To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

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To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

Interviews, discussions and storytelling around sex, relationships, and intimacy: “The Sex-Ed Curriculum You Never Had.” A podcast for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with partners and children, “To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon” offers communication tools and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions.

  1. 14 MAY

    #68: Intro to Shadow Work and Deepest Fear Inventory

    In this solo episode, Ellen dives into the unconscious mind and explores how shadow work might be the missing link between what we say we want and what we actually attract. Drawing from Dr. Carolyn Elliott’s book Existential Kink, and referencing the well-known quote from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, this episode introduces listeners to a transformative practice: the Deepest Fear Inventory. Ellen shares personal reflections on craving change — a new house, job, or creative path — while grappling with internal resistance. Could there be a hidden part of us that’s turned on by rejection? Addicted to chaos? Secretly comforted by being overlooked? This episode challenges listeners to ask brave, unsettling questions and walks through a 5-step shadow work exercise to help uncover, name, and release deep fears that may be blocking personal growth. If you've ever felt stuck, cyclical, or frustrated by your own patterns, this one’s for you.   Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow For questions regarding this topic, or anything else, please email hello@ellenmelon.com

    31 min

  2. 24 MAR

    #67: Embracing Uncertainty & Overcoming Scarcity Mindset

    In this episode, I explore the deep discomfort of uncertainty, the scarcity mindset, and how they intertwine with faith, trust, and self-worth. Since going part-time at work and navigating new family responsibilities, I’ve struggled with the fear of the unknown. Inspired by a powerful quote from Conclave and insights from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist, I discuss how scarcity thinking shapes our daily lives and how we can shift towards sufficiency and trust. This episode includes reflections, guided meditation, and mantras to help reframe fear into faith and remind you that you are enough. Key Topics Covered: Navigating Uncertainty: How my transition to part-time work and increased family responsibilities heightened my fears. The way uncertainty can feel like a sneaky illusion of risk. Lessons from Hidden Brain's episode “Sitting with Uncertainty.”  Faith, Trust, and the Role of Doubt: A powerful quote from Conclave on the necessity of doubt in faith. Why certainty can be a dangerous mindset that limits growth and connection. Learning to trust in ourselves, each other, and the unknown. The Scarcity Mindset & Its Impact: How we wake up every day feeling like we don’t have enough—time, money, energy, success. The cultural obsession with scarcity and how it disconnects us from our truth. A reading from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist on shifting from scarcity to sufficiency. Practices for Overcoming Fear & Lack: Guided meditation to connect with inner abundance. Mantras to reinforce self-worth and sufficiency. A reminder that we were all born worthy, enough, and deserving of abundance. This episode is an invitation to let go of fear, reframe uncertainty, and remember that you are enough—exactly as you are. Hit subscribe to catch future episodes, and let’s reflect together! 🎙️✨ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow For questions regarding this topic, please email hello@ellenmelon.com

    30 min

  3. 15 FEB

    #66: Reflections & Lessons: Top 10 Things I Learned in 2024

    Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you. I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have stood out to you? Topics Covered: The growing pains of motherhood & step-parenting Navigating work relationships & personal growth The power of asking better questions The role of traditions in creating joy Showing up in relationships with more awareness Stick around for a tip on improving sleep, a powerful insight on breakups, and a challenge for you: What’s a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Hit subscribe to catch future episodes, and let’s reflect together! 🎙️✨   Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow For questions regarding this topic, please email hello@ellenmelon.com

    58 min

  4. 13/12/2023

    #65: How to talk about sex, before, during, and after pregnancy and post-partum - Relationship Series Part 3 with Mike and Ellen Melon

    Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like: The beginning of our sex life (early dating), first sexual experience First trimester sex Second/third trimester sex Post-partum sex life and how to navigate the emotional and physical mess Things that get in the way of our sex life For questions regarding this topic, please email hump@ellenmelon.com   Episodes I've called out in the episode: #60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike #19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements #14. How sex changes in partnerships for first time parents, genito-pelvic pain, and arousal disorder - with Dr. Natalie Rosen #9. Vaginal tearing during child labor: Sex, anatomy, fear, and lessons learned - with Alyssa #7. The messages I received about sex when I was young - Part 1 of 2 - with Ellen Melon ____________________ For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

