Thoughts and insights from Janny Juddly, "The Therapist in my Pocket", a psychotherapist with a mind body spirit perspective, a noticer and rememberer, on a spiritual journey.
HOW TO SIT WITH DIFFICULT FEELINGS
We don't like feelings very much, do we? At least, not the unpleasan ones. We fight and resist them, or try to deny or numbing them.
And that puts us into a state of high alert, takes us into fight or flight, and creates the sensations and reactions in our body we have learned to dread.
However, there's another way. One that's more helpful, and so much healthier.
We can learn to sit with our feelings until they teach us what we need to understand. We can be with them until their message and wisdom makes itself known.
This takes us through a process that will ultimately bring a sense of peace and calm, the ability to reflect and find both clarity and a way forward.
CAN YOU TELL ME HOW TO FORGIVE?
Pain hurts. Especially inflicted on us by those we believe should love us. How do you forgive that? The pain is endless.
Not forgiving also hurts. The pain of holding on to hurt is also endless . And has nowhere to go.
Janny answers a question about how to forgive a mother who abandoned her child. In the process, she shares insights into forgiveness in general - what it is, what it isn't , how the process works, and why it's worth it.
HOW CAN I STOP BEING SO ANGRY ABOUT THE PAST?
How can we let things go? Move on? When we find our self replaying what happened in our head, over and over again? When the sense of injustice and unfairness wakes us up in the night and gives us no peace?
How do we stop telling the same old story, and find a way to tell a new one?
How do we reclaim our life? Break free?
Janny shares some wisdom and insights about what we need to change if we are to heal.
HOW CAN I STOP THE CHATTER IN MY HEAD?
So many of us struggle to manage the thoughts that rush through our head, frenetically pulling us first in one direction, then another. Never allowing us to switch off, to be still, to find some peace.
We try to control our thoughts by going into battle with them. Telling them they're silly, ridiculous. Reprimanding ourselves for indulging such thoughts, reproaching ourselves for thinking such crazy things, knowing they're exaggerated or not true.
Where are we going wrong? Janny uses the analogy of a kite to help us to understand how to see it all quite differently, to fly the kite rather than being the kite. And shows us how this can give us the peace we're searching for.
"WHY DO I KEEP LOSING PEOPLE?"
How bewildering it is when we gradually realise that others don't want to spend time with us. The hurt, the shame, the resentment feels so hard. Why, we ask our self? What am I doing wrong? I do everything I can to fit in, and to make people like me. How come I'm not good enough?
In this episode of "DEAR THERAPIST IN MY POCKET", Janny responds with some thoughts that might seem surprising, and offers some possibilities of how to do it differently.
"I AM A BOTTOMLESS PIT. IS THERE ANY HOPE FOR SOMEONE LIKE ME?"
The pain of feeling empty, endlessly needy, and that there is no hope or help is one of the bleakest human experiences any of us can have.
Nothing reaches us, and we find we are unable to hold on to anything good. What we have lived and felt has become who we believe ourself to be, and we have no idea how to break out of the cycle of the story we believe defines us.
In this episode of "DEAR THERAPIST IN MY POCKET" Janny responds to a message from someone for whom this is a daily reality, and helps to unpick the assumptions and perceptions that keep us locked into the belief that nothing can ever change.