In these episodes we dive deep into the challenging aspects of life, in the pursuit of making some sense of this thing we call life. Our concept is to have an open discussion with the public that offers a variety of viewpoints and approaches to any topic we delve into. It also allows us to hear questions and experiences from every day walk of life from our listeners and we then share them live on the show. On occasion we will have guests with specific knowledge join in by invitation to widen our topics. You will also find that we will treat more metaphysical and esoteric subjects as well as the ones more towards mindfulness.
We will also try to bridge the polarisation that exists in society today. The only way that we see this being done is by being role models and showing up in public as such. You can expect to hear guests of opposing views having civil and compassionate discord during these episodes. This is what we feel is needed at every level of society today and less of the fear mongering that goes on.
We strive to help our listeners to live their lives as the optimal versions of themselves, that is our calling and our mission. Enjoy! To learn more about us please visit https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/
Balancing Male and Female Energies
You may reach Barbie Layton on www.youareamazing.online.
Our societies, communities, religions, etc. dictate to us the ideal versions of men and women. However, these ideals are tens of thousands of years old. They did fulfil a purpose when we were in groups and communities where assigning roles based on physical and mental abilities by gender made sense. Today we have evolved past that, but as always society is slow to catch up. We are still instilled with the programming that men should not show emotions or cry and women should not be tough and strong. It is very confusing because women complain when men aren't being sensitive enough or men complain when women are too sensitive, yet when a man is sensitive, then he's not tough enough, and when a woman is tough, she is too "manly".
It is equally important to recognise the roles we have chosen to play in our lifetimes, man or woman, depending on your choice, but equally important to recognise that we hold both female and male energy within ourselves. Finding the balance within that is authentically you is the goal. When we show up authentically and compassionately in balance we have an equal playing field to communicate and have civil discourse. Showing up and daring to be vulnerable is key.
When each and every one of us show up balanced we can start to overhaul this Alpha Type Hierarchical society that we have set up. When we are in balance the old system is not going to resonate any longer and the new paradigm will emerge organically and naturally without conflict. Without that internal balance we are going to continue to experience the immune response from within the system that resist change. It is an organismic response because our societies are not set up to deal well with change, it abhors it.
Trying to force our way through change without the energetic balance is causing men to not be male and women not to be feminine. This in of itself is causing the system to have an immune response, because it is out of whack. These imbalances also cause us to become confused, one manifestation is the seeking of release of sexual energies without connections, just fumbling in the dark for the solution. We also tend to seek out a partner to balance these energies, not realising they are intrinsic. This is always going to cause a relationship to be out of balance and doomed to fail. We must do our internal work in order to realise our optimal self that then resonates with another person in perfect balance and you then are in perfect harmony. We have this idea that our relationships are based on these static roles and the success metric is quantitative, not qualitative. Would it not be far better to be in balance and share a truly magical time with someone for the time that it is meant for you to be together and then realise, because you are in tune, if there is nothing further to be gained from the relationship? Do we rush in to these relationships, not only to satisfy and fill a void in our own balance, but also because of biological constraints and societal expectations? When a man thinks "I don't want to be retired by the time my child goes to college", does he then consider the fact that a) retirement is a choice, b) by the time he reaches "retirement age", he is likely to live another 20 years, by today's linear statistics, but is likely, with the technological advances, to be an additional 40 or 50 years. From the female perspective we come up against a more tangible challenge that a woman's fertility comes to an end at around 45 years of age. However, the ability to freeze eggs is very much accessible to the public, however at a significant expense. If we change our mindset and thinking and consider the tools and technologies available to us we can disallow current societal and physical challenges from achieving freedom to balance our energies.
Bringing these types of fre
Pivot Within Your Passion to Find Your True Passion - Halima Ferreira
Halima Ferreira was born in Africa and went to culinary school in South Africa. She calls the UK home and a base for now. She started her career working on cruise ships before starting to work more as a private chef. She has built up a very strong demand on her services among the super wealthy and royalty around the world.
To an outsider the idea of working in exotic locations in beautiful palaces and being jetted around in private jet planes, and who could blame us. However, the pressures and levels of stress are immense and they are constant.
Halima found herself struggling with her health, with some very critical culminations, but as with so many others, doctors did not have the answers that resonated with her. Her relationship with food lead her intuitively to look at her diet as the first root of her problems. This took her on a journey of discover of food as medicine.
Halima, today, is developing concepts to teach people about food as medicine, teaching and coaching others to balance their diets as a lifestyle rather than intermittent harsh dieting. She runs bespoke online workshops/cook along, she develops recipes, setting up meal box deliveries, and anything else that will help spread her teachings about how we can relate to food in a healthy way and use food as a catalyst for healing.
Halima's website is https://www.tailoredtaste.co.uk/ (https://www.tailoredtaste.co.uk/) where you can reach her to find out more about how she can help you.
Neither Halima or I, Christopher, are medical professionals, so please do not construe any of the material in this podcast as being medical advice. Always consult your healthcare professional for advice relating to your health.