    1h 5m

  5. 15/11/2023

    #64: How to talk about money, finances, spending habits - Relationship Series Part 2 with Mike and Ellen Melon

    Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances, spending habits Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like: Money mindset How money was discussed in our homes, upbringing Our challenges with talking about money As a woman, making my own money to be able to make empowered decisions Spending money seperately, together, and on large purchases     For questions regarding this topic, please email hump@ellenmelon.com ____________________ For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

    50 min

  6. 11/10/2023

    #63: How to talk about jealousy and envy - Relationship Series Part 1 with Mike and Ellen Melon

    Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: How to talk about envious and jealous feelings How to talk about money and finances Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need On taking things too personally Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time Day to day compromising Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings around envy and jealousy. We'll discuss: dating and setting the expectation that it’s okay to talk about previous relationships within boundaries the difference between jealousy and envy and personal examples of how to navigate those feeling in our relationship when it comes up how jealousy and envy feel in the body (body mapping excercise) so that we know when it comes up For questions regarding jealousy and envy in your life, please email questions to hump@ellenmelon.com ____________________ For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com

    47 min

  7. 26/10/2022

    #62. How to find a place for grief - with Coach Ellen Melon

    How do you integrate painful losses into your life while living? Grief is something we in the United States are known to do poorly. Perhaps it's the European decent that curved our culture's inability to feel feelings, perhaps it's industrial era-based where we learned that there's no time in our 40 hour work week to sit with grief, or perhaps our modern day fear machines (the media) have signaled to our bodies, 'It's not safe here - eject from your body.'   Whatever got us here, grief is an important part of our learning to be resilient and self-compassionate. And it's part of the human contract with life — As Dr Susan David says, “Discomfort is the price of admission to meaningful life.”   In this episode, I provide some education and philosophy on grief, the definitions, different types of grief. I also share about my year-long season of grief, showcasing how I found a place for grief, having successfully learned how to do it and how to integrate it. Grief is something we must all feel and move through in order to have the highest level of relationships with people we connect with and love. For, it is in our relationship to the self that we treat and extend to others.   For more info on the Remember Your Worth coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching   ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________

    54 min

  8. 28/09/2022

    #61. What does sex & relationship coaching look like - with former client Addison

    In this episode we get to hear from a former client on his experience working with a sex and relationship coach. Addison and I worked for 4 months together back in January, meeting every 2 weeks via Zoom. Listen to the challenges he overcame in this episode.  I’m a coach who specializes in working with people pleasers, codependents, and people with anxious-attachement styles.  If you are someone who identifies with those labels, some challenges you might be having are… Being angry and blamey — sick of playing the victim and ready to stop being so judgemental all the time Tired of seeking external validation, or tired of being a person who gets into relationships and says, “okay how can I mold myself so this person likes me” Fixated on every little thing — your perfectionism gets in the way of you living life because you’re so busy hustling for worthiness and what you produce How much control you need to have on everything, all the time and it’s ruining your life and relationships Tired of leaning on coping mechanisms- ways in which you numb out, like emotional eating, netflix bingeing, shopping, drugs and alcohol Tired of the harsh and critical voice inside your head that’s hating on you all the time If this sounds like you, it’s time to remember your worth. It’s time to cultivate happiness, authenticity, and self compassion, because my dear you have been performing what you think everyone else wants you to be and have lost your truest self and desires. Let’s call your authentic self back shall we? For more info on the Remember Your Worth coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching   ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com ____________________

    1h 9m
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Interviews, discussions and storytelling around sex, relationships, and intimacy: “The Sex-Ed Curriculum You Never Had.” A podcast for adults who need help building language in how they talk about sex with partners and children, “To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon” offers communication tools and new ideas around intimacy, anatomy, and relationships. Sex is something most of us do it yet find it difficult to talk about. Ellen Melon is enhancing the language and conversation around sex while giving communities the courage to speak up and ask questions.

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