247. Can we be friends with our ex?

The Psychology of your 20s

A lot of us try to convince ourselves we can be friends with our ex in the immediate aftermath of a breakup, but is that necesserily the best idea? In 2022 I did an episode with my ex-boyfriend talking about how a friendship was totally possible, well since then it is obvious to say that I have changed my mind, and in this episode I give my reasons, including: 

  • Why we (mistakedly) try to stay friends with our exes 
  • The types of relationships where this feels possible 
  • The consequences 
  • How it impacts our new relationships, self esteem, and ability to find closure
  • How to be friends with an ex if you MUST BE 
  • Essential boundaries for a friendship with your ex

This episode is the only time I have redone/revised an episode so we hope you enjoy. 

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