The Family Matters Podcast Emily Sanchez

When I saw this quote from Eckhart Tolle that I opened the podcast with, it really hit me. It hit me so hard that it inspired thoughts to spew out of me that I felt would be very pertinent to so many.

It is so important to remember that we are not our emotions. I realized that a couple of weeks ago, I fell prey to personifying the way I was feeling. I began to identify with it. I felt like it was part of me. I had forgotten that feelings come and go. Just because I was sad, did not mean I was a sad person and it would last forever.

I see this all of the time with my clients. Narrative therapy is what I will often use to try to objectify and separate those feelings from the identity. When a person says they are anxious or have anxiety, it has become part of their identity. It has become something that has been felt so consistently that it is now a part of the subconscious and is a way of life. Narrative therapy suggests to separate these entities by objectifying them. For example, labeling feelings of anxiety and painting them into a character such as "the old lady" or whatever. That way, you can ask when they remember "the old lady" first showing up. Can you see how this can begin to separate emotions from idenity?

Join me in this podcast and listen to some practical examples of how this occurs and 3 steps that will help to combat identifying so much with our emotions.

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We know how important it is to teach emotional regulation to our children. But parents, you better know how to emotionally regulate before you can teach it to your own children. Remember, so much more is caught than taught in our parenting world.

Here is the link I promised to follow along with:
https://cls.unc.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/3019/2016/06/Chain-Analysis-Worksheet.pdf

I have decided to do a series on emotional regulation in DBT. Dialectical Behavior Therapy is a great therapeutic modality because it presents so many skills that can actually be learned.

To further sharpen your emotional regulation strategies, find a DBT trained therapist in your area or contact me for more info.

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In this video, I address 2 common pieces of advice that I think do not really apply to modern relationships anymore. Are you truly working on yourself? Or are you more focused on what your partner is doing or who your potential partner is? Watch now.

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This podcast is for the self-help junkie. I have definitely been there. That hit of dopamine every time you hear the latest and greatest strategy is exquisite. So, you seek more and more and more. You've got the latest audiobook and 3 others queued and ready to go. You've got your ticket to a couple of retreats, and your nose in a few self-help books.

But, is there true growth? Is there improvement? Is all the "trying" getting you somewhere.

We are so good at being human doings instead of human beings. Listen in and see what might be missing.

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In this episode, I share 10 ways family and friends can support their loved ones in crisis. We may not be supporting our people the way they truly need it, so listen in and let me know if you would add anything to the list. I would love to hear from you.

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In this podcast I talk about how difficult communication is between anyone who seems to be the cause of pain for you. What would happen if you were asked to give a speech and while you were walking up about to deliver it, you totally stubbed your toe? Would you be able to talk right away? Would you have the senses to say everything as planned? Not at all...you'd definitely need some time to compose yourself.

Same goes for our emotional pain. We just may not have the words in the moment when we are "triggered" into feeling a lot of pain. So, I offer some helpful strategies around this, so you can communicate better with your coparent, spouse, child, coworker...or WHOMEVER!

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