Self Belief Unsquashed Trisha Lewis

How come you blindly accept 'expert' opinion and even default thinking about yourself! Common sense ideas and public opinion can be too readily accepted by us all.  Time for some healthy skepticism - time to get curious and examine!
Who better to help us with this process than the philosoper Socrates? Whilst he might be long gone - his ideas remain as relevant as ever.
There is a method of examining known as 'the Socratic Method of Thinking' - and it is clearly laid out in  the book I reference - 
'The Consolations of Philosophy' by Alain de Botton.
 
You will be taken through the 6 steps of this method - with an everday example.  You can then place any example of an 'unquestioned truth' into the 'curiosity' machine - and see what comes out!
 
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Next time you fall into a self-doubt spiral full of negative self-talk getting you nowhere - try this! Use the 'principled negotiation' technique espoused by Fisher and Ury (expert negotiators) - to negotiate with your emotions and inner chat!
In this episode I explore two of the ingredients of 'principled negotiation' - Separate the people from the problem - and - Focus on interests not positions - and flip them to a negotiation with your own thoughts/emotions/assumptions and baggage!
Practical tool - we explore when, why and how to use this technique - on your self!
I wrap up with some powerful quotes from two classic books I've had on my shelf since uni days - referenced below.
Pull yourself up before you fall down the self doubt spiral and achieve - nothing!
PDF transcript on the episode page at trishalewis.com
REFERENCES in this episode:
Getting to Yes - Roger Fisher and William Ury 
Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goleman 
Borkovec - research on 'worry'
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Why do humans struggle with doing nothing on their own! Busy doing nothing - not as meaningless as it sounds. Here's how to get good at being bored and alone - a total reframe that will have you feeling meaningful.
References:
Research - Timothy Wilson 'How Much do we not like being bored.'
Sunday Neurosis theory - Sander Ferenczi 
Book - Flow - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi  
 
PDF transcript on my website - trishalewis.com
YouTube - video of this episode

Is your fear of being judged as cocky, arrogant or a 'know it all' holding you back from simply showing up with confidence?  You are not alone!
If you have ever been in the company of a 'cocky' type - you will have thought - 'I don't ever want to come across like that'.
The fear is so real that you second guess anything that means you show confidence!  Like sharing opinions, giving good presentations, sharing your achievements etc.
In this podcast we explore the fear, the mis-associations and the mix that you need to build your confidence - without fear of being judged as cocky!
I share a really useful graphic from the book 'How to be Confident' by James Smith  - and a wonderful quote by Maria Popova (The Marginalian).
We explore humility, competence and debunk some myths!
 
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If you have ever burst out into tears, 'lost it' or gone into a mild form of panic attack - and regretted that public display of intense emotion - this is for you! If you are human - this is for you.
In this episode I invite my imaginary guest (a new feature) - Daniel Goleman (author of Emotional Intelligence) - to share insights on a powerful part of our brain - the 'amygdala'.  
We also look at the part played by your 'triggers' - your very individual 'stuff' - including your learning style.
As always - a story or two to illustrate, the forensics to better understand - and some action steps to try out.
Nothing wrong with intense emotions - all part of our survival instincts - but...
they sometimes kick off without a obvious reason ... and potentially creating awkward or 'squashing' after effects.
I start this episode with a quote from a great little book called 'Anxiety is Really Strange' by Steve Haines
There will be a video of this episode on my YouTube channel - and transcript available in the shownotes on my website.
 

Are you falling into self-doubt spirals by beating yourself up when things don't go perfectly? You are human - it will happen.
In this episode I explore the connection between self-esteem, self-doubt and this 'fighting with yourself' thing!
You will go through some forensics with me - including unwrapping a real example to illustrate.
It all starts with you doing a powerful visualisation involving a robot!
 
I quote from the classic book on Self-esteem -
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden.
I also refer you to other episodes - especially this one:
155 - Manage your negative self talk with this mind trick.
 
For more on 'unsquashing' your self belief - check out my TEDx talk 'The Self Squashing Prophecy' and my book 'The Mystery of the Squashed Self'.
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