"Be grateful for what you already have while you pursue your goals. If you aren't grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?" Roy T. Bennett "The Light in the Heart"Gratitude practice is in vogue at the moment, and rightly so, and it isn't a day too late. As a foundation for this interest are a plethora of studies that have been to ascertain the effect of practicing gratitude. When we receive a compliment, a gift or something else we can feel grateful for it, but it wears off quickly from your conscious mind, but it remains far longer in your "system". Studies show (here's an example: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_gratitude_changes_you_and_your_brain) that continuously practicing gratitude:
Unshackles you from toxic emotions
You find it to be an intrinsic experience without the need for external validation or contribution
It requires patience
It has a lasting effect
I suggest to all my clients that when you wake up in the morning, take five or ten minutes just sitting on the side of your bed with your feet in the ground, and your hands on your chest, breathe and remind yourself of anything in your life you are grateful for. This has two purposes; you interrupt the Cortisol Awakening Response (CAR), that sets off just before you wake up, and is in actual fact what makes you wake up and can "jump out of bed". Cortisol is part of the physical stress response and has been shown to be very detrimental to our health when we produce too much off it. And it shifts your mind from your daily stresses (that are amplified by the CAR) to what you have that you can be grateful for. That is, your stress base level for the day is far lower than if you just "jump out of bed" or, even worse, check your phone immediately when you wake up (phones are banned from bedrooms in my house).
Gratitude as a practice is a form of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) joined with visualisation therapy. It also engages your RAS (Reticular Activation System), the system that makes you notice things that you have put in your mind, e.g. if you have your eyes on a new car, you will suddenly start seeing that car everywhere, because you have told you subconscious that you are interested in it. So, by pure logic, we can see that the practice of gratitude helps shift your attention and mindset to finding what is positive in your life, and you embody it as you now start to evoke the emotion of gratitude.
"Those that don't believe in magic will never experience it" Roal DahlOnce you are a month or so into practicing gratitude, then magic starts to happen, well perhaps not quite magic, but it certainly feels like it. Most people employ journaling as their primary technique, but there are also:
If we constantly remind ourselves of all the things we have that we can be grateful for, we BECOME grateful and life becomes a constant gift that we love receiving. It is a process of building up the picture with all your internal senses with the support of your external ones to evoke the feeling of gratitude within you to create a fully integrated embodiment of gratitude within you.
I am grateful for you joining me on this journey, and I hope you enjoy the podcast.
"Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule" - Siddhartha Gautama "The Dhammapada: The Sayings of the Buddha"Forgiveness is both a process and a result. However, forgiveness as a result is binary in nature; either you have forgiven or you have not. Our relationship with forgiveness and our misconceptions of it comes from our societal programming. We are raised to tell people we perpetrate against that we are sorry. What does that actually mean? We aren't told to ask for forgiveness, we are not taught how to repent nor are we taught how to forgive others, whether they seek our forgiveness or not. It is not very surprising though as most of our moral standards come from our religious backgrounds. Religions take on forgiveness is contradictory at best. The bible tells us on one hand "an eye for an eye" and on the other "to turn our other cheek". The Quran is no better; here we are told that we shan't harm the creations of God, but on the other hand wage war against those that offend him. Our prison system also focuses on punishment not on reform, which is because society does not understand what it means to forgive. We are brought up to be vengeful. No wonder we are confused as to what forgiveness is and how to do it.
I would therefore venture to state that our confusion relating to forgiveness is based in ancestral and cultural karma that we keep perpetuating. This confusion causes us to, unnecessarily, hold on to bitterness, anger, hurt, guilt, shame, etc. We have a need to show others how they've hurt us by holding on to it, thus only perpetuating our own hurt. It is hard for us to let go. Often times we have left a part of ourselves in the experience that we find hard to forgive. We essentially use our conscious mind as an anchor to hold on to these hurts in the illusion that by committing them to our memories we will be protected from similar situations in the future. This is, however, a contradiction because whatever you hold on to will resonate from you and thus will attract those experiences again.
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." - Mahatma GandhiForgiveness does take strength, strength to, with your awareness, overcome and supersede your conscious and subconscious minds. The good news, being strong or weak is a matter of choice, one may just not have awoken to it yet.
The processLeading up to forgiveness, we develop and embody compassion and acceptance towards ourselves, our experiences and those that are participants in our experiences. Along that path we also work on our boundaries. However, once you have love and compassion for yourself and others and accept your experiences and the path of others, boundaries tend come quite naturally as you have a greater understanding of yourself and your journey. Forgiveness as a process often requires a great deal of patience. Some experiences click in no time and you immediately see the gifts from it and can forgive, other experiences you need to revisit and view from every conceivable perspective to gain the understanding to achieve forgiveness. These perspectives do include your own choices and involvement in the experience. It is critically important that you remember to forgive yourself, even if you were the one who was the victim in the experience. You are the constant through every experience in your life and your choices lead up to and through every experience, so you must include yourself in the forgiveness process, for whatever choices and actions you took or, for that matter, didn't take.
