shared by listeners and Helen and Katie. Thank you for all the work you do

Reflectivelearning ,

Not sure…

I want to start by saying that I’ve found the discussions around narcissistic behaviour hugely insightful and helpful. Recognising behaviour that I’ve experienced in my own life and having it validated is hugely valuable and I’m grateful for that.

The more episodes I listen to, however, the more uncomfortable I feel about the ethics of the way these deeply personal topics are being handled. I wonder what impact the aggressive language, the outrage, the intuitive leaps (and anger from one presenter in particular) have on the readers brave enough to send in their letters? In all honesty it just feels deeply unprofessional and at odds with how I would expect mental health professionals to show up.
I’m left with a really uncomfortable taste in my mouth which is such a shame as I do think that the topic is SO important. I personally just need it handling in a more sensitive, calm and empathetic way.

Kboy no.1 ,

Psychotherapists?

If this podcast were two friends having a discussion then it would be interesting but these presenters say they are psychotherapists. Their conversations are full of projection, blame, unreflective judgement, fawning (in one direction only) and unsubstantiated statements. One presenter is so emotionally brittle and self-justifying that I’d worry about them working with vulnerable clients.

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