FCP E139. Reclaiming Intimacy During the Fertility Journey with Vanessa and Xander Marin

In this episode of the Fertility Confidence Podcast, I sit down with intimacy experts Vanessa and Xander Marin to talk about the unique challenges that couples face with intimacy while navigating fertility struggles. Vanessa and Xander are known for their candid advice and practical strategies, and together, we explore ways to help you and your partner reconnect and overcome the pressures that fertility can put on your relationship.

Here’s what we cover:

• The “Fairy Tale” expectations around sex and how they create unnecessary stress

• Why sex can start to feel like just another “checkbox” and how to bring back the connection

• How to break out of routine and rediscover passion during your fertility journey

• Understanding responsive vs. spontaneous desire so each of you can feel supported

• Tools and rituals to help maintain intimacy and reduce performance pressure

• Tips for managing the “mental load” of trying to conceive and communicating about it

Resources We Mentioned:

• Vanessa and Xander’s Foreplay Guides and Courses – These are fantastic, shame-free resources for bringing more excitement and understanding to your sex life

• Follow Vanessa and Xander on Instagram for candid, relatable content: @vanessaandxander

If you’re ready to embrace a stronger connection and create a partnership-focused approach to intimacy, tune in and discover new ways to feel closer and more in sync with your partner. Don’t forget to subscribe for more expert insights to help you move forward on your fertility journey with confidence!