You may at this point have gathered that forgiveness is not an external process needing the involvement of anybody else but you. Forgiveness is an internal process. However, you may choose to involve others in the process, as in expressing your forgiveness or inviting someone to forgiving you, but if you do
The Conscious Liquor Baron - Hamish Gordon from 'The Driver's Tipple'
The Driver's Tipple (https://www.thedriverstipple.com/ (https://www.thedriverstipple.com/)), on the surface, is a gin replacement product without the alcohol. However, once you scratch the surface, there is a deep and profound tapestry of philosophy and ethos that emanates from the founder and owner; Hamish Gordon.
Like many other successful brands, The Driver's Tipple comes off the back of the creator having a real problem. Hamish had quit alcohol, not on account of addiction, but because he didn't resonate with it anymore. His challenge was the dilemma of not drinking alcohol, but having a rich social life all around the veritable British institution that is the pub. I can attest to that, after a while, drinking tea, water and sugary drinks gets very boring, so faced with a problem, the solution was "easy" when the culprit was identified; alcohol. How do you get alcohol out of the Gin and Tonic? Along came "The Driver's Tipple"; a gin without alcohol.
For Hamish personally there of course was a journey to socially thrive in that traditionally alcohol centric environment. For others who cannot visualise themselves in the persona that a transformed person has taken on, will often react negatively; they simply can't resonate. On these types of journeys people will challenge you, judge you and doubt you, it is par for the game. When we show up as role models and act with conviction, confidence and strong boundaries, we needn't convince others of our virtues, they bear witness to it and want to mimic it and will seek you out to learn from you. Your antagonists become your fiercest supporters.
The challenge to get your product, that is the antithesis of the pub culture in the eyes of the patrons and proprietors alike, in to the hands of the pub clientele. The attitude that people go to the pub to drink alcohol was Hamish's first challenge. Here's where the first level of education of the market place had to take place. Hamish is not the first pioneer to have to battle through this challenge, but every disruptor has to tackle it from a new perspective. The way Hamish overcame it was very pragmatic; challenging the idea that everybody in the pub drinks alcohol. There are those that are pregnant, designated drivers, non-drinker, etc. that are not being catered to and highlighting this to the business owners opened up a new opportunity to get patrons into their establishments as well as giving retail outlets a wider selection of products as well as a new cadre of clients. The pub owner could now also claim a moral high ground supporting healthy choices and to lessening the drunk driving curve.
Competition in a virgin market is good, because the first step is to educate the consumer and create a demand. If you are a sole player in that space and there is no pre-existing demand you have to invest heavily in that process before you can even start to promote what makes your product special. Introduce several players and the burden is spread across several players and you each benefit from the others' efforts. For many the idea that others selling similar products to you are your collaborators and not competitors is difficult to overcome, but it is a necessity in this type of a market. I would argue that any company in any market can use this mindset as part of their success story, but that will have to be the topic for another time.
If you've read my article "https://www.thealchemyexperience.co.uk/upp-unique-passion-proposition/ (UPP - Unique Passion Proposition)", you will understand part of the recipe of the success of this product. Hamish did not create this product out a perspective of making big bucks, it was to solve a problem that he was passionate about. This approach permeates the whole project and energises it to a point where people want to be part of the journey and to support it. However, to use this approach you have to em
"Once you can accept the Universe as matter expanding into nothing, wearing stripes with plaid comes easy" Albert EinsteinWhen we perceive life as happening to us and viewing our experiences as extrinsic to our internal processes, we are challenged to accept life. Acceptance is not about giving up or accepting "your place". It's about accepting that you are where you are and that you have a choice about where you are going. However, that choice might instead be about your attitude to your current situation. Acceptance is being ok what is and what has been, but striving for optimising one's own experiences.
Acceptance is a state of flow and grace. You embody a permission state that allows you accept the opportunities in life, whether they are to teach you a, at the time, harsh lesson or something fully in alignment with your path towards the optimal version of yourself. The universe is beautifully complex, and there is no way for our conscious minds to fathom it all. When we try to figure it out and force our will through we exert control, which works in opposition to acceptance. Imagine the river stopping because of some logs and rocks saying, " I am not flowing any further until I break through these obstacles". It doesn't do that, it flows with those obstacles accepting them as part of the river. When we are sleep walking through life we tend to involve ourselves in the paths of others either to rescue them or because they are doing something "to" us. The paths of others are outside the boundaries of our control and the best we can do is to accept the choice of others and know we can only control our thoughts, words and actions, and accept our responsibility for them.
This is a "permission" state of mind where you allow yourself to flow through life, with all its ups and downs, knowing that you have your grand purpose and all your experiences bring your closer to it. When we accept we are in a receiving state as opposed to when we try to control everything or trying to retrieve our dues.
When we shift focus inwards and understand what is in our purview of control, what is our path, purpose and mission, understand our own super powers, understanding where we come from and allowing ourselves to feel; we will start to accept. When we understand our position in cosmos, we accept our role as the drop in the sea, without every one of us it would not be a sea.
Acceptance is a paradox; when you accept life for what it is and bring in how you want to feel in life, there will be less for you to simply accept and more to enjoy.